Weekly chat thread January 24th-30th - Page 10

[LionTigerBear]

Originally Posted by Larissa

I actually am seriously hoping that this baby will be born on the 30th!! It's dh's birthday, and we'd love to have our baby on that day.

Even days with difficult aspects can turn out well-- but it's hard, realistically it generally winds up being a negative experience. But, it is possible, if you remain flexible, courageous, and open to learning something new, that even with birthing under a negative aspect could be a good experience. We can definitely create our own experiences and work with whatever energy is out there. I hope your hands feel better soon!

Originally Posted by Thursday Girl

LionTigerBear- How does Feb 27th look? Althought the idea of goign that long is a bit much in the evening when i am trying to sleep, that is my guess sinec I missed Jan 28th.( My dh, both my dd's and I were all born 3.2 days after the new moon.

The morning of the 27th is good except for one very difficult aspect, Moon square Pluto. But if you knew that that energy was in force you would be more likely to be able to work with it. The evening of the 27th is fantastic.

Happy Birthday!

Originally Posted by Mal85

Heading to my MW appt now to do the GBS test. Wish me luck!

Good luck!!!

Originally Posted by BathrobeGoddess

Good to know...my dd's birthday is the 3rd so I want to at least make it past her party! Though I am guessing around the 24 for me! That is ten days "late" my average....

The fourth is a good day, too, though better in the AM. Also the morning of the 11th looked good. Those were my best picks for the most harmonious times prior to Valentine's Day.

The 24th is a decent day, nothing too scary going on there. The evening looks better than the morning but both are fine.

[k13]

s&d, sorry to hear it - and good luck

I usually have the desire to completely shut everyone out at the very end of my pregnancy for that reason. It is like I hit 37 weeks and need total mental privacy so I can gear up emotionally for the birth and postpartum. Plus I just like to soak in as much private time with my kids as possible before the next one comes. Is that weird? I guess I literally have to create a "Bubble of Peace" as LionTigerBear put it.

birthworks, this is exactly how I feel too! We sent my mother-in-law back to L.A. a week and a half ago because it was bugging me out having her here, even though she was helpful. Now she's calling wanting to know when she can come back and help again - sigh. Hubby is being awesome at dealing with it and letting her know we want some "space" on both sides of the birth.

Speaking of moms - I've been tripping out on my relationships with my mother and mother-in-law lately. My mom can also be emotionally nutso and is our main babysitter. Luckily she keeps her distance otherwise. My mother-in-law is more even-keeled but she's my mother-in-law. There will always be that element of feeling the need to make a good impression on her because I'm married to her "darling boy" . So I'm not as comfortable having her around when I'm tired bitchy and haggard. At least my mom for all her winginess has seen it before and will love me anyway

[JosieAK]

My MIL has been calling since 35 weeks asking if the baby's here yet. She lives 15 minutes away too. Good grief! It really bugs me. I am tempted to NOT call her when things get moving as we've promised. She's a nut. At least she's happy about the baby coming, though. My FIL has said NOTHING about our baby since day one. It's kinda weird, but not entirely uncharactaristic.

I've just been beginning to realize that my mother is REALLY set on me having this baby before or on her birthday (February 8). She is REALLY set. I have been casually expecting to go late (DD February 7) or at least until the full moon (9). This is her 50th too. Everytime I ask her about what she wants for her birthday, she says, "A grandbaby." I'm really glad she's excited. It took her a while to really warm up to the subject, and I kinda got the feeling like my MIL and my dad were going to be baby's only cheerleaders. So now the baby and I are having little chats. All I know is I don't want to have this baby in January. For some reason psychologically I am prepared for a February baby. I guess we'll see! Still having low cramping everytime I do anything active, but no bloody show or anything. I guess it could still be a while.

[Larissa]

Even days with difficult aspects can turn out well-- but it's hard, realistically it generally winds up being a negative experience. But, it is possible, if you remain flexible, courageous, and open to learning something new, that even with birthing under a negative aspect could be a good experience. We can definitely create our own experiences and work with whatever energy is out there. I hope your hands feel better soon!

Thanks . . . once baby is born, hands should be just fine!
But as far as the day baby is born, since I can't really choose it, I am just going to put my faith and trust in the Lord.

[cagnew]

nighten: my mom gives me lots of trouble too... very manipulative and emotionally abusive. I honestly think she is mentally "off" so I try to remember that.

s&d: I'm sorry about the possible pre-e. I hope things get better!

me: A whole lot of NOTHING going on here. I was totally having contractions last night and I thought for sure I would be more dilated and all that, but the vaginal exam today revealed that nothing has changed since last week. Stupid exams. Doctor thinks they are important to do b/c I live an hour away. I know a person can go from nothing to having a baby in matter of a day, but it's still discouraging.

