I am in need of some serious advice. Okay im not for sure if alot of you know the situation im in right now. Im 27 weeks pregnant and the father of my baby has been nothing but hateful the whole time ive been pregnant saying that he does not want to be in his life and that he is going to sign away his parental rights. He is trying his best to talk me into putting my baby up for adoption. We actually went a couple of months ago to an adoption agency to talk about putting him up for adoption because he had me so brainwashed into beliving that adoption is for the best. Let me explain a little about myself...i currently do not have a job and i live at home with my parents and to him that is just the most horrible thing in the world not to mention though that he is 27 and still lives at home with his parents BUT hes in a local band so he doesnt think that counts lol he says since i still live at home that he doesnt want me to keep him because he will grow up completely screwed up in the head because of it. He also told me that he will kill himself if i decide to keep him because he could never live with that guilt of knowing he was being raised in a home where i still lived with my parents. Does all of this sound crazy to you or what? The guy is a major jerk. Just because at first i was talked into adoption and i was actually thinking about it for awhile he is now holding that over my head saying that i cannot change my mind and i cannot keep him because im starting to sound like a liar since i told him i would originally go thru with the adoption. Its getting to the point where ive just about gone off the deep end. He text messages me alot just to make sure im still going to go thru with the adoption and when i try to tell him that i just couldnt do that because i already have so much love for this child....thats when he starts getting pissed saying that im trying to mess his life up and that he hopes im happy. He does not care about my feelings any..all he cares about is making sure i put him up for adoption that way he doesnt have to pay child support. Im at the end of my rope because im constantly so stressed. He walks all over me and acts like i dont have a mind of my own. My cousin who lives in M.I. has a friend that wants to adopt a baby and ive already talked to her several times on the phone and i just dont think i can actually go thru with adoption. I need some serious advice about this situation because i feel like im going crazy over it.
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1/16/09 at 2:20pm