Originally Posted by readytobedone
this is actually really
helpful and kind of affirms what i've been thinking myself. i appreciate your saying that different things work with different kids. my hunch is my child (at least at this point in time) needs time-out. i guess this is probably not the place to post such a wild assertion, but there you have it
again, thanks for you kind words.
Well that is definitely the crux of any parenting conversation, isn't it? LOL That different thing work for different kids
Here's my suggestion, FWIW, feel free to offer change
I hear you that the hitting and the aggression are feeling intense. That she's hitting the cat AND the people she loves tells me that yes, she needs a boundary. And, you know her best, so if you believe she's asking for a boundary then by all means show her there is a boundary! I am of the camp that arbitrary time outs aren't always the most beneficial and should, ideally, be avoided if possible. In our house we do more of a cooling off where child can go do whatever to calm down. BUT, it IS a natural consequence for people/animals to not want to be with you when you hurt them. So, while I might adjust the method to work better for me, if my 1yo is hurting others it would be important for me to help the 1yo understand...when you hurt people they want to go away.
Have you tried the library for books you can read together? I can't think of any offhand. Maybe you could even do a photo book yourself that 'tells the story' of hitting = hurting etc.
Also, is there a way to have a little more super-active playtime with her 3-4 times a day? Like run around the house and tickle, wrestle, etc. as a positive outlet for this physical energy? Pillow fight, jump on the couch/beds, bang pots and pans etc? This could be in 15 minute spurts throughout the day, but I'd bet it makes a difference? If you already do this, do it more...LOL
I'll try and brainstorm some more, good luck mama!!
ETA: What about getting a soft bat and letting her hit the couch? Then if she hits someone you can swoop in and say Ohhhhh REMEMBER??? You can hit the couch with THIS (big dramatic silly flair while handing her the bat) but you can NOT hit Mama/Daddy/Kitty
Also, please know that if you need to walk away because you are at the end of your rope emotionally or patience wise, or whatever, there is NOTHING wrong with that. Make sure your bb is in a safe place and walk away, cool off, whatever you need to do to regroup and go back to tackling this. You can do it! This too shall pass!