Who's finding out the sex of the baby?

[Bromache]

Okay, who's finding out?

I'm so undecided! With pregnancy #1, I could have gone either way, but DH was dead set against knowing, so we waited. It was really hard telling the ulterasound tech not to tell us and drove me a bit batty from time to time, but was a wonderful surprise all the same. I pulled him up onto my chest myself and just held him for a few minutes before finding out, and it was so exciting and special. I think it's also more fun to announce the birth if no one knows the sex yet.

But, on the other hand, I found it a tad difficult to bond without knowing, and hated calling the baby "it", which would slip out a lot... So, I think I'm leaning toward finding out this time. I think it will help with the name decision, too. We're so up in the air about that right now.

How about you?

[haleyelianasmom]

I didn't vote yet, but I'm leaning towards no. I thought my husband was dead set on finding out, but the other day he said he really didn't feel like he absolutely needs to know this time. We found out the sex of our daughter, but I think it might be fun to have this one be a surprise. I'm not as impatient to know the second time through. So probably no.

[binkin]

We probably will. It's our first and I think we won't have the patience to wait. And as DH said: It will be a surprise when we find out, whether that's at 20 weeks or when the baby is born. Plus then we won't have to get as much green and yellow stuff I would like to be able to use the names we have picked and I feel like it would make it all more real.

[MamaRue]

i voted "no way!" i loved the surprise with my first one. and i am one of those people who is extrememly suspicious of the safety of ultrasound so i am hoping i can go through another pregnancy without one! are there any other "say no to unnecessary ultrasound" mamas out there??!!!

(note the word "unnecessary"...of course sometimes a midwife or ob has good reason to order one and it could perhaps outweigh the risks)

[jillybeans]

Yup. I like to know, and plus, my dh is already freaking out at the possibility of a third girl, and I don't want him nutso my whole pregnancy. He's going to need time to adjust.

[Leilamus]

I voted no because I'd like to keep it a surprise this time. This will be our last and I found out with my other two, I'd like to be surprised this time around. DP just assumed we would find out but I don't think he's really upset with the idea of not finding out.

[CaliMommie]

We definietly want to find out. We plan to have the u/s tech write down the gender & seal it in an envelope...then we'll take the envelope to the bakery & have them make a cake with the filling either pink or blue, depending on the gender. We'll have my parents, siblings, a few friends over & let DS1 cut the cake so we all find out at the same time

[Beckula]

I love the surprise, so no. Plus any incentive to push in the end, other than baby of course, is a good thing. I figure if its a boy than well, good,, I have boy clothes and if its a girl, she would have been in boy clothes anyway . I try to buy moist of our tiny clothes in unisex colors anyway.

[Bromache]

Originally Posted by CaliMommie

We definietly want to find out. We plan to have the u/s tech write down the gender & seal it in an envelope...then we'll take the envelope to the bakery & have them make a cake with the filling either pink or blue, depending on the gender. We'll have my parents, siblings, a few friends over & let DS1 cut the cake so we all find out at the same time

What a cool idea! You have to make sure you get pictures of this!

Originally Posted by Beckula

I love the surprise, so no. Plus any incentive to push in the end, other than baby of course, is a good thing. I figure if its a boy than well, good,, I have boy clothes and if its a girl, she would have been in boy clothes anyway . I try to buy moist of our tiny clothes in unisex colors anyway.

Good point! That WAS a big motivation during pushing.... Hmmmm.....

[darcytrue]

Yes, definitely! I'd love to get a 4D u/s as well, although that has to be done on our own and I'm sure it's expensive.

[darcytrue]

Originally Posted by CaliMommie

We plan to have the u/s tech write down the gender & seal it in an envelope...

Great idea. I think I may use it for DH and I just so we don't get the news while in the U/S and we can take it home and enjoy it together in private with our children.

[Norasmomma]

I can't decide, but I already believe that I am having a baby boy. My MIL(who doesn't know yet) had a dream last night we had a beautiful baby boy and that DD was holding him and so proud. It was freaky, I wanted to tell her, but I didn't we are still waiting a bit. I am already convinced that it's a boy because I feel way more crappy than with DD.

We may find out-I love that cake thing, but I think I will let the u/s tech tell DD who can tell us, I think that would be fun and would let her be involved.

[thomatuttle]

Luckily DH and I are both on the same page about this one. We both think that this is really the one true surprise in life and we want it to stay that way until LO comes out. We'll come up with a name to call LO so that we don't have to say "it" all the time. When my mom was pg with my brother and I, we both had names based on our movements. He was Thumper because he kicked a lot and I was Mouse because I had very slight little movements. I'll probably have the u/s tech write the gender on a piece of paper and put it in an envelope just so we can have it in the baby book.

[MamaRue]

just reminding ya'll we have an awesome "ultrasound" discussion going on on another thread...something to check out (especially for those considering the 3d/4d ultrasounds or any ultrasound that isn't medically necessary...weigh the risks/benefits very carefully!!!)

xo

[chicaalegre]

We found out with our daughter, and I regretted doing it. We didn't want to tell everyone the sex before she was born, because I didn't want to get a bunch of gendered frou-frou gifts at my shower, and you know, people start talking differently when they know. So we knew, but we didn't tell anyone, and it was sooo annoying. People were mad at us, people guessed and used their choice of pronouns, the whole thing was just ridiculous. So this time around, I don't even want to know. Then people can leave me alone about it.

[fyrebloom]

We're not finding out. It doesn't matter to us, as long as we have a healthy baby. I'm probably not even going to get an ultrasound just because it's more stress on me!

LOVE the cake Idea! How cute!

[dani76]

Originally Posted by CaliMommie

We definietly want to find out. We plan to have the u/s tech write down the gender & seal it in an envelope...then we'll take the envelope to the bakery & have them make a cake with the filling either pink or blue, depending on the gender. We'll have my parents, siblings, a few friends over & let DS1 cut the cake so we all find out at the same time

This is such a cute idea!

I don't know what we will do. Last time I didn't want to know at all, until it got closer to the u/s. Then I really wanted to know. DH would like to know. So, maybe??

[Carlito's_wife]

Oh my gosh that cake thing is such a cool cute idea. I think I am going to have to steal it lol.

But I voted yes. I have to know. I am one of those "I have to know." people. I like to have clothes bought all the up to 3 years of age before the baby comes. We live on a military base so if I start buying as soon as possible I can find sales at the PX where most things are 25-75%off and they are already dirt cheap and tax free to begin with.

DD just turned 1 and I kept all of her clothes and pretreated like a maniac so they all look next to new and I kept them all stored away and didn't get rid of anything. People joke that my closet looks like a department store and since she is my first daughter her closet looks no different. It would be so nice to have another girl who could just use all of these cute clothes again. But DH is dead set on a son.

[astar326]

Originally Posted by MamaRue

i voted "no way!" i loved the surprise with my first one. and i am one of those people who is extrememly suspicious of the safety of ultrasound so i am hoping i can go through another pregnancy without one! are there any other "say no to unnecessary ultrasound" mamas out there??!!!

(note the word "unnecessary"...of course sometimes a midwife or ob has good reason to order one and it could perhaps outweigh the risks)

i couldn't agree more

[astar326]

Originally Posted by Norasmomma

I can't decide, but I already believe that I am having a baby boy. My MIL(who doesn't know yet) had a dream last night we had a beautiful baby boy and that DD was holding him and so proud. It was freaky,

my mom had a similar dream before i told her. she also saw a boy... interesting