Originally Posted by fadedgirl
Exactly. But the child whose parents do NOT want their child exposed to those items should not then be exposed to it during class at school where neither the child nor the parent has any choice in the matter. No one is telling anyone that you can't buy your kids whatever toys you deem appropriate for home use. This about what the school should or should not allow and yes, the school does have direct responsibility as to what children are exposed to during class!
We're talking toys @ show & tell in class folks, not phonics and math. I realize its great fun, but no child needs to bring their toys for exhibition during class time in order to receive a proper education. So since not bringing toys harms no one, but that bringing toys may directly interfere with how some parents are raising their children...
Should not the rights of the parents to control what their kids are exposed to (items have no bearing on their educational process and some would say, no business being in class in the first place) take precedence over the mere desire of other kids to bring things to school that are completely irrelevant to a proper education?
Well, I think a lot of teachers would see inviting kids to bring their own stuff
into the classroom as both supporting learning and supporting the parents' values.
I think the issue here is twofold:
1. Is the show and tell not being done well, and fostering competition.
2. Can you save your child from the influence of peers in the classroom, or from even coming across a commercial item.
My stance would be #1, concern. #2, not a concern. I'm still not sure which situation the OP is in.
But I can certainly say that even in a pretty non-commercial Montessori, kids talk about their toys, hide their toys in their pockets, and compare notes. Some kids might also, *gasp*, talk about being vegan or protecting the planet by not getting plastic bags.
In my radical opinion, it is okay for kids to communicate about what's important to them, whether that's a Barbie doll, a Waldorf playsilk, or recycling cans. Or imaginary dragons (although this is so cool, I'm tempted to put the pressure on!!
I don't mind a teacher getting into that and tapping into the kids' interests as long as the teacher is guiding appropriately.
I'm not really concerned that his friends' Diego shoes or Lego Star Wars toys are going to ruin my son. But if I were, I would have to have chosen a very controlled environment. Even our local Waldorf seemed to have a lot of parents talking about their engineered bamboo floors... or Priuses...