November '05 Mama Chat Thread for February '09 - Page 5

[spughy]

Call me curmudgeonly, but I don't do Valentine's Day. It is such a Hallmark holiday, and yet another excuse for unnecessary spending, with guilt added on. I gave my husband a nice kiss this morning and wished him a happy valentine's day and that's the end of it. (I hope, I'll clobber him if he comes home with flowers or something.) Not that I have any objection to flowers or tokens of affection or evenings out or whatever - I just don't like them being dictated by corporations.

My mom is visiting at the moment - she had all her cardiac tests done at the hospital in Vancouver on Wednesday and aside from a minor electrical thing, she's fine - her heart is strong and healthy and she's got no arterial issues or anything like that. She is possibly a good candidate for some kind of re-zapping procedure that will eliminate the misfiring bit, but she has to wait 2 years to see that particular specialist so in the meantime she's on a couple of drugs which she doesn't think are actually helping any and life goes on.

Rowan's got a nasty, nasty cold and has been enjoying a few days of vegging in front of the TV. Poor little bug - you know it's bad when your bed-avoiding child starts asking when bedtime is at about 7:30. She's in her Hallowe'en costume because it's fuzzy and warm, and is terribly cute, but still not feeling all that good. And I know it's wrong, but it's been kind of nice having a few days of lower energy. :

[Queen of Cups]

Ugh, can I just whine for a minute? I think I figured out what has been going on with me for the past few weeks. I'm almost sure I have an ulcer! I've been in pain after eating, it explains me passing out (due to anemia, which often happens with ulcers), and they do run in my family - my grandmother almost died from ulcers once or maybe even twice. I have suspected ulcers in the past a few times, and I talked about it with my nurse practitioner and explained that I don't want to do a run of antibiotics while nursing (I'd rather deal with ulcer pain than thrush, honestly), and so she told me if it flared up again to do Prilosec OTC. So I'm going to pick some up today. Hopefully I'll start feeling a lot better soon! I feel like an idiot for not putting it all together sooner, though.

[flapjack]

I'm glad you figured it out, Jen

Spughy, we don't do the Valentines thing here either. Skye made a card at school, brought it home and we asked who she was going to give it to. She looked at us blankly and said "it's for me." Then we asked who her valentine was, and she said "me. I'm my valentine." So that's that. Oh, and she made special valentine biscuits at school and fed one to daddy and two to River. I feel SO appreciated.

eta: Amy, gorgeous picture, gorgeous blog entry, but your trousers were bugging me.

[Onemagicmummy]

we dont do valentines here either. DH and I first started going out together on feburary 13th 1999, (yip 10 years ago) so it was a bit weird that valentines. the next year we decided to celebrate on the 13th instead. its been the same ever since. this yer we celebreaed even earlier as we knew we would have no money this week so we went out on 31 janurary instead.

Harrison isnt in school yet. he ws due to start in Janurary but the school said sorry no room, which i understand, and sure start never got back to me so im guessing they had no room either so he is still at home with me, till september. i know that its going to be hard once he starts, they are not going to know how to deal with him, he is just so darn loud!!! he is loud walking, he is loud talking, loud doing everything he does. he drives me batty!!!

the poor lad is going to have a lot to deal with this year. daddy maybe going back to work after being off for a long time, new baby due is august then school in september, at least its only half days.

DS2 is now out of nappies. yey. we havent taken him out and about yet in no nappy, but it wont be long, i have to find a bag and some spare clothes for when we go out.

