Would you send your girls? - Page 3

[The4OfUs]

Originally Posted by mrsjtc

Well to keep you all updated on my little drama ...

We're (the mom and I) getting together twice this week with our kids and talked quite a bit this morning at church. She also asked me twice if I ever got a break and she didn't know how I did it. So I do think everything is innocent but I'm glad that I went with my gut. I want my girls to feel comfortable whenever I leave them somewhere and this week will help with that.

[Freefromitall]

Originally Posted by mrsjtc

I'm so glad you all agree. Her words in the email were "can I borrow your girls for a playdate? You could drop them off after ___(her child's) nap time. What do you think?" So it did sound like she didn't want me there and I thought that was odd.

I wondered if she thought I needed a break and just didn't know how to say it nicely? She hasn't known anyone else who homeschools or is with their kids 24/7, so maybe she thought I am overwhelmed. ?? I was a little caught off guard.

That's my thought, honestly. Not that she has something devious planned, but that she is probably like me, and gets a little twitchy at the prospect of 24/7 w/no real break in sight lol
So, she thought she'd offer you a mini-break.

I'd go for the first couple of times, and then if you are comfortable, maybe you guys can switch off. You have her girls over for a couple hours one week, she has yours over for a couple hours the next. Anyway, JAT.
I'd def. go the first few times with the girls though.

[runnerbrit]

If you are not comfortable yet then I would do a group, you included, playdate. That being said both my boys have been going to friend's houses for a few hours for years (w/out me).... Their friends also come to our house.

Intial playdates were always at a public place like a park where the kids could all play and I could get to know the other parent. First playdate, I would drop-off but go inside for the first 1/2 hour or so and talk with the other parent. We also limited first few play dates to about 2 hours.

I did not think her email sounded pushy at all. It sounded very light hearted. I am sure when she made the offer she was thinking that you could use the time to catch-up on whatever you are working on; house cleaning, errands...
It is very common in our social network that if one of us needs to get something done we will call another parent and arrange a playdate for the kids.

[lilyka]

it sounds like things are working out well. That is the same arrangements I would have made. so bring a coffee cake and enjoy the break (after all you will be at someone elses house, nothing calling to you to be done, kids entertained by the newness of it all . . . ).