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post #1 of 18
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Yesterday I took DS (5.5 months) to the ped for his second HiB. We are doing selective/delayed. He had first HiB at 2 months. First DTaP at 4 months. second HiB yesterday, and planning on second DTap in a few weeks at 6 month WBV. Obviously we skipped the rota vax. And, I had told ped we were not doing Prevnar. At every visit so far the ped has engaged me in conversation about our vax choices. She has not been rude or condescending, just persistent about voicing her pro-vax opinions.

So yesterday, we got into the exam room pretty quickly, but then had to wait 30 minutes for ped to come in. DS was getting a little fussy as nursing and nap time was pretty much upon us. Then the dr. proceeded to engage me in a 30 minute (!!) conversation about vaccinating in general, and Prevnar specifically. The whole time, of course, I'm thinking about poor DS who has been stuck here waiting and waiting. He did eventually just fall asleep. Anyway, here are some highlights:

* She totally unleashed herself on Dr. Robert Sears (when I did my interview with her before DS was born, she said she didn't even know the Vaccine Book.). She said he was just riding on his father's coat tails, just using the Sears name. (nevermind that Dr. Sears DOES recommend Prevnar...). She said that the practice (3 docs and a nurse practitioner) went through the book section by section and found many scientific and ethical problems. "Hmmmm..." I thought to myself...."sounds a lot like that recent Offit article in Pediatrics..." She even mentioned some of the same things Offit did. She then went on to recommend the book that Offit has written about vaxes.

* When I said one reason for not doing Prevnar was that while Pc-related meningitis cases had decreased, overall meningitis rates had not, she said that was not true. Anyone got a quick link to that particular info so I can bring her a copy?

*She basically said that serotype replacement can happen, but that that was a dumb reason not to get a particular vax.

*She said since Prevnar has been introduced, she's seen a significant decrease in ear infections AND antibiotic-resistant ear infections. Didn't I read somewhere that Prevnar has been associated with only a slight decrease in ear infections? And an increase in antibiotic-resistant ear infections?

*She said non-vaxing has lead to outbreaks of measles and pertussis. Haven't pertussis rates increased since vaxing began? And aren't they cyclical? Quick! Need the link!

*Giving chicken pox and flu vaxes as examples, she said that every time a patient of hers who wasn't given these vaxes has come down with these illnesses, the parents regret not vaxing.

*I mentioned my disenchantment with the "well, your breastmilk has aluminum in it" argument. She said they use that argument because people seem to think that everything natural is good and toxin-free. I explained my reason for disenchantment - the difference between ingesting a small amount of aluminum that mostly passes right through the digestive system vs. injecting a large amount into the baby's muscle. I mentioned a study I read where rabbits were given what is presumed the safe max. amount of aluminum to give a baby in one day and that for 28 days the rabbits eliminated the aluminum at a constnat rate. The researchers concluded that this was good...the aluminum was being expelled consistently. I said what concerned me was that 1) the rabbits were euthanized before that rate ever dropped, so who knows how long some alum would have stayed in the body? 2) the alum was in the body for 28 days (!!) traveling from organ to organ, including the brain!!

*The doc called in reinforeements, so to speak. The doc who founded the practice was my ped when I was little and according to DS's ped, he is the most "laid back" about the vax thing. She said she and the nurse practitioner were pro-vax but willing to talk with parents. The brand new fresh-outta-school doc is PRO-VAX! and has taken on anti-vax arguments has his pet project. (This new doc, btw, almost did not let me bring DS for his post-birth checkup because I was GBS+ and he was born in a birth center that sends mommies and babies home after just 12 hours.) So, at one point our ped is in teh hall and I can hear her talking with young doc about my concerns. I couldn't really make out all they were saying, but he was definitely coaching her on things to say. Ultimately, she asked him to print some articles out for me. He asked me if I wanted ones for parents or the medical community and I said defiinitely medical. He gave me an Offit article that I thought I had already received, but it seems lightly different. Anyway, here's the kicker about young doc: he says to me, "I always tell parents that if your baby is breastfed, he's getting about a hundred thousands times the aluminum as are in the vaxes."

