Weekly chat thread January 24th-30th - Page 5

[cagnew]

I'm sorry about the bad news, starling.

[BathrobeGoddess]

On the baby size front...

dd#1- I gained 35 lbs, she was 6# 3oz (10 days post dates)
ds#1- I gained 55 lbs, he was 7# 3oz (7 days post dates)
dd#2- I gained 14lbs, she was 8# even (13 days post dates)
This baby, I have gained 20lbs...who freakin' knows!

So two points, the amount of weight you gain clearly doesn't affect the size of my babies but I also have quite a range of weights in my kids...

[monkaha]

Originally Posted by Jenivere

I'm hopeful even though they are not close together because a hot soak in the tub with the lights off and music playing hasn't stopped my contractions.

Sounds promising!! :

[Jenivere]

I've had a few stronger ones. My last birth dragged on all day before things got regular and that might be what is happening this time. Going to try and sleep to see if they stop.

[JesiLynne]

Originally Posted by starling&diesel

GBS positive.
UTI will not go away.
I've gained 10 pounds of water in about as many days.
Local doc is talking induction because of sepsis possibility with the kidney issue. She also thinks I'm headed for pre-e.
She did a phone consult with an OBGYN in the city who shat all over my homebirth plans.
Our midwives have a whole other take on it and have ordered bloodwork.
We're seeing them on Wednesday.
And here DP and I are in the middle, not knowing what to do.
If we weren't so far from a L&D hospital, I'd feel a lot better.

This sucks. :

I am glad the midwives are there. I pray they can give you some good news.

[JesiLynne]

With this baby I have only gained 20 pounds. I really can't remember how much I gained with the twins but I know it was the standard 35 pounds.
I gained nearly 100 with ds2, but I know ALOT of that was stored water. I must have peed out 1/2 gallon 2 days after he was born, and that was just one bathroom trip.

[LionTigerBear]

Thanks Corrie!

Originally Posted by starling&diesel

GBS positive.
UTI will not go away.
I've gained 10 pounds of water in about as many days.
Local doc is talking induction because of sepsis possibility with the kidney issue. She also thinks I'm headed for pre-e.
She did a phone consult with an OBGYN in the city who shat all over my homebirth plans.
Our midwives have a whole other take on it and have ordered bloodwork.
We're seeing them on Wednesday.
And here DP and I are in the middle, not knowing what to do.
If we weren't so far from a L&D hospital, I'd feel a lot better.

This sucks. :

I'm sorry.

Originally Posted by Jenivere

I'm hopeful even though they are not close together because a hot soak in the tub with the lights off and music playing hasn't stopped my contractions.

Crossing my fingers for you! Get some good rest!

[AllyRae]

Oh Starling... : I'm so sorry you're having all of these issues creep in right now.

Weight and babies... I'm not sure there is any correlation at all! : Here's my breakdown:

Brandon: gained 53 lbs, baby was 6 lbs 15 oz at 40 weeks.
Ryland: gained 18 lbs, baby was 7 lbs 10 oz at 41 weeks.
Amelia: gained 31 lbs, baby was 7 lbs 2 oz at 36 weeks.

So, not only did my weight not correlate with baby's weight, but Mia was on target to be a 9+ lber at 40/41 weeks which would have blown my two boys out of the water. :

[chaoticzenmom]

Originally Posted by LionTigerBear

So, I got all of my last minute baby/birth supply shopping done . . . yay! Of course, all of this was with the boys in tow, so they are tird out by now. Especially my two-year-old. 2yo could really benefit form a nap but he never naps except when he falls asleep by accident. He has a VERY strong, assertive, stubborn personality, that is really just something to be seen.

