Originally Posted by PassionateWriter
thanks. i guess i will join then, though most days i dont have much advice for families with "many" kids...mine are so spread out...18, 10 (almost 11), 3 and 4 months right now. im pretty sure we are done (like 99.99999%).
Wow, ours are spread out similarly! Mine are 17, 10, 3, and 14 mos. Plus one in the belly.
I had my 1st at age 17. As someone else mentioned, although I have loved every pregnancy & baby experience, I am soooo much more relaxed now than I was in my teens/20s (I'm 35). I was just so crazy-busy, stressed out, in an unhealthy marriage.... now I'm pretty much blissed out & stress free most of the time. I find parenting to just be easier the older I get.
And also, as another PP mentioned, I'm "making up for lost time".
I've always wanted a huge family, since the moment I hit puberty I think. But life circumstances didn't allow for it. Now that I'm in a good place for it, my (2nd) DH & I are having the time of our lives making babies together.
I've missed a month or 2 of the thread.... I too always lose it for some reason! But I just sat & read the entire thread so I'm caught up.
As for the question brought up re support & outlets for me to follow my own pursuits... I meet my friends mainly through our homeschool groups. I also enjoy "meeting" people through my blog. I've made some lovely friends online just by discovering each other's blogs. I can't decide if I'm intro or extroverted. It seems to change. I also receive an enormous amount of support from my dh. I never go out without kids, though. Every now & then I get a 10 min shower without kids in the room, otherwise I don't have my own body space. It doesn't usually upset me only because I'm enjoying this season of my life, the baby making season.
As for following my own pursuits, they're often kitchen & gardening related. I make all our foods from scratch, we hope to have some land & livestock one day soon... Plus I'm a major book nerd & read a ton. Plus I enjoy our homeschooling...
But in all seriousness, PreggieUBA2C
, it sounds like you need some change.
: I really wish I had some great suggestions & could be helpful.
Is your dh open to allowing you to get out alone sometimes? On a day he's home? Do you have access to a vehicle during the day & could you get out with the kids to a park or something out in the healing sun? Maybe have a hike? A change of scenery? Also, have you taken a close look at your nutrition? In the past I've personally made some big dietary shifts & began new supplements (like adrenal gland supporting tonics because I was tired & faint, chromium for blood sugar regulation, cod liver oil, D3....) & felt amazingly better. I really hope you're able to make some changes & find more joy.
On to a frivolous topic
, I've never seen a Duggar episode because we don't have TV but just the other day my mom said she's going to start recording them for me & send them to me. YAY! I'm really excited!
Re food, we place a bulk foods order monthly that's usually around $400. I spend around $100/week on groceries/household stuff besides, and about $50 monthly on raw milk & our meats from a nearby farm. We're a family of 6 going on 7. Only a portion of our diet is organic because we just can't afford it.
Re dinnertime, ideally I love it when the older kids set the table, I put all the food on it, & we serve & eat together at the table. But our 3 yr old just tries to play with all the food! He'll stab the butter & spill the salad & splash the soup so we spend much of the "relaxing" meal policing him.
So we usually just serve ourselves straight out of the pot on the stove & carry our dishes to the table. My dh has this totally bizarre habit of *pacing* when he eats.
He will carry his plate around, eating, while pacing & pacing & pacing the room. It's a funny habit, but I've gotten used to it. lol He still engages in our table conversations & stuff.
And re birthday parties, we have small one with just family at home. A few gifts, plenty of tasty mom-made food, nothing huge and/or expensive.
Ok, I think I'm done
ing ! lol I guess this is what happens when I lose the thread for months, I feel like I have to post a novel. Heh. Also, my kids are totally sick, so I'm just sitting here breastfeeding Mr Grumpy.