Who have you told so far?

[sjlparis]

We've told our parents, siblings and closest friends so far but are trying not to tell everyone else until 12 weeks.

I also told my boss this morning as I'm really struggling with nausea and fatigue in the afternoons so wanted to split my two days work at home a week to working in the office all day on Mondays and in the mornings and then working from home in the afternoons where possible (except when I have a meeting). My boss is great and told me to take whatever time I needed and if I needed to start work later on the days when I'm working with the US (I'm in the UK so the timings for calls can be a bit tough) then thats fine aswell

When are you all planning to make the big announcement?

[treehugginmama]

We have told everyone but the kids. I can't keep that good news in. God forbid something horrible happens I know I'll have lots of support since we told people.

We'll tell the kids this weekend most likely.

[Bromache]

I've told my parents and a couple of close friends, all who already knew we were TTC. Waiting to tell the rest of the family and other friends for a few more days because I want to get that word "pregnant" on a digital and then send a picture of that to the other grandparents (I don't wanna risk wasting that expensive test yet!), as well as a picture of my son in a "big brother" t-shirt. (Yes, I bought one a couple of months ago! )

We'll probably wait before we announce to DH's co-workers and other acquaintance-type people.

[Degas]

I've told my dh and my best friend and co-worker because there is no way she would not figure it out before we plan to tell everyone else. She was already suspicious anyway. My Mom would probably figure it out too, but she's in the Marshall Islands in the south pacific - so I don't have to worry about that. Everyone else probably won't catch on if I wear big shirts.

I'm planning not to tell anyone else until 15 or 16 weeks - which I know is extra long, but we had a miscarriage at 11 weeks 3 days in the fall and had just told dd and *everyone* two days before. I discovered I'm very private in grief and don't like sharing my grief with everyone, especially people I don't know very well. It was really hard going anywhere, with people who knew and didn't know how to react. It was hard on dd too.

Unfortunately, my MIL and some others can't keep a secret to save their lives, so I can't just tell close family and friends. We've decided to hold off telling everyone until we hear a heartbeat with a fetoscope. I'm not going to do any ultrasounds or the doppler.

[abigail_b]

Aside from care providers, only 3 people know - my husband, my best friend, and my boss (she is a friend who used to be a colleague and just became my boss a couple of days before I got my BFP.. I told her because I have a few appointments right in a row and I didn't want her to think I was looking for a new job! Plus she is someone that I 100% trust to keep a secret). We want to tell our parents but are going to wait because despite their best intentions they have a hard time keeping a secret. Last time I thought we hadn't told many people, but then when we had the loss I had to sit down and make the list of everyone that knew and it sucked. My plan now is to have a 9 week U/S-- assuming everything is okay we will tell parents and siblings then, and then wait until the end of the first tri to tell anyone else. Even though my m/c wasn't until 11 weeks last time, when we went in for an U/S at 8 weeks the baby was measuring 2 weeks behind and they couldn't get a strong hb, so I really knew that things were not looking good at that point (plus I had been worried since day 1 last time- I think I had intution about it). I know that technically you're not out of the woods until you're holding a healthy baby, but statisically if everything looks healthy at 9 weeks then your outcome is most likely good....

[haleyelianasmom]

Just found out yesterday and I already told (beyond my husband and 3 yo dd), mom, dad, sister, friend. I'm not one who believes in waiting to tell people who are close to me. I'll be seeing my family this weekend and it would just be too hard to keep in, plus if anything happens with this pregnancy, I want them to know that, too, you know?

HOWEVER, I don't want my in-laws to know until I'm into the 2nd trimester because they've made it clear that they don't like being told early. My (ex) SIL told everyone right away and they didn't want to talk about it because it was "too early". She had a miscarriage and my MIL complained about how my SIL had already told her daughter and she shouldn't have told anyone so early. Um, yeah. So a 5 yr old should just be kept in the dark as to why mommy went to the hospital and was crying. That's healthy. My FIL kept saying "it's too early, I don't want to talk about it." While my MIL just criticized them... : Anyways, it really irked me so I vowed that they will NOT know until much much later than everyone else. I want to wait until we at least get a heartbeat at 12 weeks.

[sjlparis]

Originally Posted by haleyelianasmom

= My (ex) SIL told everyone right away and they didn't want to talk about it because it was "too early".

I know what you mean. My parents didn't want to know / discuss with me for the same reason - I was crying on the phone when I told them because of their attitude. They were also disappointed that Glenn and I didn't wait until after we're married.

My dad called me last night though and apologised - he said he guesses he's more old fashioned than he thought

Its wierd but the more people I tell the more I feel like I'm jinx'ing it somehow kwim?

[thomatuttle]

My husband, my OB, and you ladies on MDC are the only ones who know. We live in a really small town so I can't tell anyone here because everyone would know by the afternoon! I've got an u/s appointment on the 10th, so we may tell our parents after that. We'll see. My mom just recently found out she has follicular lymphoma, so I don't want her having to worry about me possibly having another m/c while she's going through chemo.

[jennyvangy]

We waited until 12 weeks with DS1. With this one we have been TTC for 10 months, and everyone knows that, so people ask all the time. After a MC in November I figured I would let people know anyway if I miscarried, so we just tell people as it comes up. Facebook has been a bad thing for this though because three people have asked on my wall, so now 300 of my "closest" friends will at least know it is a possibility.