So, I was going to go down the hall in our apartment building to do some laundry. DS2 had been following me down the hall, carrying the little box of baking soda that I use for laundry, while I was carrying the laundry in a basket, and he was sobbing because of something-- something about wanting to help me with the laundry and I think he was afraid I had already done it without him or he had missed it, and and he wasn't understanding me as I was trying to explain to him that I still needed his help . . . so I was talking to him and letting him know I needed his help and "bring the baking soda for mommy" and so forth, and he was still crying, and the lady who lives next door to us comes out into the hall (behind us) and just stands there in the middle of the hall, staring at us with her hands on her hips. She didn't say anything, just gave me a "look". I saw her because I was looking back, cajoling DS2 on further. I couldn't get down and pick him up because my hands were full with the laundry basket. Besides, I know how he is, he didn't want to be comforted, he was going to keep fussing until he understood that he was going to get to help me, so the best thing to do was get him to the laundry room as quickly as possible. So I see that lady standing there, staring at me judgmentally as DS sobs down the hall, and I said to her, quite firmly, "Can I help you?" and she didn't say anything, didn't move, just continued to stare at me with her hands on her hips. Then another door opens, closer to us, and another neighbor lady peeks out, and sees DS crying and the other woman staring at us, and is immediately sympathetic and sweet and smiles at me and says to DS, "oh, sweetie don't cry, it makes your face all red" and all the time the other hostile woman is just standing there staring at me. I repeated to her, "Can I help you?" She still didn't say anything so I said to the nice woman, "he's just tired and needs a nap." And she was understanding, thank goodness. So anyway, we went on and did our laundry, and DS was fine once he got to help me put the baking soda in. But now I feel really self-concious and judged, you know?

Like what the heck, little kids are just fussy and cranky and they cry sometimes. Doesn't make me a bad mom, I wasn't being mean or anything. :

When we got back to the apartment, DS2 was still fussing about little things, like not being allowed to watch SpongeBob (they turned on the TV and saw that it was on but I don't let them watch that) until I got him interested in a PB+J sandwich. But I just dislike thinking that this lady is listening in through the walls or whatever (she's right next door), and judging my parenting just because DS is tired and fussy today. Grrr.

Thanks for letting me vent. I guess I'm a little stressed out because what if she's one of those crazy neighbors who calls CPS for dumb stuff? She just looked SO hostile and judgmental, it made me wonder . . . at least I have nothing to hide if I do get a visit, but what the heck. I don't need this right now.

Oh, and this neighbor? She doesn't work, her hygiene is lacking, her boyfriend is sketchy, and we can smell cigarette and pot smoke from her apartment all the time.

Arrgh.

I think someone needs a flaming bag of poop on their doorstep I'm glad the other woman helped out some. I think each time you pass that woman's door, you should ring the doorbell, but keep on walking.LOL

[chaoticzenmom]

I had my midwife appt today. She was exhausted from having 3 births last night! She could barely keep her eyes open. Poor woman. She said that at this point, they would deliver the baby whenever I went into labor.

I went out and got almost EVERYTHING I need for the labor. I didn't find an unopened bottle of olive oil though. I got lots of baby blankets, some hats, witchhazel, rescue remedy, alcohol, hibicleanse, a douche, tissues, depends adult diapers, gatorade, baby thermometer and some other stuff I can't remember. All I need is a small unopened bottle of olive oil and a mattress pad. Not bad!

[JesiLynne]

chaoticzenmom With ds2 my midwife had 3 catches in 3 days. That has to be rough.

[LionTigerBear]

Originally Posted by chaoticzenmom

I went out and got almost EVERYTHING I need for the labor. I didn't find an unopened bottle of olive oil though. I got lots of baby blankets, some hats, witchhazel, rescue remedy, alcohol, hibicleanse, a douche, tissues, depends adult diapers, gatorade, baby thermometer and some other stuff I can't remember. All I need is a small unopened bottle of olive oil and a mattress pad. Not bad!

I got all of my stuff today too! But, you just reminded me, I forgot Rescue Remedy! Ugh!!! Oh well . . . . I can fix that soon!

[TayTaysMama]

JesiLynne~ I heard that you can use a needle and thread a piece of string or thread (depending on how big your needle) push that through the garlic clove and make it kinda like a tampon so the string hangs out. I haven't tried it myself but I know people who say it works.


chaoticzenmom You totally just reminded me that I need to get olive oil still. It is the only thing left on my list and I had completely forgotten about it. So thanks!

[kssinca]

starling

LionTigerBear, some people are just rude...and strange....and rude.

I'm 35 weeks and I've gained 8 lbs total. I was up to 10lbs but somehow lost the 2lbs. The WIC nutritionist wanted me to drink less water, thinking that maybe I am filling up on water. But I"M THIRSTY!!! I switched to whole milk last week, hoping that will help me gain some weight.

I have 2 people interested in my things for sale on craigslist. It's a teeny amount of money but every little bit helps!!! I meant to post some more things today but got too tired. I find it funny how my activity level has majorly decreased but I feel a LOT more tired now!!

