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post #1 of 27
1/31/09 at 1:46pm
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I'm 39 weeks tmw, and I only have a small window left to HB. After Thurs. my mw is booked, and the only other backup is my OB.

I really don't want to leave my home, and I am praying things start up here soon. Please pray for me.
post #2 of 27
1/31/09 at 2:02pm
I do not believe anyone, especially your midwife should be pushing you to have your baby considering you are only 39 weeks. It should not matter if your midwife is booked. If she took on too many clients that is her problem to deal with. And chances are two of you would not be delivering at the exact same time.

Lisa
post #3 of 27
1/31/09 at 2:12pm
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Originally Posted by Georgetown HB Mom View Post
I do not believe anyone, especially your midwife should be pushing you to have your baby considering you are only 39 weeks. It should not matter if your midwife is booked. If she took on too many clients that is her problem to deal with. And chances are two of you would not be delivering at the exact same time.

Lisa
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Oh mama...your baby will pick its birthday, and it will pick the best day for its birth. I am very concerned that a HCP would be encouraging a deadline, especially such an early one. I wish you all he best....
post #4 of 27
1/31/09 at 2:13pm
My midwife has at least one backup midwife she can call on in case she's called to two births at once or is otherwise unavailable. Is this not something yours does?
post #5 of 27
1/31/09 at 2:36pm
Are you in the UK with an NHS midwife? Or Canada?
If you're in the states with a private midwife, that is totally 100 percent unacceptable. If you have a contract and you paid her, then she needs to refund you money and refer you to another provider.
Without knowing all the facts, I'm just really overwhelmed at how utterly unprofessional your midwife is being.
post #6 of 27
1/31/09 at 2:44pm
Just "yeah that"ing all the responses.
post #7 of 27
1/31/09 at 4:17pm
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Originally Posted by SereneBabe View Post
Just "yeah that"ing all the responses.
Ditto that. Your midwife shouldn't be pushing you to give birth early because she overbooked. That is ridiculous.
post #8 of 27
1/31/09 at 5:06pm
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Originally Posted by *MamaJen* View Post
Are you in the UK with an NHS midwife? Or Canada?
If you're in the states with a private midwife, that is totally 100 percent unacceptable. If you have a contract and you paid her, then she needs to refund you money and refer you to another provider.
Without knowing all the facts, I'm just really overwhelmed at how utterly unprofessional your midwife is being.

Wow. : That's a little insulting, I'm in Canada with a midwife and it would be completely unacceptable for me as well. My practice very carefully takes on a set number of patients with staggered dates, and you get to know all the midwives, just in case an emergency occurs and your primary IS at another birth. Please do not spread the misconception that universal heathcare is inferior because we do not 'pay' for it. We do pay for it, in fact we pay enough that no one has to worry about their healthcare - ever.

It sounds like the OP is in a situation that women in most countries would find unacceptable. No matter where she lives it sounds as if she is dealing with a practice that is not operating properly for some reason. I think that the problem probably centres on the midwife, and not the country's heathcare system.
post #9 of 27
1/31/09 at 5:47pm
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Originally Posted by Matilda_z View Post
Wow. : That's a little insulting, I'm in Canada with a midwife and it would be completely unacceptable for me as well. My practice very carefully takes on a set number of patients with staggered dates, and you get to know all the midwives, just in case an emergency occurs and your primary IS at another birth. Please do not spread the misconception that universal heathcare is inferior because we do not 'pay' for it. We do pay for it, in fact we pay enough that no one has to worry about their healthcare - ever.

It sounds like the OP is in a situation that women in most countries would find unacceptable. No matter where she lives it sounds as if she is dealing with a practice that is not operating properly for some reason. I think that the problem probably centres on the midwife, and not the country's heathcare system.

this exactly.
post #10 of 27
1/31/09 at 8:05pm
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I think that the problem probably centres on the midwife, and not the country's heathcare system.
: They are forcing you into a convenience induction . . . . for their convenience. That there is no medical indication for it is just deplorable. And it puts your baby in danger.
post #11 of 27
1/31/09 at 8:18pm
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Originally Posted by Matilda_z View Post
Wow. : That's a little insulting, I'm in Canada with a midwife and it would be completely unacceptable for me as well. My practice very carefully takes on a set number of patients with staggered dates, and you get to know all the midwives, just in case an emergency occurs and your primary IS at another birth. Please do not spread the misconception that universal heathcare is inferior because we do not 'pay' for it. We do pay for it, in fact we pay enough that no one has to worry about their healthcare - ever.

