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post #81 of 91
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Actually, Lucy didn't have a name for the first week. I was pulling for Ivy, and DH still wanted Nora. We ended up compromising on her first name. Her full name is L
T (VeryKazakhLastName)ova. So I figure with the patronymic and that crazy (to my American ears!) last name, it's Kazakh enough

We never considered a patronymic--Myktybekovich/ovna would be a real mouthful! Plus dh thought that ds having his last name was enough.

My SIL who lives in Kyrgyzstan, and is a single mom, wanted to use a middle name instead of a patronymic, but the authorities wouldn't allow her. She was trying to choose between Diana or Rabiga, and wanted to use both names. So my niece is Rabiga Alisherovna (her ex-BF is Tajik) Lastnameova.

post #82 of 91
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Originally Posted by EdnaMarie View Post
Ohhh, Kathy, if you did the patronynic, you totally deserve the 1st name. We did middle names.
Interesting. I got saddled with both middle and patronymic. Although the patronymic isn't on any paperwork, it's still used by people in the community. I never realized some people considered it an either/or situation.
post #83 of 91
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Originally Posted by cristeen View Post
Interesting. I got saddled with both middle and patronymic. Although the patronymic isn't on any paperwork, it's still used by people in the community. I never realized some people considered it an either/or situation.
That was tongue-in-cheek... like, if you "let" your DH give a patronymic (especially instead of a middle name) then you "deserve" to choose the first name because the partner already got his cultural representation.

Especially from Asia, where "Ataullakhovna", "Bakhriddinovich" etc. are common... :
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post #86 of 91
But... then wouldn't one kid have a different last name than the rest of you???
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Edited by GoGoGirl - 3/9/14 at 10:26am
post #88 of 91
I just wanted to thank you all for this thread. My 16 year old daughter is going to be spending the next school year in Russia (Kirov) and it's been nice to read here and get kind of an understanding of what she might expect. It sounds like a perfect place for her, except for her dislike of wearing winter hats... but maybe when it gets down below 0 she'll get over that!
post #89 of 91
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Originally Posted by Dar View Post
I just wanted to thank you all for this thread. My 16 year old daughter is going to be spending the next school year in Russia (Kirov) and it's been nice to read here and get kind of an understanding of what she might expect. It sounds like a perfect place for her, except for her dislike of wearing winter hats... but maybe when it gets down below 0 she'll get over that!
Eh - that depends... how much hair does she have? I spent the entire Russian winter with a scarf around my lower face, but only wore a hat when it was actually snowing. I have enough hair on my head to keep me plenty warm.
post #90 of 91
I'm Russian and in my experience you will want to send her with MANY hats. It gets brutally cold there!

Also, the draft thing and no cold drinks is something they were all raised with. She's always driving me nuts with it. My mom says that EC was also a child raising standard. According to her, they had a baby book that was almost god's word on how to raise a child. And my parents are INCREDIBLY opinionated. But after a few years in the US, they've really learned to tone down the rhetoric.
post #91 of 91
I haven't read through all of the responses but I am really enjoying reading what everybody has to say! Brings fond memories of my Russian inlaws who would come to visit in the past for months at a time. I got along better with dh's mom more than his father, we would chat for hours in Russian. She wasn't as overbearing or outspoken as dh's father. But so much of what others have written is true. And I will put my vote in and say YES they do overdress children. They bundled up my daughter in the middle of April in Florida as though it was 20 degrees F outside when in fact it was only in the 60s and 70s. Winter hat included.
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