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post #1 of 18
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After 16 months of TTC you'd think I would have a plan in place, but... what do I do now? I am : but also wanting to do something every day to celebrate being pregnant, because I want to enjoy every second. Anyone more experienced have some ideas?
post #2 of 18
i just wanted to Congradulate you binkin!!! :

i've been reading a lot. i figure after 21 months ttc and researching all about that it's time to research pg & labor.
post #3 of 18
Congrats! Enjoy it
post #4 of 18
Hubby was asking me the same thing yesterday. I told him that my doctor was all set for the home birth, and I would see her in a couple of months when I was twelve weeks along. And that all we needed to do was eat, drink, exercise and rest. He kept bringing me glasses of water all night.

Ways to have fun and honor it:

Pictures of your belly every week in the same bikini.
Belly cast before and after
Rub olive oil into your skin (I heard that Italian Midwives would tell new dads to rub her belly with olive oil for strong baby, I'm thinking that was for his rough hands which would be there anyways, so they might as well do some good.)
Journal - everyday about everything - it's only the first time once
Drink Red Raspberry Leaf Tea (not bigelow)
Read Midwife Stories about birth
Find an old copy of What to Expect when you're Expecting, and shred it page by page for stress reflief or read it for comic relief.
Get a copy of Birthin from Within

You asked for BTDT, please discard any of my things which you do not care for. Your birth, your choice.
post #5 of 18
You enjoy your baby, and your blossoming belly sweetie! You so deserve this, and you should do everything that pops into your head. Go buy some maternity clothes, even if just at a thrift store. Go buy some baby clothes, or other baby things! Start a ridiculous registry that you can change later. Get some preggie drops for soon.
post #6 of 18
Oh my gosh. What to do when you find out you are expecting. This is your first right? Well pregnancy is beautiful. All of it. Even the things you hate at the time they happen, when you look back you think of it as a fond memory and even tell your children, "You know what you did to me when you were in my stomach?????"

So some people have a wonderful pregnancy and they would never know they were pregnant if not for the protuding belly. But for most of us if you don't already have crazy things happening in the first trimester then you will get plenty in the second and third.

I would say just relax and be glad you haven't gotten to the part that makes you say to yourself every day "Is it freakin time yet?"

Try doing things you can't really do when you get larger. Long walks, rearranging all the rooms in the house, cleaning off those top shelves. Pretty soon all that stuff will be next to impossable.

But just for fun you could start making a baby scrap book. Store baught ones are nice but ones that are cover to cover things that are your idea and inspired by your little bean hold a lot more sentimental value.

I know also in my early months what really gets me through the long and boring days is that show A baby story. I love that show so much. Or special delivery. Anything that has to do with babies being born.

Then also there is a day by day pregnancy calendar that I just love on www.justmommies.com. You can personalize it to your due date and I remember in my last pregnancy I just loved getting up every morning and reading that thing. It was like the highlight of my day. I already have one made for this little one.

Also spend lots and lots of time with DH or DP if you have one. If this is your first child then I am guessing right now you have all the time in the world with your guy. Some people don't take advantage because they see it as something that is always going to be there. You could plan a date night once every two weeks or something until the baby comes because once he/she does come, alone time is usually a thing of the past unless you have family close by that like to give a helping hand. I think it has been over a year since DH and I have had any alone time.

Well those are some ideas. Pretty common, but all I can think of.

Trust me, time is going to fly so fast and pretty soon you are going to wonder where it went. I remember with my first pregnancy it felt like it took 2 months for the whole thing to be over lol.
post #7 of 18
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Thanks for all the ideas. I have actually been making a baby book and writing down how I feel (so far just yesterday when I found out!) because I want the baby to have that to look back at. Also so I remember

I have Sheila Kitzinger's book... well, one of them. I am going to go read it now.

I just got a call so I forgot what else I was going to add, so I'll leave it there for now!
post #8 of 18
I started drinking water. Also started the Brewer's diet, started keeping a journal, started doing better with exercising (or trying), started Kegels.... And I'm rereading all my pregnancy books from last time before I go get new ones. Yeah, I'm excited.

Whatever you do, DON'T go look at your calendar week by week and notice how long it will be... 35 weeks (ish) seems really short as long as I don't look at the calendar!
post #9 of 18
Congrats!!::
post #10 of 18
Are you keeping a pregnancy journal? That would probably be something you could do every day to celebrate. You could also cook something special, make or buy baby things, make a scrapbook. Take belly pictures.

Read lots of birthing books, birth stories, parenting books. These are all things I would be doing if I had more time...
post #11 of 18
You've been given great suggestions! I just want to add -- get professional maternity photos done, if you can afford it. I really wanted to do this last time but decided we couldn't afford the expense and I could always do it for #2. Well, after the stretch marks ds gave me in my last weeks, I really don't want naked belly photos anymore. If only I had gotten my parents to pay for that instead of that unused crib...

