Originally Posted by dhammamama
But there was a time I was at such a low ebb that even houseplants seemed too needy!
I am still laughing at this.
This is why we have no plants and no pets, and haven't ever had any. Last week I considered buying a cactus, but didn't because I didn't want to have to water it once/month.
We will be bringing a bear-dog home this spring with a companion dog (probably mutt or retired sled dog), but they will be indoor-outdoor, and mostly outdoor dogs. We wouldn't have them at all except that we live in the woods and surrounded by mountains with coyotes, lions, black and grizzly bears and other big hungry animals, and our boys are tasty-looking. Without the dogs, it wouldn't be safe to send them out the door to play come spring, so for that privilege, I'll care for a couple of dogs. I do like dogs, though and they'll have lots of company lest anyone think they'll be treated cruelly or with indifference- they won't; our boys will adore them as will dh. I just can't imagine being all that close to an animal right now, but with 5 others who will, they'll be fine.
dhammamama, I'm glad the analogy worked. I have lots
of those... I pull them out when I try to explain what I feel like to dh, who isn't here nearly as much as me, and who has lots of alone time at work, when he doesn't have to interact with anyone or even do anything but read and write- and tend to very infrequent strange sounds (usually nights at a young offenders jail).
If I wasn't clinically and chronically hypothermic, I would go for walks as soon as he arrives at home...
I have an ukulele arriving this week and it's electric/acoustic which means that I can play it with earphones on. I am hoping this might bring a bit of relief to me. It won't be quiet, but it will give me a version of privacy that might be better than nothing, and of course, dh and I are hoping that playing will help with my healing process since the uke is such a happy and sweet-sounding instrument (and I've been wanting to play one for years).
Thanks for confirming the real needs of introverts, mamas! For me, this thread has sparked some conversations irl with other I's that may result in us helping one another find some solutions to what seems like a pretty common set of issues for us non-outgoing introverts. Here's to hoping!