[Harmony96]

We've told nearly everyone online, and a few out of town friends. We'll tell our parents a week from Wednesday, a few other close friends on Friday, then on Saturday it'll start to be a free-for-all. We have a pancake breakfast w/ people from church to go to, and probably Friday night I'll be updating my Facebook status to be something like "Andrea is getting ready for the pancake breakfast tomorrow, where she will have something to say!" LOL I wonder how many people will "get it" from that.

[mama*ashleigh]

Well, we've pretty much told everyone! LOL!!! I just can't keep it a secret I guess!!! We told our families this weekend, our friends know, and we'll be telling people at church, extended family, etc. in another week or so.

[Leilamus]

I've told one of my bfs and two other very close friends yesterday. I was only planning on telling the bf but then when I was talking about it I just couldn't help myself. We'll probably tell others in a few weeks or so, we generally don't wait very long because I can't keep my mouth shut. Part of me wants to tell my mom right away because I know she'll be really happy but I also want to wait and tell her in person and I probably won't see her until the 14th or so. I don't think I can wait that long... We haven't told our kids yet (almost 6 and 2) just because it's so early. We'll tell them soon, it'll be completely abstract for 2yo but I'm sure my 6yo will understand. I'm curious about his reaction, he's been asking for another baby in the house.

I'm a little nervous about telling my brothers but I know they'll be happy. One of my brothers and his wife just lost a baby in November so I feel badly but I know it can't be helped. I'm soooo looking forward to this pregnancy though, I'm not sure how much longer I can keep it to myself.

DP hasn't told anyone yet, but he'll tell his brother and father and friends. Probably in the next few weeks.

[BtotheG]

So far we've told parents and siblings. I want to wait at least another month before telling extended family and friends, but I'm not sure if I'll actually be able to keep it a secret that long. I'm really bad at keeping news like this to myself.

It's especially hard because dh and I are in our mid-thirties, and we thought we'd never have children - and our family and friends were all resigned to that fact. I can't wait to see everyone's reaction when I tell them that I'm pregnant! The people I have told are completely freaking out (in a good, excited way).

[Masel]

I've told my mom, the doctor's office and my online friends here and at one other board. My DH told his parents only after he had me do a second test. LOL We plan to tell our siblings this weekend when we see them all.

I've not told my 3 year old daughter because we need to have a few other coversations first. She's adopted and told me once that she was in my tummy. We've talked about adoption and her birthfamily quite a bit but I don't think she gets it yet. I hate to wreck her world with both sibling rivalry and a realization about what adoption really is all at the same time.

[lil_stinkyfeet]

I have only told a couple people so far.. I am waiting to have my levels checked again, and to have an early ultrasound before I will tell more people. I haven't even told my mom yet.

[pjabslenz]

I've told my dh, our children, bf, my sister, mom, aunt and cousin/godchild. I'm not the one to keep this information to myself either. I've experienced an early loss before so it was important for my family, friends and children to understand why mom was sad, tired, etc.

I haven't told dh's family yet only because we're a military family and we're out of town. Dh is currently in Iraq and I've asked him if he'd like me to tell them now or wait until he's home in about 25 days. *Dh was home for his R&R over the holiday. He took his leave very late in the deployment. Just in case you're wondering.* I hated that I had to tell dh in email but I didn't want to tell others until dh knew and I just couldn't keep this secret.

[hapersmion]

We told everyone the minute we got a positive test, at about 8 dpo! I think some people thought we were a little silly, but I felt like I had been waiting forever already! And I think most people had figured out that another pregnancy was imminent. Anyway, if something bad happened, I'd probably tell people anyway. But I'm hoping not to have to worry about that.

My husband's coworkers are the only ones who don't know yet. Even the neighbors know.

[astar326]

we were planning to wait until the 2nd trimester to tell everyone, but my mom's father died the day we found the bfp, so i wanted to tell her to cheer her up & it worked. both dh & my mothers have big mouths, but they promised not to tell anyone. we also told our siblings and dh's ds' mommies. i plan to not tell anyone else until 2nd trimester like we originally planned, but we'll see if we can make it that far. i haven't said anything to my officemate and i expect her to notice, so i think i'll let it go until she asks. everyone is aware we were ttc for a long time (next time i'll keep that to myself), but when we didn't announce a pregnancy in the 1st year people stopped asking. my mom thinks this is going to be the longest pregnancy b/c she was unaware that she was pg. with me until the 2nd month (her cycles are irregular) but we are sooo excited we know early on.

[Palmetto210]

We haven't told anyone yet, though the manager at Five Guys knew when I stopped by for a burger at 9:45 pm on Monday night.

Me: I was next door grocery shopping, and this craving for hamburger overtook me...

Him: (Chuckle) Sure. What do you want on your burger?

Me: Just mustard and pickles. Oh, and no fries, only a burger!

him: Would you like some extra pickes? (big smile)

Me: No thanks. (wink)

I'm waiting for 6 weeks, though I've almost blurted out the news a dozen times already. It was hard not to tell my bible study buddies last night. Hope to tell our family and siblings first.

[Harmony96]

Originally Posted by Palmetto210

We haven't told anyone yet, though the manager at Five Guys knew when I stopped by for a burger at 9:45 pm on Monday night.

Me: I was next door grocery shopping, and this craving for hamburger overtook me...

Him: (Chuckle) Sure. What do you want on your burger?

Me: Just mustard and pickles. Oh, and no fries, only a burger!

him: Would you like some extra pickes? (big smile)

Me: No thanks. (wink)

I'm waiting for 6 weeks, though I've almost blurted out the news a dozen times already. It was hard not to tell my bible study buddies last night. Hope to tell our family and siblings first.

lol I like the hamburger story.