[MomtoXane]

OMG I've been so nervous waiting all week for this appointment! My weight stayed the same, my BP was 122/80, my urine showed ketones, protein, and something else. My pulse was 140 (WTH?) and my temp was 99.6 (huh?). Baby passed his NST! Heartrate was in the 150's and I'm contracting about every 5mins (still). I didn't get checked or stripped.

My OB does NOT want to induce, she wants to wait as long as possible for me to go into labor on my own. She even mentioned going to 41wks (OMG!). Anyways I'm doing the "jug" test again today, complete metabolic blood tests tomorrow, and a follow-up growth scan/biophysical profile on Monday. If those results aren't great, she'll consider induction. Otherwise I'm on my own!

Under normal circumstances I would be quite happy to escape a medical induction. But this whole pregnancy has been high risk from day one and it's really REALLY starting to take it's toll on me mentally, emotionally, and physically. I am REALLY hoping this baby comes next week...

[chaoticzenmom]

I'm sorry Starling for your possible Pre-e. I hope they get you fixed up so you can birth how you want.

Nighten, your mom sounds kind of crazy right now. You're supposed to be the moody one! It's not fair that you have to be 9mo pregnant AND walk on eggshells. Maybe you're just acting too stable...go a little crazy and maybe she'll back off.

I'm doing a little too well. I got excited last night with big globs of goo on my tp, but that's nothing new. It was bigger and globbier than usual though. I slept great last night, but when I woke up, I had no bottom sheet! It was all messed up and no longer under me. I'm hardly feeling disabled today at all. I hope that's not a sign of 4 more weeks to come.

My kids keep fighting today and I think it's really wearing me down. I feel soo angry at them for doing this when I have no energy. I think part of it is this Gluten-free diet. I'm not very good at it and so the kids are hungrier and I'm stressed about what to feed them. My son is the pickiest eater ever, so he's not making this any easier on me. Whenever I think I"ve found something awesome, I find out that it's not "really" gluten-free. I have about 10 books coming from the library and I hope I get some good inspiration. Thank goodness for Amy's mac and cheese

[LionTigerBear]

I am STILL having kind of a lot of contractions today-- all day-- and it is getting kind of annoying. Often they are kind of menstrual-crampy. I am staying hydrated! Maybe time to take more vitamin C and just try to ignore them. Blah, just venting.

[Jenivere]

Originally Posted by MomtoXane

my urine showed ketones, protein, and something else

Glucose? That combination often means you need to be eating more, especially with ketones showing up. But I don't know why your high risk so perhaps it's something else?

[Jenivere]

Originally Posted by LionTigerBear

I am STILL having kind of a lot of contractions today-- all day-- and it is getting kind of annoying. Often they are kind of menstrual-crampy. I am staying hydrated! Maybe time to take more vitamin C and just try to ignore them. Blah, just venting.

Nothing going on here, not even BH. So I spent the morning cleaning. I have a bunch of wheat ground and after I've rested for a while I'm going to start some bread dough. I'm feeling rather tired at the moment.

[Mal85]

Originally Posted by JosieAK

For some reason psychologically I am prepared for a February baby. I guess we'll see!

Me too! I don't really know what it is about February, but I have it in my head that she will have a February birthday. I'm at the other end of the spectrum, though. I'm due at the tail end of the month so I'm just hoping not to go into March. My dad is rooting for March, though. His birthday is March 6, which is 9 days over my due date. It's been rumored that my group won't let patients go more than a week overdue. This has not yet been mentioned to me, so we'll see.

Had my MW appt today. 36 weeks, 1 days today. Measuring perfectly. Gained two pounds in two weeks, which kind of surprised me since I had the stomach flu last week. Did the swab for GBS and will get the results at my appt next week. She checked my cervix and said she can feel baby's head sitting very low. Cervix is pretty soft, but still long and no dilation yet. Baby's heart rate was quite a bit lower this time than it has ever been before. It stays between 150-160 usually and has never been any lower than 150. It was 130 today. That much of a difference kind of concerned me, but the nurse said it's normal this far into things.

[JesiLynne]

S&D I pray that you and baby will be alright.

[JesiLynne]

Originally Posted by JosieAK

My MIL has been calling since 35 weeks asking if the baby's here yet. She lives 15 minutes away too. Good grief! It really bugs me. I am tempted to NOT call her when things get moving as we've promised. She's a nut. At least she's happy about the baby coming, though. My FIL has said NOTHING about our baby since day one. It's kinda weird, but not entirely uncharactaristic.

