Weekly chat: Jan. 17-23 - Page 5

[Orionbelt]

Amanda: I'm just going to reiterate what everyone else here said. YOU ARE NOT A HORRIBLE MOTHER! I too dropped my first out of carelessness and I felt awful but she is a happy, healthy, thriving three year old at the moment and the awful feeling of guilt I had over it is long gone as will yours. It does happen to the best of us.

I'm cutting this short tonight...it was a rough bedtime with the kids tonight. Charlotte is not adjusting well to our new bedtime routine and she was super fussy tonight and I was so frustrated. I think I'm going to have a bath and go to bed.

[janasmama]

Amanda...I know it feels horrible, I'm sorry that happened. If it's any consolation, that probably won't be the last time you hurt your little sweetie. Or her dad for that matter.

I can recall a few time I have unintentionally hurt my DD has she has grown through the years. And DH has done it a couple of times also. It is hard for me to not get mad at him and blame him for hurting my babies but I've learned to take it a bit easier.

If your DH isn't okay with it he will learn to be but don't take it to heart if he is does get mad...he just doesn't know where to put his emotions. But probably since he wasn't witness to it he will handle it better.

Okay, I'll stop blabbing.

AAM: We reserved a camping space for June in a beautiful state park in the Rogue Valley. We're renting a yurt. I know, luxury camping. It's only $30 a night though and it is so hard to sleep side-lying on an air mattress with a nursing babe. Plus, if we did tent camp we'd have to buy a nice air mattress anyway which would be at least $100 so it's actually cheaper to use the yurt.

We still have to cook outside but there is electricity and a lock on the door to keep the boogey-man out!

I'm so excited! With Jaden, our first, we went camping for 7 days when she was 6 months old and crawling. It was at the beach which was perfect. We even continued to CD b/c the campground had laundry facilities.

This time we're only going for the weekend but I can't wait since Annie loves to do so much and the older kids will get to fish for the first time.

[mommysaurus]

Amanda, you are not a horrible mother!! Here I am, a mother of eight, and I was just thinking the other day when G will either roll or fall of the bed....lol! yeah, all mine have at some point or another. As said earlier..."babies bounce"...lol!

Teething: I"ve used the Boiron teething stuff and it works well. I've also used Hyland's teething tablets but since they are milk based I'll have to find the gel. I think it's Herbs for kids that makes Gum-o-mile, which has clove oil in it, clove numbs. I used to use it too! Guess I better get all this stuff for when G really starts to teeth.

[Amber Lion]

^MY Rogue Valley? (I assume there may be others, but figured I'd ask!)

[janasmama]

Originally Posted by Amber Lion

^MY Rogue Valley? (I assume there may be others, but figured I'd ask!)

Yes, your Rogue Valley.

Why? You wanna hook up?

I can't remember the name of the park right now. Hopefully Dh doesn't lose the email with our reservation otherwise we'll have no idea where we are going.

[TaraRae82]

Originally Posted by sonshine_rae

Tara I'm RIGHT THERE with ya.... Samuel is screaming out of control in my arms right now.... so demanding.... and I can't even figure out what he wants/needs... Ughhhhhh

Ally wasn't screaming at least. Just VERY needy. And she's got a new sound when she talks and it sounds like fussing...it's really annoying. We ran an errand and went to the chiro to get out of the house after I posted. She slept through it all and then she took her long nap when we got home. She slept for 3.5 hours this afternoon! I laid down with her and got in a couple hours too. I think she was just in a bad mood today because Daddy woke her up when he kissed her goodbye this morning and she didn't go back to sleep. That was 2 hours before she normally gets up...not good! Anyway, I hope you had a better afternoon Rae! I keep reminding myself that the good days are what gets us through the crappy ones so everyday can't be crappy.

Originally Posted by freedak

Okay, I'm totally AAM at this moment, as I can tell you ladies this but no one IRL. I dropped Ella today. I was so stupid! I should have waited for Chris to come home, but I decided to try a back carry with my MT. I thought I had her secure, so I took my hand off...she just slid down my back and landed with a thump on the floor. She was INCHES away from hitting her head on the corner of the dresser! At least I was kneeling instead of standing up, so she didn't have too far to fall....BUT I'M A HORRIBLE MOTHER! She started crying, of course, and I picked her up immediately (looking back, I probably shouldn't have in case of back injury). She cried for about 2 or 3 minutes and then stopped...just sniffling. Every time I tried to put her down for about the next 10 minutes, though, she started this really sad little cry. She's fine now...smiling, acting totally normal, but I still feel awful. I definitely can't tell Chris...which means I can't tell anyone IRL. He would totally freak out and make me feel even worse. I love him to death and he loves me, but he loves Ella completely and is super overprotective. I know I would be berated, and he probably wouldn't let me hold her if he could help it. This happened about 45 minutes ago, and I'm still crying. How could I be so careless?!?!