DH had a brocoscopoie(sp) last week. he has been having breathing trouble for months now since september! in nov/dec he had 3 cheast infections one after the other plus a cold, a virus, and a tummy bug that made 5/6 of us ill, only DS2 didnt get sick with that one. DH has had blood tests, xray's and finaily a referal to a specalist. trusty old NHS messed up, his referal took a short while to come throught, so we got hte NHS choices thing, he picked a date, booked it at That Hospital, got told by GP's that some one messed up and he would get a letter from Other Hospital with an appointment. we did get a letter. 3 weeks later, it arrived on 27th Janurary, with an appoinment for 26th Janurary. it was written on 22nd, not posted till 26th. we laughted. DH then decided it would be best to see if he could use his health insururance to see a private specalist. he got an appointment with in a week, went, then got told he had to go to Bigger Hospital, which is in a city miles away from us. for a Broncoscopie, poor lad had to do it fully aware as he was alone and getting home on public transport. he said if he ever has to have it again he was sedated it was horrible and he did not like it one bit.
they took biopsies and he has to go back to see the Dr on Tuesday so hopefully its not something serious, the Drs so far think its Asthma but they are not sure hence the tests. once we get to know what the problem is we can deal with it and try to get him better and back to work, (who will probably fire him for being off ill too much/long in a short time)

oh dear that post turned into a DH post not a DS2 post. sorry about that.

Kiz

[*Amy*]

Helen, that's awesome about Skye being her own valentine. I love it! My trousers were bugging you? Well they always bug me, so join the club. I'm at that point in pregnancy where NOTHING fits comfortably.

Spughy, glad to hear your mom is doing well, but sorry about Rowan. I hear you on the gratefulness for a down day, though!

Jen, hope you can get to the bottom of your ulcer issues.

I think I'm just hanging out getting more baby organizing taken care of. We're trying to decide whether to move Brynn into the room previously known as the office, and moving the baby stuff into Brynn's current room. Her room is slightly larger and would contain the stuff that would be convenient to have for baby, such as full-size bed for me & the baby, changing table, and rocking chair - the other room is too small for all of these things, but would comfortably fit Brynn's stuff now that she doesn't need the changing table and rocking chair. But, she's resisting the idea, and I'm worried about pushing it too much and making it seem like the baby is displacing her. Also, the idea of moving ALL of her stuff into the other room is pretty unappealing to me!

We're also trying to find some kind of fun weekend getaway for next weekend. It seems like our time is running out to have one last hurrah before the babe is born, so we're looking at going to Great Wolf Lodge. Anyone been there yet?

[MelW]

Amy, the photo is beautiful and the lodge looks amazing! Matt took some wonderful pregnancy photos during our night away, though they're not of the sharing online variety

QofC, I'm glad you found out the cause of your troubles. I hope it heals quickly.

We don't do big Valentines celebrations, especially since we probably could never outdo four years ago. This weekend marks four years since Neela's conception, and also four years of pregnancy, breastfeeding or both

Matt and Neela did give me a lovely card, with a drawing of a woman with her shirt lifted over her belly and little wheel that spins butterflies in it. Matt said he was thinking of baby kicks when he found it Neela painted a bunch of cards this year, as she did last year. My favourite part is making the list of who she wants to give them to- this year the seven dwarves made the list, but they have to share one card. Last year Santa got a valentine. Neither year have I made the list.

We had a birthday dinner at a friend's house last night, and visited with a family that I used to spend time with when Neela was a baby, since their first daughter is just a couple of weeks older. They have a six month old baby now too, who is soooo mellow. She was happily passed from arms to arm, and only returned to her mum to nurse when she started rooting on Matt.

[HoneyTree]

Mel, you totally reminded me! I was going to post earlier to observe that this is most of our conception month for our November '05 babies! (Unless someone else already posted that and I missed it?)

So love to all of us. And hugs to the little, or increasingly not-so-little, fruits of that love.

[MelW]

Yes, to these growing loves

I just submitted my post earlier without finishing my thoughts- one was to share a photo of Neela (and glimpse of my belly) from a seed-starting workshop that we went to yesterday. Though it was not the intent of the workshop, I've decided to either direct sow seeds or continue to buy starts at least for this year. Seed starting indoors on the ground floor isn't worth the effort to me. The workshop gave me some interesting ideas to pursue around the practices of soil turning- I've mostly followed Jeavon's double digging with garden plots, but am now reading about not disturbing soil and Buddhist gardening practices.

