|Originally posted by UmmIlyas
Ok so I looked at the OP. She said people were asking her daughter about christmas trees and whats-santa-bringing. I though about it a little, and decided that asking a child about trees and presents maybe isn't such a good idea no matter what faith the child is. Not to sound overly PC, but some children (actually, plenty in my area) can't afford christmas trees and presents. How would that child feel? I would imagine pretty darn unhappy. I'm probably going way overboard with this. Feel free to toss cyber tomatoes!
I have to agree, I am not crazy about people who immediately focus on the gift giving side of Christmas, what do you want, what are you asking Santa for, etc.... there are so many less materialistic questions that they could ask. I guess it's hard to think of small talk directed at children sometimes, and people without small children are probably not too concerned about what is pc. I'm sure it will get worse after Christmas when everyone starts asking "what did Santa bring you?" I never believed in Santa and I had no clue what to say to that one as a kid.
As for the OP....I feel sad for your ds. But I think your positive attitude will help her get over any Christmas jealousy. I grew up in a community that was over 50% Jewish (NJ) and I still remember a lot of my friends being jealous. I think that you can talk about the great things about Hanukkah and focus on your family traditions, foods, decorations, etc.. I think with time she will appreciate her own celebrations.
I remember a lot of my friends had specific things about Christmas that they really liked, singing carols, hanging lights, helping decorate the tree, etc. and that's ok too, you know? No harm in enjoying the madness if it makes her happy. I used to have two friends, both Jews, who helped decorate the tree with us each year and I went to their Seders and wished I had a menorah like they did. And for goodness sake, a bat mitzvah!! Remind your daughter that she will get to have an awesome party and all her friends will be jealous! I hope my son is able to have friends of different cultures and religions when he is old enough to appreciate it.
And for the record, I can sing the three blessings for the Hanukkah candles in Hebrew. I have no idea what they mean, but I remember them! I can make a mean kugel too. Maybe I should have been born Jewish. But I digress, I hope your dd feels better and has a wonderful Hanukkah!!