My Dad got remarried last year and I finally I hit my limit in "Sweet but passive aggressive" from his wife.
AT least once a month (on the phone and in person) she asks me the same DAMN questions... admittedly, she asks JUST a little bit differently each time
1) When are you getting your children vaccinated? (THEY ARE vaccinated, just in a selective, delayed way)
2) When are you going to stop breastfeeding T (he's 2)?
3) why don't they call me grandma?
She always "just brings it up" in conversation... and it's really annoying. The first two or three times, I actually told her the answers and explained my reasoning, answered any questions...the NEXT 6 or seven times I just gave my answer and changed the topic. Last month I just said "Haven't we been over this? WHy do you ask?"
She brought it up again Wenesday (we were leaving thursday) and I had had it.... so I gave her the FULL explanation again... and she tried to argue with me... but without any facts- it drove me nuts and I said "haven't we been through this?" and she said "oh, THIS time I was just wondering what wll happen next year in kindergarten with E" (on the vax front) even though I have explained the concept of a philosophical exemption in detail previously
As we left on Thursday? I handed her a piece of paper and said:
"Obviously, you are having a hard time remembering all the details of my answers, but you aren't old enough for THAT bad of a failing memory, so feel free to use this cheat sheet next time you call" and I giggled like "hee, hee aren't I cute"
It said :
My children will be vaxed when I believe that for each vaccination
1) the effectiveness of the vaccine
2) the long term effects of the disease and
3) the probablity of getting the disease
OUTWEIGHS the risk from the vaccine
and it listed some links from the CDC and the vaccine manufacturers and said, if you wish to read these and discuss, I would be open to that
My son will nurse until:
either he or I wish to stop... and this is not open to debate
and added some links about the benefits of extended breastfeeding
I won't put the answer to the third item in writing.
I spoke to Dad yesterday and I could tell he wanted to say something... but did not.
Maybe I shuldn't have done it, but it beats what I wanted to do
AT least once a month (on the phone and in person) she asks me the same DAMN questions... admittedly, she asks JUST a little bit differently each time
1) When are you getting your children vaccinated? (THEY ARE vaccinated, just in a selective, delayed way)
2) When are you going to stop breastfeeding T (he's 2)?
3) why don't they call me grandma?
She always "just brings it up" in conversation... and it's really annoying. The first two or three times, I actually told her the answers and explained my reasoning, answered any questions...the NEXT 6 or seven times I just gave my answer and changed the topic. Last month I just said "Haven't we been over this? WHy do you ask?"
She brought it up again Wenesday (we were leaving thursday) and I had had it.... so I gave her the FULL explanation again... and she tried to argue with me... but without any facts- it drove me nuts and I said "haven't we been through this?" and she said "oh, THIS time I was just wondering what wll happen next year in kindergarten with E" (on the vax front) even though I have explained the concept of a philosophical exemption in detail previously
As we left on Thursday? I handed her a piece of paper and said:
"Obviously, you are having a hard time remembering all the details of my answers, but you aren't old enough for THAT bad of a failing memory, so feel free to use this cheat sheet next time you call" and I giggled like "hee, hee aren't I cute"
It said :
My children will be vaxed when I believe that for each vaccination
1) the effectiveness of the vaccine
2) the long term effects of the disease and
3) the probablity of getting the disease
OUTWEIGHS the risk from the vaccine
and it listed some links from the CDC and the vaccine manufacturers and said, if you wish to read these and discuss, I would be open to that
My son will nurse until:
either he or I wish to stop... and this is not open to debate
and added some links about the benefits of extended breastfeeding
I won't put the answer to the third item in writing.
I spoke to Dad yesterday and I could tell he wanted to say something... but did not.
Maybe I shuldn't have done it, but it beats what I wanted to do
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