Ok, so I go home and immediately start researching and calculating and I came up with this. Assuming that DS gets 750ml breastmilk a day (the average according to kellymom) for the first 12 months, he would ingest 10950 micrograms aluminum in one year. If he got the recommended vaxes on the recommended schedule (I'm including Hep B, DTaP and Prevnar), he would get 2115 micrograms aluminum by 12 months. That's only 5 times more aluminum in the breastmilk, given VERY slowly (30 micrograms per day), and INGESTED!!! (sigh...) vs. much larger amounts given just a few times.

I'm trying to come up with an appropriate analogy here. If one were to assume that the body dealt with injected aluminum the same way it does with injected aluminum (which I know it doesn't, but for the sake of this analogy...)....it's like saying that since research indicates that drinking a moderate amount of red wine (a one or two drinks a day) is good for you, that it's also fine if you have about 15 of those drinks all at once.

Does that analogy work?

Now I need help with another analogy that takes into account the fact that vaxes are injected. What's a substance that wouldn't be too big a deal if we ingested a little every day, but would be terrible to inject in large amounts?

There are probably more delightful nuggets from this visit, but now my fingers are tired. Thank you for listening.
post #2 of 18
Some people take small doses of poison every day (willingly or not) and become immune (snake poison comes to mind) (or get sick very slowly) - if you injected all the poison at one time you would certainly die.

Anyway, I don't know where to start with the rest of your post and ds is trying to climb on me...You'll get good responses, I'm sure.
post #3 of 18
I really believe you are wasting your time. No matter what articles you reference, no matter how sound and logical your concerns are, your ped will come up with a way to discount it, make it wrong, whatever. If you really want to waste your breath go ahead. Personally I need my energy for more important things. I just say no thank you and move on no matter what they say to me.

with that said my understanding is that 99% of aluminum that is ingested is excreted within 24 hrs. only 50-70% of injected al is excreted within 24 hrs, so the rest circulates through the bloodsteam where it will travel to the brain and eventually (who knows how long it takes though) be excreted but this may take years...scientists don't know how long it takes and it is safe to assume this depends alot on the individual person/baby.
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post #5 of 18
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Originally Posted by Marnica View Post
"I really believe you are wasting your time."
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I just have to say I am disgusted at the peds for using Offit's articles. :
post #6 of 18
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Originally Posted by Marnica View Post
I really believe you are wasting your time. No matter what articles you reference, no matter how sound and logical your concerns are, your ped will come up with a way to discount it, make it wrong, whatever. If you really want to waste your breath go ahead. Personally I need my energy for more important things. I just say no thank you and move on no matter what they say to me.
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If you are able, I'd find a new doctor more in line with your philosophies. Seriously, as a mama of a young baby you DO need your energies for more important things. These people won't budge.
post #7 of 18
Bottom line, the Ped doesn't respect your right to choice and the final say in vax decisions. Period. It isn't going to change. She pretty much admitted that she just humors patients that don't follow the schedule while she attempts to coerce them.

At this point, I would just fine someone else.
post #8 of 18
Bah, all these supposed pro vax studies are funded by either drug companies, or university researchers who are funded by drug companies. I would take your LO elsewhere, may as well argue with a brick wall, those people think that they and Paul Offit are right, that's a big hurdle to jump!

Of course there was the study done by a Pitt researcher who induced autism in monkeys, but I'm sure the docs would never be able to believe that could ever ever happen, since the vaccines are so healthy and good for kids.
post #9 of 18
Don't bother trying to talk to your drs. They won't be convinced. If you are trying to educate yourself thats great but don't bother bringing in articles.

