Originally Posted by 3tammuz
Wow - it is Feb. already. I feeling over-worked. My baby will ONLY sleep in someone's arms. He has yet to take to the Kozy carrier or wrap. I am working on getting the correct size pouch. I am hoping that will help asI get NOTHING done each evening. Then when DH goes to bed, I have to start cleaning up, washing dishes and making lunches. DH helps a tremendous amount, but we both have things to complete at night. So much for painting the hallway - that is a ways off.
I understand how you feel. I use a ringsling which I prefer over a pouch since you can adjust it to any size, use the tail to cover cold wind, rain, sun, to nurse, etc. We use a zolo and I love it. It helps me get a lot of things done around the house. How old is your babe? Congrats, too!
So mamas, I have a question...
Those of you w/ a lot close in age (mine are 7, 5, 4, almost 3 and 6 weeks today) how do you make friends?? I am so lonely since we moved (which is why i'm on mdc waaaay too much
) and have no IRL friends. I feel having this many babes so young and homeschooling prevents me from having friends and being able to do many "normal" parenting things (like attend playgroup, go to fun classes, heck even shopping at a store!) Anyone kwim? For example..when we moved I stayed away from the local MDC playgroup b/c I knew my tribe was active and overwhelming for others. I attended twice (once a few weeks before babe was born and the other and last time was when babe was 2 weeks old). Now the playgroup is talking about "too many kids" and "hectic" and "playgroup for little ones only" talk. I feel it is b/c of us and just knew it would happen
I just don't know how to socialize my babes with others and not make the whole crowd wish we didnt' attend. *sigh* We also kept up w/ a homeschool group b/c I know that they are able to handle spirited school age kids (and boys at that) easier than mamas who only have one young child. So far that has gone really well (we have yet to attend w/ our babe tho) and it's once a week. Now I feel really self conscious b/c what if people there think we are too much to handle and making the group too crowded?? Ugh! I had such an amazing group before we moved and this was never an issue. It was wonderful to find friends who had spirited kids and lots of them and understood. To not worry and relax with my children for once, just be ourselves and not have to apologize or get after them, etc all the time. I am SO sad to be and feel so alone.
So how do you all do it? How do you let your children play w/ others and make it work? I don't have school to take my kids during the day (which I know would make life a lot easier..but we homeschool and we love it) and dp works days now and so we can't do what we used to a few years ago. (I would take the one or two to age appropriate things like preschool class, library storytime, playgroups, etc and the others would do something w/ dad). I don't have close friends to drop them off with like we used to, I don't have family close enough to help w/ this either. I just feel like b/c we chose to have a large family and homeschool that we in turn "chose" to have no friends and not be able to attend anything. I suppose it is something I have to realize and come to terms with and just be happy in my own world, alone.
: I think I'll tell the MDC playgroup we're not attending anymore so they can go back to normal and relax at their get togethers....