Originally Posted by suebee79
Just wondering, but do you tend you notice a high turnover ratio in caregivers?
Nope, but i don't use a nanny. i know that I am extremely picky about the care my child receives, and I paid a lot of money to have him in a center that agrees with my ideals. and, in the two years he was there, there was no turnover in his center.
Of course, there were times when the rules at the center were different than the rules at home. And, we didn't undermine the rules in that setting (I am a teacher after all, working with other people's children all the time!) but we didn't enforce the exact same rules at home.
When our son was in a biting phase, we certainly backed up the center's expectations that biting was not OK, but we didn't do it in the exact same way that the center did.
Our general rule is that our child is expected to follow directions from all of the adults in his life: us, grandparents, providers, neighbors, aunts/uncles, etc. And, we don't undermine those adults, but if our son's provider ever tried to tell us how to parent him to make her life easier, we would find another provider. We don't tell the center how to run its program, and I would not appreciate my providers telling us how to run our family.
Believe it or not, our son's teachers think we are wonderfully supportive, involved and committed to the ideals of their program.
But, as the director of his daycare firmly said, "You pay us a lot of money to make sure your child is well-cared for, and if you ever have a doubt about that, we need to work that out so you are comfortable with us."
and, annette, I agree with you. Kids have different expectations all the time, and need to learn how to meet those different expectations, but if a provider and a family have such wildly different expectations that they are constantly undermining each other, maybe they aren't a great fit for each other.
And, I would *never* leave dirty dishes or laundry for a care provider to handle. I would want a nanny's attention to be 100% on my child, not my breakfast dishes or my dirty underwear!!