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The grandchildren thread got me thinking. Among my friends, most have no problems with thier parents being pushy about grandchildren. By far the most and the meanest comments come when their second child is born, particularly if they then have one of each. If they don't get "fixed" and go on to have more children, the loving grandparents get angrier and meaner with each pregnancy announcement.

So, what will you do if your grown children seem to be bent on having more children than you would wish them to?
post #2 of 142
Having a 3 year old, it is hard to think about. One thing I do know is: I will never utter the word "fixed" to my son-in-law. :
post #3 of 142
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You'd be surprised how many mil's are so bold. :
post #4 of 142
I'd be happy for them. It's their choice . Hope they decide to have a lot of children too.
post #5 of 142
If they try to pull something like the Duggars, where they have more kids than they can give quality time and attention to, I'll be upset.

If they are procreating because they think a higher power wants them to, rather than just because they want a large family, I'll be upset.

But if they truly enjoy their children and are doing a good job with them, I'll relax and enjoy my grandkids!
post #6 of 142
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Originally Posted by Jessy1019 View Post
If they try to pull something like the Duggars, where they have more kids than they can give quality time and attention to, I'll be upset.

If they are procreating because they think a higher power wants them to, rather than just because they want a large family, I'll be upset.

But if they truly enjoy their children and are doing a good job with them, I'll relax and enjoy my grandkids!
I agree with this. As long as each child is well loved, cared for and truly appreciated for themselves I would have no problem with my children having as many as they wanted. I know that 2 is enough for us, at least right now, but they may feel completely different.
post #7 of 142
I wish for my children to have the number of children they want - no more, no less.
post #8 of 142
I would have no problem with the amount of children my children would want to have, as long as they provided a loving home environment for them!
post #9 of 142
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I wish for my children to have the number of children they want - no more, no less.

yeah, same here.
post #10 of 142
I consider it none of my business how many children my kids want to have. Totally their choice.
post #11 of 142
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I consider it none of my business how many children my kids want to have. Totally their choice.
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I would also have no problem if my children and their spouses decided to leave it up to God to decide.
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I consider it none of my business how many children my kids want to have. Totally their choice.
I agree
post #13 of 142
and really, who gets to say what is "too many" children? For a lot of people that would be any more than 2. other's might think more than 4

I mean, I'd of course be concerned if my kids were having a ton of babies and had no where to live or means to feed them, but it's still their choice and I wouldn't be saying hurtful things, I'd be offering to help any way I could.
post #14 of 142
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I wish for my children to have the number of children they want - no more, no less.
Exactly! Although I do really hope to have grandkids!!
post #15 of 142
I feel like I personally can really relate to this thread.

My children are really young but I can say I will be happy with how ever many children they decide to have. Its a personal choice and I would be happy.


Why I relate:

I am currently 18 weeks pregnant with our third child and while my parents could not be happier, my FIL likes to make little comments about when are we stopping, how many children we should or should not have and believe me when I say not only does it hurt, it makes me mad!
post #16 of 142
Only if they can't afford them.

I love the idea of having lots of grand kids. My hubby made me stop at two kids and I would love to see more of my genetic material spread around.
post #17 of 142
As long as all the kids are happy, loved and well cared for, I don't care.
post #18 of 142
It is totally their decision... although I would hope they would have fewer than more. I would never say anything negative if they wanted a lot. I would be supportive.
post #19 of 142
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Originally Posted by ryansma View Post
I consider it none of my business how many children my kids want to have. Totally their choice.
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I guess if the kids were being neglected or abused I'd be worried about adding to the mix. Likewise if I ended up having to raise them I'd be upset if they continued to have more. But those are special circumstances.
post #20 of 142
Another vote for only if they can't afford them. Otherwise if they want to have 80 kids I wouldn't be happier. I would probably a little sad if they didn't want to have any children, but that's not my choice.
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