Oh mama, I'm so sorry! I can't imagine how awful I'd feel! We have 2 significant flights of stairs in our home and they curve so I'm always so scared I'll fall with her because I've fallen several times on my own (including when I was 4wks pg). It's such a scary thought! I hope you're feeling better this evening. You're not a bad Mom at all! You're a great Mom and Ella knows that. She knows you didn't drop her on purpose and you immediately comforted her so she knows you'll always be there if she falls. I agree every Mom has an accident like this at some point. I dropped my youngest sis when she was an infant and felt AWFUL. I was 9 or 10 and really confident with babies. You're a great Mom!!!!

Originally Posted by Amber Lion

Amanda!!! You are NOT a horrible mother!! I keep waiting for the day when Addie gets hurt by me, I've had SO many close calls I know it's coming...

On Teething irritability/pain: Just want to throw out what seems to be working really well for Addie! Boiron makes a homeopathic liquid called Camilia (a combo of three different homeopathics) for teething relief. They are little single dose capsules and the past few days whenever I've thought Addie's been upset due to her gums I've given her one... and within minutes if not immediately she's been calm and smiling again!

Jenn, hope today goes better for you and Hazel!

That's so sweet Carrie, happy one year of life Nora!!

Tara and Rae - , I've been there, hope your little loves give you a good break in a bit!

AAM: For some reason I'm really feeling optimistic and productive today. I've gone on a 40 minute hike, watched one of my homework videos, got some of my laundry going and am about to go read some more for school. Or play with Addie on the floor some if she doesn't settle back into sleep (she's stirring in the ERGO right now).

Can I just say I LOVE my town?! It's amazing how much I love everything about it and am so happy we moved here. I never want to live anywhere else again! Now, I just wish more of my friends would move here or I could figure out how to make new ones...

Update on the little baby: She's home!! : Still supplementing with formula a little, but they are hopeful to get bfing back on track. I know all your thoughts really helped, so thanks!

Congrats on a productive day!! I love when I feel that good. Hopefully it'll carry over for a couple more days!

AAM: I've got this stupid cough that I'm assuming is left over from when I was sick last week. But, it didn't come until I lost my voice 3 days after I was better from being sick. So annoying. I got adjusted today so hopefully that'll help my body heal from whatever this crap is. DH was pretty sick yesterday too. I hope he's feeling better tonight. This is really selfish but I need him in the evenings! I NEED my workouts! I find myself with MUCH less patience with Ally when I haven't had workouts and I'm there now. It's been a week since I worked out and I'm really feeling irritable. I know it's because I don't get time to myself outside of my workouts so those are crucial.

Have a great evening ladies! Hopefully I'll be complaining about being sore from my workout when I log in tomorrow!

[Changed]

Reading the replies I thought- I've never dropped one of my babies! I haven't... but I have wacked each one of their little heads on doorframes and car doors and I forgot DS in the car and went into bath and body works when he was 6 weeks old. ( and scratched them countless times with my nails, dropped remotes on them, sat them in too warm bath water.... ) Thank god they love us anyway.

[mamanurse]

Originally Posted by Baby_Cakes

:One year ago today, Nora Caitlyn entered our lives!:

Today is my BFP Anniversary! A year ago today, I learned my life would never be the same -- that I was to be a mama. I never could have imagined how full my heart would feel. I am so thankful to have my little girl, and so thankful to have had all of you to share my experiences with. Happy One Year of Life, Nora Caitlyn!

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Originally Posted by freedak

Okay, I'm totally AAM at this moment, as I can tell you ladies this but no one IRL. I dropped Ella today. I was so stupid! I should have waited for Chris to come home, but I decided to try a back carry with my MT. I thought I had her secure, so I took my hand off...she just slid down my back and landed with a thump on the floor. She was INCHES away from hitting her head on the corner of the dresser! At least I was kneeling instead of standing up, so she didn't have too far to fall....BUT I'M A HORRIBLE MOTHER! She started crying, of course, and I picked her up immediately (looking back, I probably shouldn't have in case of back injury). She cried for about 2 or 3 minutes and then stopped...just sniffling. Every time I tried to put her down for about the next 10 minutes, though, she started this really sad little cry. She's fine now...smiling, acting totally normal, but I still feel awful. I definitely can't tell Chris...which means I can't tell anyone IRL. He would totally freak out and make me feel even worse. I love him to death and he loves me, but he loves Ella completely and is super overprotective. I know I would be berated, and he probably wouldn't let me hold her if he could help it. This happened about 45 minutes ago, and I'm still crying. How could I be so careless?!?!

Amanda! It's OKAY!!! Ella is fine and safe. Please forgive yourself

Originally Posted by Amber Lion

Update on the little baby: She's home!! : Still supplementing with formula a little, but they are hopeful to get bfing back on track. I know all your thoughts really helped, so thanks!

