Please help! Dr. said we may have to circ?! - Page 2

[Yulia_R]

Originally Posted by latinalonestar

NOOOOOOOO!!!!! She could not be more wrong!!!!!

Please do yourself and your son a huge favor and never discuss this with a pedi again and LEAVE IT ALONE. As long as he can urinate, his penis is doing what it is supposed to do.

Circumcision will cause the penis to burry further and possibly cause it to never emerge. This is b/c the penis needs the skin to have room to grow.

The only reason to circ would ever be medically necessary would be in the case of FROSTBITE, GANGRENE, MALIGNANCY, or SERIOUS TRAUMA. All very rare.

Here are some resources for you to explore:
http://www.nocirc.org/publish/pamphlet7.html
http://www.mothering.com/articles/ne...uncircson.html

This is very common for young boys and removing his foreskin will not only make matters worse, but it will cause him a great deal of harm.
You can even contact DOC and NOCIRC if you need further reassurance.

PLEASE, PLEASE, PLEASE never allow anyone to manipulate the foreskin again. My first pedi did what yours did to my son and it caused him to have premature separation when he was 10 months old. That was very painful for him for about 4 days.

My last piece of advice, you need to get a new pedi. Any pedi that could recommend this for your son is severely misinformed. We have a thread of foreskin friendly pedis. What area are you in? In the future, at EVERY single appointment please tell all pediatricians, "Please don't touch my son's penis".

Remember, your son can urinate, that is all his penis needs to do right now. You will see that he will grow out of this without a problem.

I 100% agree. Circ will make it worse, not better.

[Quirky]

There's just not a problem here. Your son can pee just fine, and there's just no health issue here that requires a trip to the doctor.

I think this is a case of too much concern. The problem isn't with your son, it's with you and your dh flipping out about a non-issue. So you take your ds to the doctor, and she (being totally ignorant about the normal penis) suggests something to do, i.e. the only thing most American doctors know to do to an intact penis, i.e. cut something off.

And so she refers you to another doctor, who will almost assuredly not be informed about the normal penis, and will likely suggest cutting something up as well.

Don't go to any more doctors. Don't do anything. IF, when your son is fully grown, there is still an issue with his penis, THEN he can go to the doctor and have it fixed. But surgery on a baby or a child who has not yet fully grown and had sex hormones cause further genital development is sheer and simple insanity.

Just enjoy your baby and quit worrying! He doesn't have any penis problems that need to be fixed now!

[Quickbeam]

I agree with Quirky and I also think it helps to ask yourself why amputation is being recommended when your son functions just fine and is not even in any discomfort.

I know pediatricians can get under the skin of parents. Hang in there

[mama to 2 girls]

Originally Posted by Quickbeam

I agree with Quirky and I also think it helps to ask yourself why amputation is being recommended when your son functions just fine and is not even in any discomfort.

I know pediatricians can get under the skin of parents. Hang in there

Thanks for your kind comment. I really appreciate it.

Sorry if it seemed like I over reacted!!! But I don't have time to sit here and research every possible "problem" there could be with my ds. I don't think I over reacted at all....that's why I was asking if anyone knew about it. Because just like pp's have said they didn't know much about it either...just like anything else that may happen to your child...you don't know about some things that are not common until it happens to your child. Yes I was concerned but I wasn't saying that just because the dr. "said so" I was going to do it. I was simply asking for info. on what she said he "has". YES, it functions and YES I know that is all it needs to do right now but when I have a concerned dh as well, we only want to do what is right for our ds.

I simply took him to the dr. because of insurance purposes and it was something that was in the back of my mind. I DID tell her not to retract him but I guess in HER mind she didn't because she didn't FULLY retract him. IF I do take him into see a urologist it will be simply for a second opinion, she did happen to mention a certain dr. in the group who was very laid back and she said he would truly tell me to let him be if it was something that he would just grow out of.

Sorry I guess my op did seem a little alarming but at the time I was alarmed because like I said before I didn't know anything about webbed penis and everything I did read seemed to mention surgery, not circ but surgery.

[latinalonestar]

Originally Posted by mama to 2 girls

Sorry I guess my op did seem a little alarming but at the time I was alarmed because like I said before I didn't know anything about webbed penis and everything I did read seemed to mention surgery, not circ but surgery.

This is b/c doctors do have to do corrective surgery on circumcised boys because the circ made it impossible for the penis to re-emerge and develop normally. Most boys in our nation are circed so it would make sense that when you research it you are encountering information pertaining to circumcised boys not intact boys. Most doctors have only dealt with circumcised boys so they don't realize that in normal intact boys the corrective surgery is not necessary. Buried and webbed penis is NOT pathological in intact boys, it is a normal variation. It becomes pathological when a baby is circumcised b/c the circ complicates it, thus further surgery is necessary. Make sense?

[Ron_Low]

I would make a point to tell the pediatrician she will not be seeing the child again due to mishanding his genitals and incompetent advice about circumcision.

See a urologist only if there is a urological problem. He's urinating, no fever, no irritability, no odd discharge? Keep him home. If you do see a urologist, ask if the doctor has a foreskin before booking the appointment. Sorry, female urologists, but until my kid can communicate extremely well, I need someone who understands his equipment inside out.

[eepster]

Does your DS actually have webbed penis?

I suspect that she may have misdiagnosed it. What you described just sounds like a minor case of buried penis. Could she have seen the frenulumn when she retracted and be unfamiliar with normal male anatomy.

Lift your DS's penis up towards his belly, and look underneath. Is there a bridge of skin along the raphe line extending from halfway or further up the shaft connecting to his scrotum? It will look kind of like the skin that tethers your hand and thumb together. If you don't see it, she misdiagnosed.

[Bm31]

Originally Posted by mama to 2 girls

I don't want to take him to the urologist! I am afraid to let anyone go near his penis again! My dh is the type of person who wants to know everything now! So I guess I will just have to try and talk him into waiting a while before we take him to a urologist.

Then please don't take him to one. A urologist will only find/create a problem that doesn't exist. I got taken to one over some simple adhesions when I was six, got re-circ'd and ended up up with a trapped/buried penis. That's the last thing you want to saddle your son with. Please tell your dh that nothing good can come from meddling with your son's penis; there is nothing he needs to "know" right now other than your son has all the parts and equipment nature gave him. You do not want to start throwing them away. Everyone here is VERY right on this one.

Oh, and whether she is being pushy on this or not, it sounds like this doctor is setting up other little boys for a lot of unnecessary harm.

My best wishes to you and your son.

[claddaghmom]

Originally Posted by eepster

Does your DS actually have webbed penis?

I suspect that she may have misdiagnosed it. What you described just sounds like a minor case of buried penis. Could she have seen the frenulumn when she retracted and be unfamiliar with normal male anatomy.

Lift your DS's penis up towards his belly, and look underneath. Is there a bridge of skin along the raphe line extending from halfway or further up the shaft connecting to his scrotum? It will look kind of like the skin that tethers your hand and thumb together. If you don't see it, she misdiagnosed.

Amen

[LavenderMae]

I would really wait and see at this point. And I also wonder if he truly has a webbed penis , it didn't sound like it from your discription on your other post but I do not know a whole lot about it (done some brief reading about it).
I'm afraid if you go to an urologist you will be scared into doing something that is not only unnecessary but damaging to your son. If you could find a truly intact friendly/informed urologist then maybe but certianly it isn't something that needs to be done anytime soon.