Congratulations and enjoy the ride. It's very, very special.
post #12 of 18
Congrats! What a miracle after 16 months! It only took us 12 months to conceive my first but boy was I in heaven when I got that BFP! Take belly pics, get some nice pthalate free body products (I love burts bees and California baby), get some Yummy belly oil (I love Mama Mio tummy rub), knit crochet or sew cute baby stuff, check out cloth diapers and clothes (do it now before the federal gov shuts down WAHMs for their "unsafe" wares in february), Start a journal or write letters to your precious angel, and enjoy! Pregnancy is a special time and you'll never EVER be pregnant with this child again, so savor every moment!
post #13 of 18
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Originally Posted by binkin View Post
After 16 months of TTC you'd think I would have a plan in place, but... what do I do now? I am : but also wanting to do something every day to celebrate being pregnant, because I want to enjoy every second. Anyone more experienced have some ideas?
I'm so thrilled for you!!

I feel the same way. I'm pregnant with #3 but I really have no idea what to do. I keep saying thank goodness I have 8 more months to get things done, but I also have a million ideas going on in my head. I need to get all the information in my brain sorted so I can start to figure things out gradually as I go I guess. I haven't been through this in a long time and my life has seriously changed in the last seven years since my last pregnancy.
post #14 of 18
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Originally Posted by fyrebloom View Post
Start a journal or write letters to your precious angel, and enjoy!
I did this with my first two. In fact I found the diary I kept with them both just the other day while searching in some old boxes. I was thrilled to find it! I plan to start baby #3's diary as soon as I can. I've just been putting it off because I still can't really believe I'm actually pregnant. Hopefull it will hit me soon.
post #15 of 18
Thread Starter 
Fyre -- did you see they put a stay on the CPSIA legislation? I sell some children's things so I have been following that REALLY closely, so we can only hope they get some sense about it instead of making stuff even harder for small businesses in this already wrecked economy. Sheesh. End soapbox.

I am going to cast on a baby sweater today and also have a hat in the works, and I should probably go ahead and start knitting wool soakers. I think we are planning mostly prefolds with covers... I should start a separate thread on that, I guess.

I feel like this is all I want to talk about! I'm still terrified that the baby bird might not be sticky but every day I feel a little better. I think I'll feel a lot better on Tuesday after AF is officially "late."

Oh -- I am keeping a journal, both for myself to remember and so baby bird will have it to read when they get older. I really like to look at my own baby book and imagine my mom writing in it. (I lost my mom in 2007, so it seems especially bittersweet.)

I am making a "registry" by using Wists so I can put stuff from hyena cart and Etsy and whatnot on it. I looked at Babies R Us and Target and stuff but most of the things I just wasn't that thrilled with. I was telling a friend I am more interested in getting fabric and yarn to make things, and getting handmade gifts from some of DH's craftier family members.

I am just thrilled, seriously, I'm probably going waaaay overboard with the enthusiasm but oh well!
post #16 of 18
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Originally Posted by binkin View Post
Fyre -- did you see they put a stay on the CPSIA legislation? I sell some children's things so I have been following that REALLY closely, so we can only hope they get some sense about it instead of making stuff even harder for small businesses in this already wrecked economy. Sheesh. End soapbox.

I am going to cast on a baby sweater today and also have a hat in the works, and I should probably go ahead and start knitting wool soakers. I think we are planning mostly prefolds with covers... I should start a separate thread on that, I guess.

I feel like this is all I want to talk about! I'm still terrified that the baby bird might not be sticky but every day I feel a little better. I think I'll feel a lot better on Tuesday after AF is officially "late."

Oh -- I am keeping a journal, both for myself to remember and so baby bird will have it to read when they get older. I really like to look at my own baby book and imagine my mom writing in it. (I lost my mom in 2007, so it seems especially bittersweet.)

I am making a "registry" by using Wists so I can put stuff from hyena cart and Etsy and whatnot on it. I looked at Babies R Us and Target and stuff but most of the things I just wasn't that thrilled with. I was telling a friend I am more interested in getting fabric and yarn to make things, and getting handmade gifts from some of DH's craftier family members.

I am just thrilled, seriously, I'm probably going waaaay overboard with the enthusiasm but oh well!
No, you're adorable with the enthusiasm! And I don't blame you -- SIXTEEN months!! Seriously, I was going crazy when TTC #1 and we got it in the third month. I'm sooooo impatient.

I have to go check out this Wist thing... Oh, and please do start a thread about diapers! I love diaper talk!
post #17 of 18
I know I’m a bit late on this – but I’m so glad you asked that! I’ve been thinking something similar. When I first started trying to get pregnant I had all this stuff all mapped out in my head, but as the months went on I gave up even thinking it was going to happen.

And now, I seem to be stuck – I don’t want to plan anything or get too excited yet, but at the same time, the accountant in me is screaming “PLAN! PLAN! PLAN!”
post #18 of 18
This is a fun topic, but sadly Binkin (the OP) had a miscarriage. So if it's all right by y'all, I'm going to go start a new thread so she doesn't keep getting email notifications about new replies, reminding her.
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