Originally Posted by THANKFULFORFIVE
We spend around $160--200/week on groceries for a family of 6.
Originally Posted by mataji4
We spend about $200-250 per week on food. That's almost entirely organic.
Originally Posted by annettemarie
We spend $200 every two weeks.
We spend $400 per week on groceries- just food. I buy bulk, unprocessed, organic when available. We eat a traditional european diet. When we eliminated the organics, we saved about $70 per week, but it wasn't worth it because nutrients were so lacking that we ended up spending money on supplements (not $70, but close) and the taste difference was severe. So we buy organic food.
Maybe it's just where we live, but to eat processed/prepared, chemical-laden foods, our bill would easily be cut in half. I'll be starting our very first garden this year, hoping to reduce our food budget a bit. That, and by autumn, dh will be able to hunt game, also reducing our food expenditure. I cannot imagine what the prices must be like to be able to feed so many with so little, even accounting for the difference in the dollar.
Right now, my biggest struggle by far is that I am with our dc 24/7 and in a cabin in the woods, isolated. My dh is gone about 50-60 or more hrs/wk. It's been like this for six years and I'm really beginning to doubt whether I am actually doing our dc any service by raising them as a non-human, vending machine. In my former life, I made art every day, had a few friends whom I actually saw, did things, went places, relaxed, digested my meals, read, had quiet and alone time, laughed and smiled a lot, could walk without being winded and didn't wish that I could allow myself to not compound my depression with feeling guilty for being depressed (because I wasn't).
After six years of having no indication of who I am, divesting of myself into all of the others in my home, dh included, fulfilling the role of someone I am not- a happy homemaker (I love my family; I am just definitely NOT Mrs. Cleaver), my health having declined to a point that I am at risk for multiple organ failure (chronic sleeplessness and too much work/stress and moving 8 times in 6 years, having an unaware dh who has been absorbed in his own pursuits and seems to think that what I experience is 'normal'
:, so hasn't been much of a help to me thus far, although he's made a commitment to take our dc out so I can have a break... we'll see if it happens more than once), I am weary and I need some encouragement because I cannot continue on like this. I mean cannot, not *will* not. I am so far past will that it isn't even an issue anymore. My blood pressure on a good day is 94/56; more stress=lower pressure=passed out with four small children alone in the woods.
So, I am here wondering if all you mamas have support, friends, family, or anyone who assists you in any way. Do your dhs work with you, look after the dc, take them out or stay in so you can go out? Are you all just the sort of people who are very naturally mums of many? Are you all extroverts (I am extremely introverted)? How do you manage? Is this just a very long and torturous phase I'm going through? Are all of your interests easily intertwined with family life?
I have a long list of interests, and as an introvert, not surprisingly, they are all things I like to do alone or beside, but not with, others. Doing them with others really ruins my enjoyment such that even though I could do some of them with for the sake of others, doing so wouldn't meet my needs, so I'd still be in a huge deficit. This is excruciating.
Sorry to spoil the thread; it was all so uplifting before I wrote this, but I don't know who else to ask. Anyone in my real life just figures I should suffer for what they perceive as my choice to have this many dc. I made my bed, is what my mum said (we don't talk anymore...)
It just doesn't seem from this thread at least that many of you are dealing with this. Are you?
ETA: To give you an idea of the resources that would be at my disposal based upon average number of children where I live, here are the figures from our 2006 census (the most recent):
Average number of children at home per family
Couple families 1.1
Married couples 1.0
Common-law couples 1.1
Single parent 0.8
There are no playgroups and no centres designed for families with children at all. If I wanted to have a group or a centre, I would have to start one myself and find people to come. We just moved here in September, and I don't have the energy to do what I wish I could with my dc as it is; I have nothing extra- I'm always ina deficit.