yes DSD1 has to quit sucking her thumb. it has already been decided. it is starting to change her mouth shape. i didnt notice it b/c it was so gradual that it didnt register i guess. i see her everyday and gradual things dont really grab your attention (esp with 4 kids!). but bio dad said that he could see that her front teeth are really starting to gap and DH agreed.
right now she is only allowed to suck her thumb when she is in her own bed. that cut down on her sucking it all day long. i thought that would be enough to keep her from having this problem but it didnt.
so now everytime she is upset she runs to her romm to suck her thumb. then she is in their all day sucking her thumb. she is 6 yo. she gets emotional. she also has an adjustment disorder. i will ask her therapist what she thinks too.
my point is that i want gentle ways to get her to not suck her thumb and ways to help her learn to soothe herself without her thumb.
i feel bad for her. her mother ignored her during alot of her infancy and childhood. she was always drunk and had her in her carseat tucked away under a blanket in a corner. i figured she really needed her thumb b/c her mom wasnt there to comfort her. and then she got taken away from her mom and given to us. next she will be taken from us and sent to her bio dads. he wont be very nice about the thumb. he will spank her for it, shame her for it, and other not so gentle things. i if i can help her now before she moves then i will save her years of upset over there. if i can do it gently here, with kindness, love, and compassion, then she wont have to go through the way her bdad will do it.
i want your advice.
remember it is not an option to let her keep sucking her thumb.
right now she is only allowed to suck her thumb when she is in her own bed. that cut down on her sucking it all day long. i thought that would be enough to keep her from having this problem but it didnt.
so now everytime she is upset she runs to her romm to suck her thumb. then she is in their all day sucking her thumb. she is 6 yo. she gets emotional. she also has an adjustment disorder. i will ask her therapist what she thinks too.
my point is that i want gentle ways to get her to not suck her thumb and ways to help her learn to soothe herself without her thumb.
i feel bad for her. her mother ignored her during alot of her infancy and childhood. she was always drunk and had her in her carseat tucked away under a blanket in a corner. i figured she really needed her thumb b/c her mom wasnt there to comfort her. and then she got taken away from her mom and given to us. next she will be taken from us and sent to her bio dads. he wont be very nice about the thumb. he will spank her for it, shame her for it, and other not so gentle things. i if i can help her now before she moves then i will save her years of upset over there. if i can do it gently here, with kindness, love, and compassion, then she wont have to go through the way her bdad will do it.
i want your advice.
remember it is not an option to let her keep sucking her thumb.
DS will totally listen to his paw paw. 