I need to make up some baby detergent so I can start washing his things now. I think DH has the nesting instinct...he's been super busy trying to get the house inside and outside ready. I know he has been super anxious and stressed over finances and his dad and I try not to ask him for anything but I am really happy he started working on the house.

[JesiLynne]

We are talking a whole non cut clove correct ?

[nighten]

Originally Posted by JesiLynne

I'm sorry, I hope I didn't hurt your feelings. I know it isn't true, but I was hoping it would shut up some other people. I know alot of people who equate being bigger with "mommy did everything right"
I've had alot of people tell me I've done things "wrong" during this pg ( eating healthy, and not running the the OB every time I sneeze is supposedly wrong ) that I am hoping a bigger baby just shuts them up.


One last thing, I was a perfectly healthy 3 week late 5 1/2 pounder. Then my dd who was 6 weeks early, was the same weight. I believe it's all relative.

You didn't hurt my feelings, but I admit it is hard not to give in to the notion that I did something wrong because my 39 week baby wasn't at least 7 pounds. It's a societal thing. And a competitive thing. And it really never goes away. Gosh, when we were making the guessing thread way back when this DDC began, I had to include a note about why I was estimating this baby would be less than 7 pounds; I felt like I had to explain it.

And it's not even tied to belly size. I've been huge this whole pregnancy, but I'm still not getting my hopes up that this baby will be a lot bigger than Guinevere was, simply because I haven't done much differently beyond gain a few more pounds (which as BG pointed out, isn't necessarily indicative of anything ). So we'll see.

Anyway. It's not you. It's our society.

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s&d, I'm so sorry things are so rough for you right now. I hope that the bloodwork comes back conclusive and helps you and your midwives formulate a plan that you're comfortable with. Hang in there.

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Jenivere, good luck!!!

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Had my 37 week checkup today and everything was good. I told my midwife about the hibiclens plan (I rinsed with it today prior to test #2, which will hopefully be negative) to use it in labor, but assuming we're able to get there with a 4 hour window, I've decided to allow the a/bx. My midwife wrote me an Rx for Diflucan, which I'll take as soon as baby's born. But I like having the hibiclens as backup in case things go very fast this time, etc. I'm feeling less out of control about it all, which is good.

[Thursday Girl]

wow lots of sickness and contractions...I am in the sickness camp, well not sick, but my poop was not fun today. DD#2 IS sick though.

starling I hope things get figured out soon.

jenivere waiting to hear wjat's going on with contractions.

GARLIC- I have always had it stay up pretty well. i stick it high. Occasionally it will fall out, but after some time, and more then one pee. Oh and the one time it fell out while i was walking outside with no bathrooms near by or anything. I was wearing my DH boxers too! Noone knew but i was embarressed. It tumbled out the bottom of my pant leg. I just had my littlest with me though and noone around, so i pretended liek nothing happened.

I haven't really been on in awhile. Lots going on. Broken computer, kids activities. I now have something going on almost every single day. Dance, soccer, gymnastics, storytime, girl scouts, etc.

On the nesting front I had gotten my house all ready and clean and wonderful, then my DH pulled the siding off the back of the house so we can fix the support beams and framing. Now we had to move stuff into the hall and the living room. I can't imagine having a homebirth with that stff everywhere. Hopefully everything gets back together quickly.

My two guesses for birth day are Jan 28th and feb 27th. Based on the moon. My husband, both daughters and I were all born 3.2 days after the new moon.

Had the home visit and my midwife told me she will be out of town from Feb 6-16th. My DD is feb 7th and was changed to the 16th. This would mean no homebirth, but birth center.

[mollee19]

Hi everybody!

Just wanted to let everybody that is GBS positive know that an intra-muscular shot of antibiotics during labor is sometimes an option rather than i.v. antibiotics. I'm a doula and have had clients ask their doctors about this and they were able to just have shots of antibiotics in their thigh every few hours rather than being hooked up to an i.v. Hope that helps!

Can't believe how close we all are. I'm definitely having more cramps and just feeling really tired. Can't wait to meet this little person.:

[Vegan Princess]

Just went to the chiro. She turns a lot of babies and can check position so she checked baby and said she is starting to drop. I also noticed that the top inch or 2 of my belly is squishable now so I guess that means she is starting to move. Yay!!!

Hugs to you Starling! I hope you still get your homebirth and are not getting pre-e.

Jenivere: I hope it's time!!

Cindy

[Nillarilla]

starling so sorry to hear about your complications. I hope you and your mw's can get a plan in place.