I have also been getting the feedback that I think I needed recently about Neela's personality as a baby. I have often wondered if her being "high-needs" was more an issue of my coping/parenting skills rather than her personality and behaviour at the time. But several people (including the mother that we visited with last night) have mentioned recently about how she was rarely happy if not in my arms and generally on my breast. So it wasn't my imagination that she spent much of her first year either fussing or nursing! Somehow this helps me in preparing for the new baby- I know that my struggles weren't just my inability to cope with the reality of babyhood, and regardless of this baby's temperament I can handle it (not that there isn't a little hoping going on for an "easier" baby)!

Anyways, I'm rambling. I love Neela to bits and am grateful for all of our adventures together, and for all of you wonderful women for travelling this road of parenting with us

[flapjack]

Amy, specifically I think you should have just taken them off and flashed your bum at the world as well : Just remember, maternity trousers were designed especially for the soap opera birth where baby arrives so quickly you don't have time to take them off- so they fall down for you. It's one of the reasons why I'm such a big fan of dungarees when I'm pregnant.

Mel, your weekend sounds lovely. I'm spending a lot of time talking to my best friend from school via facebook, whose elder daughter was a high needs, demanding baby and now has a new one.

Kiz, that stinks. Asthma is horrible and evil and shouldn't be allowed. It's good to know that the NHS is uniformly dreadful across the country, though.

Not thinking about conception month. Not at all. La la la, can't hear you

[Awaken]

I had to come and post. In the middle of a tantrum today, (about that he wanted to run away, and go on the subway by himself and go underground! Ezra went and got a beer, handed it to me, said "mama, you need one of these!" gave me hugs and kisses, then actually resumed yelling and screaming and beating at the door!!!!! It's not like I drink beer all the time, or even that he would remember it! He must be very intuitive!

I think I concieved on 3/4/05- I know it was the same day my dh got US citizenship and we were both really sick! So it was quite memorable.

We didn't get to do much for V-Day either- we have no babysitters so basically every day is just, keep the kids as busy as possible so they'll go to bed at decent hour, and we might get an hour or two alone at night! We went out to breakfast which went pretty well, the kids actually did settle down to sleep pretty easily, then I got out the chocolate, local wine, and choc. souffle I had gotten, and dh got a call from work and spent the rest of the night on the phone : So I ate my chocolate and wine alone and watched a documentary on Abraham Lincoln. Very romantic night, indeed!!!

[Queen of Cups]

I'm pretty sure Ellie was conceived on 2/26/05. My sister was out of town and after Killy went to bed DH and I had a little "date-night" watching The Ladykillers on DVD and we got romantic on the couch afterward. LOL

So, I've been taking my pill every day, but today I had some EWCF and so I'm now a little freaked! Of course after I decide I'm really and truly okay with having two kids, I would have an OOPS pregnancy! (I don't really think I'm pregnant, but it did kind of scare me!)

[barcelona]

just popping in from canada (we fly home tomorrow) to let you ladies know, i got a BFP! : i am one happy, grateful mama.

so, please send sticky-baby vibes my way

will catch up on the other posts asap!

just had to share with my mama-friends.
don't know when we'll tell any other friends and family yet...

[barcelona]

facebook friends...don't say anything on FB, (such as comment on my wall or something), as i don't want to tell people (other than you guys) yet.

thanks!!!

[flapjack]

: Oh, this is nice news to wake up to! Sending sticky vibes your way :

[Queen of Cups]

CONGRATS! I'm so excited for you!

[*Amy*]

HOORAY HILLARY!!!!

[MelW]

Congrats ::

[HoneyTree]

What wonderful news, Hillary! Sticky, sticky vibes...

[spughy]

Yay Hillary! How exciting!

[MamaFern]

YAY! hillary!!!! happy day! i love hearing those excited and joyous BFP stories. healthy baby & mama vibes going your way mama!!

you are due in October?