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post #41 of 63
I have that, too - I look more preggo now than I did at 7-8 months with DS. I haven't the heart to break it to my 2-year-old that he's kissing mama's leftover fat and not the baby. Oh well, it makes for a nice, big, "get the hell outta my way, I'm pregnant" announcement when you most need it (like the 30-person line at the bathroom in the mall today). I'm hoping it will come in handy if I get stopped for speeding. I seriously DO look very pregnant, even if Baby is only the bottom half and leftover pudge is the top half - I have a round baby belly and I LOVE it!

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-i was cold called the other day about a class i had inquired about last year. when told it would be running again, i declined saying i was rather busy for the next few months. she persisted and i mentioned that i had a lot on my plate with my two children and the fact that i was now also expecting. her reply? "OH NO!!!!" (made me laugh)

-when people tell me "OOOOOH! look how much you're showing now! or MY how you've popped out" i pat my belly and explain- "this? this is actually just guts and pushed out intestines- the baby's actually down here. (patting below my belly button)"
post #42 of 63
I have a rather unique situation, but I won't get too into the details here. My parents and a family friend are all adamant that I think about what's best for me and the baby -- which, in their opinion, does not include my lovers.

I spent the weekend with m'loves and was really, truly happy and relaxed for the first time in two weeks.

Then the family friend called up and asked yesterday, "Are [DP1] & [DP2] pressuring you into anything?"

No, you UAV, if anyone has been pressuring me into anything, it's you! : I don't understand why they can't see that they're the biggest source of stress in my life at the moment.
post #43 of 63
Thread Starter 
I was at a party this weekend with all single friends or no-children couples. Two of my friends really want kids soon and keep asking me pg questions, which is great. But one friend's DH is NOT ready yet and keeps making comments (jokingly) for me to stay away from his wife (and everyone's wives) or I will get them pregnant. : The more he drank at the party, the more his comments became borderline nasty:

"Are you sure you should eat that? Oh yeah, you're pregnant not just chubby"

: WTF????
post #44 of 63
The same friend I mentioned in my last post had another great one ~ "you don't really look pregnant, just chubby. Like someone who doesn't work out, you know?". As if looking pregnant is a *bad* thing, and I would much prefer to just look chubby or flabby :P
post #45 of 63
Ppl making passive aggressive comments that it's wrong for me to feel bad that I am not having a girl, when I already have two boys and saying not to worry so much about the sex of the baby. I kind of feel like that is one of those, "you don't know what it feels like until you are in that situation" type of scenarios and am kind of pissed that I am being judged by someone who has never btdt before...
post #46 of 63
mags - oh, I hope you don't mean my thread from the other day. I didn't mean to come off as judgy - as I mentioned, I have my own preferences about the baby that I'm trying to let go of. What if my baby doesn't like to read? What if I *don't* get a nerd? What if the baby doesn't want to learn music? These things are just as superficial as the sex, really. Infertility has taught me that we don't have control over anything, really, mostly we are forced to go with what we get, you know? Anyway, I'm sorry if my thread made you feel judged... I tried hard to be respectful and acknowledge that these things are complicated, and I didn't mean to offend anyone.

haren.13 - I'd rather look fat than pregnant. I'm not ready to look pregnant yet, having my body announce something that I haven't yet announced... I'm finally starting to show, so it's hard to avoid at this point.
post #47 of 63
TIme to bump this thread - and add my own.

I am at 27 weeks, my Monday was typical, I was awake at 4 am, worked all day- very busy, get DD to and from daycare, workout, plan meals.

Last night I was cranky, I hadn't eaten and it was 7:00 pm, DD was melting down due to hunger and exhaustion. I had given DH the choice of staying with DD or getting a quick dinner ready (not being cranky yet). He chose making dinner. it took him almost and hour and a half to get some baked chicken, pasta and green beans on the table. After 30 minutes, I casually offered to help. After another 15 minutes I gently suggested he heat up something quick for DD and he and I could have what ever he is making. He insisted it was almost ready, just a couple more minutes. It took him almost and hour and a half to get some baked chicken, pasta and greenbeans on the table. Then DH just stood there literally in the middle of the kitchen. I helped DD eat and drink a bit before she passed out from being so tired. DH still just stood around in the middle of the kitchen, he moved after I asked him to because it was hard to move around him to get milk, silverware, etc. After DD fell asleep and I had eaten, I was still cranky. This morning DH asked me if I was "better".

*yeah*

(I must admit this is not a frequent occurence in our house, DH is usually really pretty good. Not last night, though. Sheesh.)
post #48 of 63
I went to visit family out of state last week and my mom told me that I look to be about nine months pregnant, the next day my mil asked if everything was ok with the pregnancy because I look too small. So, what am I? Too big or too small?

By the way, with my first pregnancy when I was about four months along one of my co-workers lifted up my shirt in front of other co-workers to see how pregnant I looked! My husband said I should have lifted up her shirt, I wish I had done it!
post #49 of 63
This last weekend the 2 girls that live with us came in and said, "Oh my gosh you're getting huge! We havn't seen you in like 2 days and wow" "You're going to be uhhh...uhh...VERY pregnant by the time the baby comes out"

Good grief!
post #50 of 63
Hey, maybe looking more pregnant than I am is not so bad - I actually experienced the kindness of strangers because of my big preggo belly yesterday:
We were at a park with the kids on Easter Monday and the place was packed! I need to go to the restroom badly, but when I got there, there were 15 momen in front of me and I seriously wondered how I would be able to wait. Then one older lady in the middle of the line asked if I wanted to go first, and then everybody else joined and insisted smiling saying "sweety, we know what's like - go ahead" or "oh, bless your heart! don't wait in line"
I had been a bit cranky that day, but that cheered me up.

