One thing, well, several now that 'm really analyzing it, that really stood out that de Becker didn't touch on, was that while Jesse's mom was uncomfortable with the guy, 1.) she moved away from them both, 2.) she did not direct Jesse away from the man, possibly cueing him to her uncomfortableness w/ the guy, 3.) she did not keep her son in her sight.
I really liked the questions de Becker leads the mom whose afraid of her daughter getting kidnaaped, thru, pg. 56. I think I might seriously do those with my mom, even tho' those years where I was in college and traveling a long ways are way past.
I would like to say sometimes that wild brain doesn't kick all the way in when you're tired. The other night I was out late-ish 8pm w/my daughter at a wrap class. I left letting her walk and hold my hand (wiggly kid/me tired/icy sidewalks). The car was halfway down a half-lit street. I was looking around, and saw a man cutting across the school parking lot. I thought of the book and the guy following Kate, and didn't act in a hurry, but watched. I was trying to think ahead, but seriously, my brain was saying I had to get her in her carseat so she'd be safe. Later, I realized, I could have held her in my lap and driven even a couple blocks away from the guy to buckle her in, or closed the door behind me, she's in the middle in the backseat and locked the doors. Duh.
my brain just focused on getting her in the carseat. And she wasn't cooperative. Fortunately, the guy went on down the block, but I watched to make sure he didn't double back.