You can do a search for prevnar under news and find a bunch of articles cause a study was just released about it. Here Is one article about it. Yes, serotype replacement is a problem. Of course it talks about a new vaccine they are coming up with to target even more strains of the bacteria. The study did say that antibiotic resistant strains did increase. Saying its a dumb reason not to get a vax is not an argument.

I didn't vax, my kids got WC, I don't regret not having them vaxed. Its anecdotal not evidence. Who cares what other parents think? Its your kid!

whoopingcough.net has great info about wc. It is cyclical and its always around and it frequently misdiagnosed. They are a pro vax site so your dr shouldn't have a problem with it. He goes into how its cyclical and how drs can't diagnosis it properly.

http://www.wyeth.com/content/showlabeling.asp?id=134 is prevnar insert. On page 6 it says that children were at an increase risk for serotypes not found in prevnar than children who recieved the control vaccine. Recurrent ear infections were reduced only 9%.

Anyway, I hope that helps your research but I wouldn't really worry about what the dr thinks.
post #10 of 18
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When I was looking for a s/d-vax-friendly ped, there were only a few names that came up in my immediate area that are covered by our insurance (including this practice - specifically the doc who used to be my ped). This practice is really close to our house and our neighborhhod tends to be crunchy, so I know there are many like-minded folks who go there. I don't think I want to have a long drive to go to the ped, especially if DS is sick...nor do I wanna pay outta-pocket for his medical care...

sigh....

yes...i know it's probably a waste of my time...and they're wasting their time...

i just want them to know that i know they're full o' crap about some of this stuff.
post #11 of 18
Here are some inside vax links; there are links for all the VADs.

Hib

Pneumococcal

Meningococcal
post #12 of 18
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Originally Posted by not_telling View Post
When I was looking for a s/d-vax-friendly ped, there were only a few names that came up in my immediate area that are covered by our insurance (including this practice - specifically the doc who used to be my ped). This practice is really close to our house and our neighborhhod tends to be crunchy, so I know there are many like-minded folks who go there. I don't think I want to have a long drive to go to the ped, especially if DS is sick...nor do I wanna pay outta-pocket for his medical care...

sigh....

yes...i know it's probably a waste of my time...and they're wasting their time...

i just want them to know that i know they're full o' crap about some of this stuff.
As much as I relate to your desire to stick it to them, I just say as others have to stop this pointless war. LOL. If you want to continue using this practice, you should think about how you can put an end to their coercion.

Don't take the bait. If they want to talk about it again, look whomever in the eye next time and say with every ounce of confidence and control that you have, "We request these shots today, but nothing else is up for discussion." And then keep repeating like you are Obi-Wan using the old Jedi mindtrick, "Nothing else is up for discussion," no matter what else they wish to discuss. Say it slowly with a smile while making the fiercest eye contact you can manage.

It is not futile to argue with them. It is like an atheist and evangelist arguing about the supremacy of one specific faith.
post #13 of 18
"I really believe you are wasting your time. No matter what articles you reference, no matter how sound and logical your concerns are, your ped will come up with a way to discount it, make it wrong, whatever. If you really want to waste your breath go ahead. Personally I need my energy for more important things. I just say no thank you and move on no matter what they say to me."......................posted by Marnica





Dear Ladies,well said Marnica!
Yes so true
These MD's are brainwashed by big Pharma each vaccine makes "Them" loads of income,why on earth would they not vaccinate your baby?
Action speak louder than words; seek business elsewhere,the more parents do this the more loudy this speaks to the decline of Big Pharma!
Women are too passive,"oh just go along with it".........I say No!
I used to post here long ago on this discussion forum,I left because I was bombarded by angry pissed off mothers who totally believed in vaccines! As I let my oppinions out I opened Pandora's Box!
I see this has changed now,many many well educated mothers full of vaccine danger knowlege! Thank God!
My point: A surge of these strong women are pushing through,keep pushing ladies,your actions are powerfull,do not stay with ped. MD's if they dont comply with your wishes of NO vaccines.Take your business elsewhere.
Its worth it....................later on as the child grows up seeking counsil from a holistic health care practicioner (homeopath/Naturopath) will pay off= you will have much healtier children in the longrun.
Insurance or no insurance- the trade off;less visits to the hospital/less illnesses/healthy immune systems-its all worth it.
www.homeopathic.org
www.shirleys-wellness-cafe.com
500 pages of holistic heath info to keep your kids healthy.