Thanks for the update. I'm so glad she's doing better.

Originally Posted by janasmama

AAM: We reserved a camping space for June in a beautiful state park in the Rogue Valley. We're renting a yurt. I know, luxury camping. It's only $30 a night though and it is so hard to sleep side-lying on an air mattress with a nursing babe. Plus, if we did tent camp we'd have to buy a nice air mattress anyway which would be at least $100 so it's actually cheaper to use the yurt.

We have a yurt reserved here for 4th of July weekend. Our friends and us go there every other year and it's a blast. The yurts are awesome. You'll have a great time!

AAM: Being away from Hazel was better today. She's learning the bottle and managed to take in about 14 oz plus 4 nursing sessions. (1 at 2am, 1 at 5 am, 10am and 8pm) I pumped 12 oz of milk and will pump again before I go to bed. I want to make sure my supply doesn't drop and I'm having trouble taking in enough water while I'm working. She also didn't cry as much with my mom and looked much happier when she came into work today.

[janasmama]

Originally Posted by mamanurse

We have a yurt reserved here for 4th of July weekend. Our friends and us go there every other year and it's a blast. The yurts are awesome. You'll have a great time!

That's where we are going! I'll leave you a sign that I was there and we'll see if we bhave the same yurt.

[mamanurse]

That's hilarious. You guys will have a great time!

I recommend going to the Oregon Caves National Monument. We haven't been there with kids yet, but plan to this summer. Hubby and I went there in our "reefer" days : I vaguely remember having a good time.

[OrchideZ]

Oooh the camping sounds nice. I hope we go somewhere soon too!

Jenn: glad to hear that Hazel was better.

Em: good news on the baby! And thanks for the teething remedy tip...we need something. Jasper has been so so fussy today/tonight.

Hugs to Rae and Ally for fussy babes. :

I finally had to make dinner and he kept screaming bloody murder when I tried to put him in the MT or the baby pouch but he didn't want to be put down and I was so tired and exhausted (have had crazy insomnia where I am awake til 6 am every night and up again by 9), I had to swaddle him down in a miracle blanket, gave him a bit of baby Tylenol (I figured his teeth are hurting him and his screaming for 20 minutes straight prob. gave him a headache and I was out of Gripe Water) and put him in his swing.
He is still sleeping, poor little guy.
My milk supply as a result of my poor sleep and not eating as much b/c I am exhausted and too tired to remember to eat has been lower since yesterday and I feel bad about that.
I had an appt. today with my endocrinologist and she told me my blood work shows my thyroid meds are too high of a dose so I have to cut back starting tomorrow. Apparently, my insomnia can be related to this so hopefully after tomorrow, I will be getting more sleep and producing more milk.
Just trying to stay relaxed and drinking heaps of water, eating protein.
*whew*

Amanda: I wanna reiterate what everyone else is saying. You are a wonderful mama but only human. Sending you big love.
I had a moment with Jasper when he was only a week old and was sleeping on me on the glider and I was having a dream that a pig was nuzzling me.
Of course it wasn't a pig...it was Jasper rooting
I woke up as I was pushing the pig away in my dream to see Jasper tumbling to the floor.
I caught him just in time. NO. joke. I cried over it so I know how you feel.
I would recommend when doing back carries alone, always try to do them over a soft surface like the bed. (((Hugs)))

Rae: I haven't even gotten my girasol green tea in the mail yet and today I bought another girasol on tbw... I bought an earthy rainbow. I couldn't resist it. I have always seen them and didn't know the name but loved them.
Somebody stop me!

[sonshine_rae]

ROFL ..... OrchideZ I don't know how to stop you.... since I'm having the same problem.

For now I'm 'trying' to just wait for my TWO new wraps to arrive and enjoy them.. aka..... trying not to look at FSOT.

Earthy Rainbow (ER) is considered a favorite wrap by many people, I hope you enjoy it.. I've heard a lot of good/love for that one .

AAM Well Samuel fought sleep for about 3 hrs.. sometimes screaming and not letting us calm him (ahhh!) last night.. went down around midnight.. and was up again at 4:30am... I'm soooo tired and I KNOW the bigger kids won't let me sleep in .

[sonshine_rae]

double post.

[audsma]

Rae- wishing you some reprieve today!

Amanda- Just like many others said, we all drop or otherwise accidentally hurt our children sooner or later.

Em- I wish I lived in your town too! My house is great, but your town is a dream of mine. I fully intend to spend an extended weekend there (at least) to celebrate 15 years of marriage (next year!) but also hope to get there sometime in the spring or summer when I know Bryson can handle the drive without crying.