.

I'm kinda the same, but kinda opposite. For me, my MIL is ticked off to no end that I am og again. But my FIL is in hog heaven and keeps calling to ask if the baby is here, and they are only 15 minutes away too.

[JesiLynne]

MAL85 Praying for you to be negative.

[starling&diesel]

Originally Posted by starling&diesel

Thanks for all your kind words, women ...
Last night's BP was still high, so we're going back to the mw clinic this morning for another reading before we decide if it's okay for us to go home or not.

BP is still high, but not enough to start an induction just yet.
We're still stuck in the city, waiting on a couple more test results.
Then we'll find if we can go home or not.

[JesiLynne]

Originally Posted by MomtoXane

OMG I've been so nervous waiting all week for this appointment! My weight stayed the same, my BP was 122/80, my urine showed ketones, protein, and something else. My pulse was 140 (WTH?) and my temp was 99.6 (huh?). Baby passed his NST! Heartrate was in the 150's and I'm contracting about every 5mins (still). I didn't get checked or stripped.

My OB does NOT want to induce, she wants to wait as long as possible for me to go into labor on my own. She even mentioned going to 41wks (OMG!). Anyways I'm doing the "jug" test again today, complete metabolic blood tests tomorrow, and a follow-up growth scan/biophysical profile on Monday. If those results aren't great, she'll consider induction. Otherwise I'm on my own!

Under normal circumstances I would be quite happy to escape a medical induction. But this whole pregnancy has been high risk from day one and it's really REALLY starting to take it's toll on me mentally, emotionally, and physically. I am REALLY hoping this baby comes next week...

[JesiLynne]

I had my US today, the placenta is low, but not on my scar, and he was surprised to see my scar is a little higher ( just slightly) than most of the c/s they do now a days. It doesn't surprise me, it needed to be a bit higher to get Luke out.
So everything looks good for me to HBAC.

I also found out that it's "looking like a girl"

Now I have to buckle down and pick out a name.

I have an OB appt tmw, that I am a little nervous about. I am hoping OB doesn't panic over my GBS + . I talked to my midwife about that and she said if he has questions to have him call her. It's so nice to have someone who can go to bat for me.

Now tonight I have 3 things to do :

1. Go to Goodwill and pray I find some sheets for my bed, I only have one set.

2. Go to Walgreeens and get some hibeclens

3. Hold DH down and "know him" until I go into labor

We've been abstinant for weeks, to afraid that it would make me go early.
I'm praying this baby comes this weekend so please pray baby does.

[LionTigerBear]

JesiLynne, That's exciting that you're having a girl (probably!) I'll say a prayer for you.

[nighten]

Oh for goodness' sake. So my mom comes up, after I haven't heard from her since Monday. And of course I've been fretting over this for days now, feeling alternately angry with her, and guilty for being such a "bad" daughter. Anyway, she walks in all smiles and sunshine and the world is a wonderful place.

I was stunned.

And at one point when she asked me how I was doing, I just started crying. Oh for the love of pete, I hate crying. I'm not a crier. But there I was crying. And I just said I was tired and felt like crap and walked away.

I honestly have no clue what to expect from her, but I am very thankful she didn't continue the manipulation thing today. I totally could not have handled it.

----

Second GBS came back negative.

----

While I have my own preferences in terms of astrological placements, I like to think that every individual chooses her own birth date and time, etc. That we know there are challenges we need to work on this life, and as such, we come into this existence with an understanding that we need those challenges. So while one aspect may seem negative when examined on its own, there are oftentimes other aspects or placements (house or planetary) that can help balance that particular challenge. And sometimes not, but in that case, it's simply part of who we are.

In other words, I wouldn't try to NOT have the baby just because of what day/time it was or something. I might hope the baby comes on a particular day, but the bottom line is the baby will come when the baby comes. And that's precisely when she's meant to come. And I'm cool with that and though I may cross my fingers that it's on a certain day rather than another, but with full understanding that it's not up to me.

[LionTigerBear]

Originally Posted by nighten

In other words, I wouldn't try to NOT have the baby just because of what day/time it was or something. I might hope the baby comes on a particular day, but the bottom line is the baby will come when the baby comes. And that's precisely when she's meant to come. And I'm cool with that and though I may cross my fingers that it's on a certain day rather than another, but with full understanding that it's not up to me.

That's a very balanced and healthy way to look at it. I do think that my subconcious and concious intentions and preferences definitely play a roll in when the baby is born, but I think it's best to be open to whatever time happens.

I just wouldn't purposely induce or try to induce at a poorly-aspected time, if I had a better option. That's all!