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post #14 of 18
I can't believe you spent 30 minutes listening to them. I wouldn't bother trying to educate these people... they are high and mighty doctors, and you are a lowly non-doctor. They are right, and you are wrong.

I would be tempted to say this: "I am here for X vaccine. I will not be discussing my choices with you today. I will be leaving this office in five minutes whether or not you have given me child the requested vaccine."

And then stick to your guns.
post #15 of 18
I can understand wanting them to know they are FOS. I've been know to spin my wheels just for the enjoyment of it, on occasion. If that is what you want to do go for it. I'd have a back up chosen though for when the debate loses it's sparkle
post #16 of 18
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Originally Posted by xmasbaby7 View Post
As much as I relate to your desire to stick it to them, I just say as others have to stop this pointless war. LOL. If you want to continue using this practice, you should think about how you can put an end to their coercion.

Don't take the bait. If they want to talk about it again, look whomever in the eye next time and say with every ounce of confidence and control that you have, "We request these shots today, but nothing else is up for discussion." And then keep repeating like you are Obi-Wan using the old Jedi mindtrick, "Nothing else is up for discussion," no matter what else they wish to discuss. Say it slowly with a smile while making the fiercest eye contact you can manage.

It is not futile to argue with them. It is like an atheist and evangelist arguing about the supremacy of one specific faith.
does it work when we wave our hand like a jedi? Dh would love that trick! I was thinking of the religion analogy as well. I think for some of these drs it is their religion!

OP: I know you want to be taken seriously but they won't do that no matter what you show them. They can't even take each other seriously! They will bash any Dr. and discredit them if they don't agree. Just tell them you are still doing your research, thank them for their input but can we just get to the vaxes we are here for today?
post #17 of 18
You don't have to justify your right not to vax your kid, to a pediatrician.


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Originally Posted by not_telling View Post
When I was looking for a s/d-vax-friendly ped, there were only a few names that came up in my immediate area that are covered by our insurance (including this practice - specifically the doc who used to be my ped). This practice is really close to our house and our neighborhhod tends to be crunchy, so I know there are many like-minded folks who go there. I don't think I want to have a long drive to go to the ped, especially if DS is sick...nor do I wanna pay outta-pocket for his medical care...
Find a family practitioner. Your kid doesn't have to see a ped.
post #18 of 18
I understand you wanting to keep your doc close to home, but is it worth it? Waiting for 30 min...then DEBATING (even if it's friendly- it's stressfull) in front of baby for ANOTHER 30 min...waiting to get the shots...getting out of the office. It just seems to me a serious hassle.

I was like you, would take in papers-studies-research and try to PROVE my point of view. I felt like if I could explain to these people WHY I think/feel the way I do then they will respect my choice. WRONG. It just ended up being that much MORE of a fight. I gave up on doc's.

I now have a ped that I love. She is respectful of my parenting decisions -EBF, co-sleeping, intact penis, homeschool, cloth diaper, no vax, gentle discipline. She SUPPORTS me. She may not agree with ALL that I say/think/do/believe but she respects me as the parent. She has never argued with me and she has never made me feel that I have to justify my reasons for xyz. I am comfortable with her, and know that my children are safe in her office, with her taking care of them.

I hope you find a new doctor for your kiddo. A PED isn't required! Osteopath's (DO) are AWESOME with kids and adjusted vax schedule! Family Practicioners are also great because they can treat EVERYONE in the family- they get a feel for how you live and what you stand for. Peace and Respect are awesome and powerful things to have in regards to your doctors. I hope you find those things.
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