[Orionbelt]

Why oh why will my child not nap in her crib? Her favorite spot to nap (besides in the sling) is in her chair in front of the fire (see FB for photo of wood stove with her napping in the back ground). It makes it so difficult in the house when she sleeps there because I have two other very noisy kids and you can't go anywhere in the house without passing the living room so 75% of the time she is woken up from a nap by the other two...grrrrrr. I just know she isn't getting enough daytime sleep and it is causing her to be very grumpy at bedtime and since I do bedtime with all three by myself right now, it makes it really frustrating for me. Oh well, I'm sure she will nap in her crib one day right?!?

So today is my first play group at my house. People should be arriving any minute with their babies/kids. I've made homemade mac and cheese for lunch, my other friend made homemade guacamole with nachos and I also made some sugar cookies. Add to it a large pot of coffee for all of us sleep deprived Mama's and you have a pretty good play group I think. I'm so looking forward to this as a weekly thing to get together with the girls but also have our babies (there will be three other babies who were born within two weeks of Charlotte) 'play' with each other. Also, one of my friends has a little girl who is Sophie's age to play with so I think a good time will be had by all.

My Mom arrives tomorrow...phew! I know it's only been since Monday since DH left but I'm exhausted already. My stupid dog has a thing for baby wipes and ate a bunch of them yesterday so she was up all night being sick meaning that I was up all night with her. It's pretty gross when dogs eat baby wipes...they go in whole and they come out the same way...ewwwww. I love my dog, don't get me wrong but she drives me nuts sometimes. She has a very sensitive stomach (I won't get into too much detail but she can't digest most proteins) so she is on special dog food. We spend $110 a month on dog food for her and she is constantly throwing up or having the poops...she is lucky she is cute, amazing with the kids and makes me feel safe when DH is away.

Better run. I will catch up with everyone tonight! Have a great day.

[Astrid1024]

Originally Posted by OrchideZ

Rae: I haven't even gotten my girasol green tea in the mail yet and today I bought another girasol on tbw... I bought an earthy rainbow. I couldn't resist it. I have always seen them and didn't know the name but loved them.
Somebody stop me!

Rae and OrchideZ - that's too funny! I just bought a Girasol Big Sur on TBW. I love Earthy Rainbow too and will probably have one soon I also traded my Ergo for a Kanga-J -
http://i89.photobucket.com/albums/k2...g/100_4257.jpg
We should form a TBW support group!

[Baby_Cakes]

Originally Posted by mamanurse

AAM: Being away from Hazel was better today. She's learning the bottle and managed to take in about 14 oz plus 4 nursing sessions. (1 at 2am, 1 at 5 am, 10am and 8pm) I pumped 12 oz of milk and will pump again before I go to bed. I want to make sure my supply doesn't drop and I'm having trouble taking in enough water while I'm working. She also didn't cry as much with my mom and looked much happier when she came into work today.

I'm so happy things are adjusting! Pumping 12 oz is great!

AAM - Chris got me a tire for my car, and it's on now. So that's taken care of. Stupid rental. Stupid black ice. Stupid stupid. I'm so over this strain of bad luck. It seems I just cannot get a BREAK for crying out loud.

Nora is officially out of 3-6 month clothes and needs to be in 6 month or 6-9 months! I can't believe it! She is getting so big!

Ok - stupid comment of the day. I was talking about how Nora cut her first tooth already, and one of my male co-workers says, "Oh, she'll have to go on real food soon." and made some weird gesture indicating I wouldn't be nursing much longer.

Real food? Um, excuse me? Breastmilk isn't real food? And since when does cutting a tooth mean she all of a sudden needs solids? People who don't have kids say the dumbest things. Honestly...I think me pumping in the conference room makes him uncomfortable, and he wants me to wean b/c of that LOL!

[TaraRae82]

I have to rant about a comment Kelly made on Regis and Kelly this morning...did any of you see it? It was just in passing but made me really mad! It's celebrities like her that make our society so afraid of NCB. A viewer emailed to tell her that she'd had 50 hour labors for her 2 children and a side note that neither were with drugs but it wasn't her choice to do it that way. Kelly's response was, "Well honey, what happened?!" Ugh. Like she couldn't imagine anyone ever having NCB! But, I believe Kelly has had all her babies via elective C Section. Yes?

Uh oh, Ally's fussing. Gotta run. I'll be back to reply to everyone later.

[Baby_Cakes]

^Ugh, I hate when people make flippant comments like that. So annoying!

Can I brag that I just pumped 9.5 oz at once? Thank you very much. Huzzah!

[sonshine_rae]

Just a quick run by here..

Carrie yikes.... 'real food'.... how rude.... I'm sure they don't mean it that way but still! I bet your thoughts on why he wants you to wean is right lol.

Tara sigh I doubt public figures are going to support NCB very much.. but it sure isn't helpful for them to make comments to the opposite side of things.