I need some advice, pretty please? I don't post often, but do a lot of lurking & know you ladies will have some thoughts for me.
A little background:
First 2 kids born "doctor's orders" all the way...induction, epidural, etc, etc, but vaginally, at least. After a break in kids and a lot of education, I decided my 3rd would be born at home. It's not legal here, but I did find a midwife. Labor at home was heavenly, but baby turned at the last possible minute (I was almost fully dilated) to a transverse position and she was born by C-section. The midwife was just fine, but about the time baby was born, she started some classes and all of a sudden, she turned a bit flaky. She'd say she was coming and then just not show. She'd say let's meet, and then I couldn't get her to return a phonecall to set it up. It was no big deal...they were just "after" appointments and baby & I were fine. I just let it go.
Well, now, pregnant again, I immediately contacted her. She said she was available for a June birth and that we should start meeting when I was 12 weeks. Ever since about 10.5 weeks, I've been dealing with the flakiness again. She doesn't return messages until waaaaay later (she didn't contact me back again until I was 18 weeks!!!) And now, she says let's meet. Honestly, I'm getting a really bad feeling about working with her. I mean, you kind of want your midwife to be available, you know? Or at least reachable. Or at least return messages within an 8 week time period!
Problem is, I've exhausted all other resources in finding another underground midwife. So, my choices are:
1.Go to the hospital, with a CNM, and risk another C-sec, just because I've walked through those hospital doors. And, give up the fabulous experience of being at home.
2.Go it alone. (VBACing, of course)
3.Work with the flaky midwife.
WWYD? I just need some words of wisdom here. I'm feeling very much like all roads are leading to UCing, but I'm not feeling confident (yet) that it's the right answer for me. I have an appt with my PCM (who is also the midwife's backup doc) on Friday and was going to ask him for a referral to the midwives at the hospital. But, I can't imagine that is the answer for me.
A little background:
First 2 kids born "doctor's orders" all the way...induction, epidural, etc, etc, but vaginally, at least. After a break in kids and a lot of education, I decided my 3rd would be born at home. It's not legal here, but I did find a midwife. Labor at home was heavenly, but baby turned at the last possible minute (I was almost fully dilated) to a transverse position and she was born by C-section. The midwife was just fine, but about the time baby was born, she started some classes and all of a sudden, she turned a bit flaky. She'd say she was coming and then just not show. She'd say let's meet, and then I couldn't get her to return a phonecall to set it up. It was no big deal...they were just "after" appointments and baby & I were fine. I just let it go.
Well, now, pregnant again, I immediately contacted her. She said she was available for a June birth and that we should start meeting when I was 12 weeks. Ever since about 10.5 weeks, I've been dealing with the flakiness again. She doesn't return messages until waaaaay later (she didn't contact me back again until I was 18 weeks!!!) And now, she says let's meet. Honestly, I'm getting a really bad feeling about working with her. I mean, you kind of want your midwife to be available, you know? Or at least reachable. Or at least return messages within an 8 week time period!
Problem is, I've exhausted all other resources in finding another underground midwife. So, my choices are:
1.Go to the hospital, with a CNM, and risk another C-sec, just because I've walked through those hospital doors. And, give up the fabulous experience of being at home.
2.Go it alone. (VBACing, of course)
3.Work with the flaky midwife.
WWYD? I just need some words of wisdom here. I'm feeling very much like all roads are leading to UCing, but I'm not feeling confident (yet) that it's the right answer for me. I have an appt with my PCM (who is also the midwife's backup doc) on Friday and was going to ask him for a referral to the midwives at the hospital. But, I can't imagine that is the answer for me.
