What worked best for changing your DH's mind? - Page 2

[plunky]

Originally Posted by Bm31

Are you saying I am arrogant because I don't feel my parents (or anyone else) should've had a "right" to choose risks for me in doing something that was completely unnecessary yet I get to live with the results the rest of my life? I do not necessarily want an answer, just something for you to think about. And perhaps what you or a parent would say to their child if their child suffered this fate after making their "choice."

This is a forum for the case against circumcision and a place where intactivists can talk freely and honestly without worry about being constantly policed by pro-circ's and their culturally brainwashed attitudes.

I love the selective quoting, dude. Way to ignore what I said.

[Sasharna]

Quoting myself from another thread:

"I spent a couple days in the local university library before bringing up this subject with my partner (who is circumcised). I saved pdf copies of some of the journal articles I read, but he did not feel the need to look through them. My basic message was: I am reluctant to accept the most extreme views on either side of the issue, but the potential harmful effects of circumcision--if true--are serious enough to warrant leaving this decision in our son's hands. We also talked about DP's feelings on the issue."

This was a calm, peaceful, and rational after-dinner conversation. I made sure to let DP know that I am satisfied with our love life. I presented an overview of the literature with my understanding of the pros and cons, and let him know what my personal conclusions were, while asking him for his thoughts. I explained to him what a freshly circumcised penis looks like and how disturbed I was at the sight... but that was the closest thing to an emotional appeal in the whole conversation.

If he had not been convinced, I feel strongly enough about this issue that I would have done anything and everything to prevent the procedure from happening to our child. But I did not say that to my partner.