Oh, and people have been asking to pick up and carry things for me, and saying how cool and brave it is that I am expecting baby 6 when I go out with all 6. Maybe it is the spring weather, but everybody has been very positive and friendly lately
post #51 of 63
It doesn't really bother me, but I knew I must look actually pregnant the other day when the bus driver made the bus "kneel" for me. They usually only do it for elderly people or people with disabilities.
post #52 of 63
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Originally Posted by Angelorum View Post
It doesn't really bother me, but I knew I must look actually pregnant the other day when the bus driver made the bus "kneel" for me. They usually only do it for elderly people or people with disabilities.
Heeheee. That is funny.

The other day, my neighbor (who knows I am pregnant) drove by and yelled out the window, "Hey- How'd you get so fat??!!" She is kind of a loudmouth and never had kids, so I think it probably didn't occur to her that it was an obnoxious thing to say. I saw her again a few minutes later and she went on and on about how huge I am and how I must be having a really big baby, and how I was never so big with Ingrid (not actually true). Fun times.

Luckily, most people just say- "oh you look great," whether it is true or not, which is really the only acceptable thing to say to a pregnant woman, IMO.
post #53 of 63
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Originally Posted by ATruck View Post
Heeheee. That is funny.

The other day, my neighbor (who knows I am pregnant) drove by and yelled out the window, "Hey- How'd you get so fat??!!" She is kind of a loudmouth and never had kids, so I think it probably didn't occur to her that it was an obnoxious thing to say. I saw her again a few minutes later and she went on and on about how huge I am and how I must be having a really big baby, and how I was never so big with Ingrid (not actually true). Fun times.

Luckily, most people just say- "oh you look great," whether it is true or not, which is really the only acceptable thing to say to a pregnant woman, IMO.
I'm glad I don't have a neighbor like that! I do have a friend who doesnt have kids (already had a vasectomy) who calls me "fat girl" every time he sees me. Not exactly a nickname anyone would ever want...
post #54 of 63
My grandmother's boyfriend is a doctor (not maternity care, thank god!). He was saying that WHEN we go in for a cesarean (we are planning a homebirth), can we please have them tie my tubes, because we already have enough children (this is number three). He said the same thing the day before my last birth as well (a successful HBAC). Sometimes I just want to kick him in his old man shins.
post #55 of 63
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Originally Posted by moonygoony View Post
Sometimes I just want to kick him in his old man shins.
I think that is a perfectly reasonable and effective response. What a jerk!
post #56 of 63
At my MIL's 50th birthday party, I had just stepped out of the food line with a glass and plate full of food in each hand. My MIL grabs my arm and drags me over to a couple of her friends. She says to her friends as she's rubbing my belly, "see! I'm expecting something really soon. I'm going to be a grandma!". Then she turns to me and says, "When I was pregnant, I would have punched anyone who had the nerve to rub my belly!". I just laughed at her and said, "Well, my hands are full right now..." Her eyes bugged out at that. I'm SO proud of my one and only witty response!
post #57 of 63
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Originally Posted by BlueWolf View Post
At my MIL's 50th birthday party, I had just stepped out of the food line with a glass and plate full of food in each hand. My MIL grabs my arm and drags me over to a couple of her friends. She says to her friends as she's rubbing my belly, "see! I'm expecting something really soon. I'm going to be a grandma!". Then she turns to me and says, "When I was pregnant, I would have punched anyone who had the nerve to rub my belly!". I just laughed at her and said, "Well, my hands are full right now..." Her eyes bugged out at that. I'm SO proud of my one and only witty response!
OMG! Way to go! This is the best response ever -- how often does anyone actually get to say something that perfect in the moment???!
post #58 of 63
popping over from the November DDC

I just had to add this story. My last pgcy I was nearing the end, maybe 38 weeks? Anyway i was working a yard sale at a local church parking lot and was walking (for the hundredth time) to the restrooms and this guy says really loud "Wow. you're BIG." I looked right at him, smiled and said "Wow! You're an ass!" and kept going.
post #59 of 63
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Originally Posted by mamatolevi View Post
popping over from the November DDC

I just had to add this story. My last pgcy I was nearing the end, maybe 38 weeks? Anyway i was working a yard sale at a local church parking lot and was walking (for the hundredth time) to the restrooms and this guy says really loud "Wow. you're BIG." I looked right at him, smiled and said "Wow! You're an ass!" and kept going.
HA! I love it!

I hate when I'm in a situation and cannot think of anything witty to say. Yet hours later I come up with the perfect come back!
post #60 of 63
I don't know if this qualifies as rude, but it was definitely strange. I was at the pool the other day, in my bathing suit, so it's very obvious that I'm pregnant. A teenaged boy came up to me and said, "Are you having a baby?" I said yes, and he said, "Boy?" I said, "No, a girl." He said, "Oh," and walked away.
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