It sounds like the OP is in a situation that women in most countries would find unacceptable. No matter where she lives it sounds as if she is dealing with a practice that is not operating properly for some reason. I think that the problem probably centres on the midwife, and not the country's heathcare system.
As I read the first post, I thought to myself "Thank goodness I'm in Ontario, where each midwife works with a number of other midwives and there is always someone else available!"
post #12 of 27
1/31/09 at 11:27pm
JesiLynne- I hope you don't mind me jumping in here...I'm in your ddc (mostly a lurker). I wanted to let you know that I'm praying for you, as you asked! But, I can't pray for you to go into labor. Sometimes God gives us things on a "well, you asked for it" basis, and it's NOT the best. So...I'm praying for peace, and the BEST of His blessings for you...and if it could be, a homebirth before Thursday.

And now, I'm going to try to get this thread back on track.

To everyone else who totally assumed the worst and had only negative things to say to this waiting Mama...

If I have the facts straight, she was taken on by a midwife, last minute, who agreed to help her out if she could. The midwife isn't forcing induction or whatever, she just could only agree to help out to a certain point, after that she couldn't because she was already committed to the other women. So...before you assume the midwife is the "bad guy"...

Let's offer this Mama some prayer, and encouragement, and support, instead of all this "bad midwife, stupid system" stuff that is neither uplifting or encouraging.

Okay...I'm off my soapbox now.

Go have a baby, JesiLynne!!!!
post #13 of 27
1/31/09 at 11:38pm
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Originally Posted by Just1More View Post
Let's offer this Mama some prayer, and encouragement, and support, instead of all this "bad midwife, stupid system" stuff that is neither uplifting or encouraging.
I did not know the facts. You are perfectly right and very nice to bring the thread on track. So,...
Healthy homebirth or otherwise satisfying and wonderful outcome vibes to you JesiLynne! :
post #14 of 27
1/31/09 at 11:48pm
I didn't get the details of the circumstances.

Is there another midwife, though, who might be available that you could find?
post #15 of 27
1/31/09 at 11:49pm
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Originally Posted by Matilda_z View Post
Wow. : That's a little insulting, I'm in Canada with a midwife and it would be completely unacceptable for me as well. My practice very carefully takes on a set number of patients with staggered dates, and you get to know all the midwives, just in case an emergency occurs and your primary IS at another birth. Please do not spread the misconception that universal heathcare is inferior because we do not 'pay' for it. We do pay for it, in fact we pay enough that no one has to worry about their healthcare - ever.
I didn't really get the feeling that she made the comment to bash socialized medicine- it was more of a fact-finding-questioning...I think. Personally, I'd take your system anyday.

To the OP: Is it possible for you to be referred to another MW?
post #16 of 27
2/1/09 at 12:42am
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Originally Posted by ShwarmaQueen View Post
I didn't really get the feeling that she made the comment to bash socialized medicine- it was more of a fact-finding-questioning...I think. Personally, I'd take your system anyday.

To the OP: Is it possible for you to be referred to another MW?
Yea, thats exactly what I thought. There are lots of reasons to ask if one is in Canada, US or UK.

OP: I hope your birth turns out perfect in its own time!
post #17 of 27
2/1/09 at 12:49am
I was not aware of the facts either surrpounding the circumstance - I think knowing that might have changed a lot of posts/viewpoints.

Positive thoughts to the OP for the best labour/birth possible in her circumstance.
post #18 of 27
2/1/09 at 12:59am
Is there anyway she can help you if you don't go into labor when she's with another client?
post #19 of 27
2/1/09 at 3:39am
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Originally Posted by JesiLynne View Post
I'm 39 weeks tmw, and I only have a small window left to HB. After Thurs. my mw is booked, and the only other backup is my OB.

I really don't want to leave my home, and I am praying things start up here soon. Please pray for me.
40 weeks isn't the average for full term!(it's usually closer to 41). Isn't there someone who could be with you, to take the pressure off the midwife? someone besides the OB, however...I will pray.
post #20 of 27
2/1/09 at 12:58pm
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Hold on, my midwife isn't pushing me to induce. Neither is my OB.

My midwife is pretty booked. She took me on last minute, and b/c I had an Unassisted Pregnancy there aren't any midwives willing to do a back up.

On Thurs. she has to go put of town for personal reasons. She can not just postpone it. My only backup plan is my OB. Now being a HBer I would prefer to not have to go to the hospital obviously.

So unless I give birth by Thurs. or the 6 women she has in Feb. give birth early and I go late ( which is a thought ). No one is talking about me going early.
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