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post #41 of 90
DH recorded DS's birth, and he probably will again this time too. I'd also like him to take some good photos too. We got some photos last time, but this time I would like lots more.
post #42 of 90
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Originally Posted by mellowyellowmama View Post
My great-great grandmother had 5 babies at home all 10-15 lbs each...unassisted (b/c that's just how it was for them then). They were all born with no complications that I know of. Now, on a funny side note, the story goes she locked grandpa out of the bedroom after #5...she didn't want any more babies! LOL. Poor grandpa.
That's good to hear. I've been trying to hear stories about babies born vaginally weighing 15 pounds. Its definitely rare in this day and age. Anyway, its highly unlikely for this baby to be that big, but if she is, I'm mentally prepared for it!
post #43 of 90
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Originally Posted by jenneology View Post
That's good to hear. I've been trying to hear stories about babies born vaginally weighing 15 pounds. Its definitely rare in this day and age. Anyway, its highly unlikely for this baby to be that big, but if she is, I'm mentally prepared for it!
Also, had a friend who had an all natural birth at a birth center that was about 11 and 1/2 lbs. It wasn't 'easy' for her, but she did it just fine!
post #44 of 90
I don't really know where my birth is going to end up. Right now, it looks like we'll be having a UC here at home. My 17 year-old daughter is a photographer, she's actually looking at art schools to go to next year. She's been the top in her photography classes for the last 4 years...so she'll be taking the pictures. I bought her an SLR camera last year, so she'll be using that for B&W, along with my digital SLR for color pics.

I really want a waterbirth, so we'll probably set up a pool in the living room. We can run a hose from the laundry room to the living room rather easily. Also since the water heater is right next to the washer's water spigots, it should be relatively easy to keep the water warm.

I've had a few dreams about this birth. I'm hoping that it goes as well as my subconscious thinks it will!
post #45 of 90
My dad was born at home and he was 13 pounds! I am sure you will have no troubles.

I told you all before that I was keeping our HB a secret from my family until afterwards. Well, I have a good example of why. My mom (who has been a public health nurse for over 30 years and has been in the public health administration for a good portion of those) saw a link to a Mothering article on my blog, and just sent me an article warning me about Mothering!! Can you believe it? She said that they have had a lot of trouble with Mothering in the past due to the promotion of non-vaxing and co-sleeping. (This is also why I am not telling her that I am planning on co-sleeping and at the most selectively vaxing.) I started typing out a reply about different beliefs, and then just deleted and decided to ignore it. I hope she doesn't bring it up again. She really does mean well, but she has just swallowed everything the medical establishment has fed her without doing any real research, and, frankly, I don't want to take the time and energy to try to educate her now, especially when I know it won't do any good. (This is also the same woman who refuses to believe that a birth center birth or a VBAC is safe. I tried to tell her about the research and she just said, "Yeah, I've read that, too, but I still wouldn't do it.) I really hate that I can't share these things that are so important to me with her because we've always been close, but I really can't deal with this right now. Thanks for letting me vent. I just couldn't believe it--- a warning against Mothering from my own mother!!!!!
post #46 of 90
I saw my midwife yesterday and she gave me a list of supplies for the birth, which seems way too soon, I think all that will happen now is that I'll lose the list and they'll have to give me another in 10 weeks or so! She also asked me to start writing a birth plan, but from the sounds of the things she wants in it, I don't think it's going to be a traditional birth plan, so the extra time may well help, it seems like by choosing a midwife I've already made a lot of the choices that might be in a hospital birth plan, she wanted to know more about how I want to be supported, that kind of thing, so I think it's going to turn into a kind of reflective summary of previous births, including things like "I don't want routine cervical checks, but I may well demand them as I have previously gone into denial that I am even in labour, please try and reassure me of progress from other signs and minimise checks".
post #47 of 90
It does seem rather early to start getting birth supplies. One thing I learned with DD's birth, though is to put everything for the birth in one place and let someone else know where they are! Since most of the stuff on our list was common household stuff (towels, receiving blankets, cookie sheet, etc...) I just put the stuff away where I would normally keep it. Since I didn't call my midwife until I hit transition (yeah, in denial too) her, my dh and my BF were trying to figure out where everything was and I was directing between contractions, lol. It was rather comical, though.
post #48 of 90
I do not even know what is on my supply list. We have not even talked about it yet. I hear from a few friends that used my MW that it is things like towels, wash clothes, bowl. I am excited to get these things together though. So the sooner I can get a list the better. I tend to procrastinate REALLY bad.
post #49 of 90
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Originally Posted by Rikki View Post

I've had a few dreams about this birth. I'm hoping that it goes as well as my subconscious thinks it will!
You and me both! I've had a number of dreams that this birth is a perfect, awesome UC. I'm willing to gain some confidence and calm from my subconcious on that one.
post #50 of 90
Honestly, I think getting stuff together is going to be one trip to a thrift store and one trip to somewhere like Target, it's a long list, but it's not stuff that's difficult to get hold of. I plan to do it around 35 weeks, at which point I can put it all in one place, somewhere where the birth might actually happen, rather than feeling the need to put it away somewhere and probably not have one single space where I can do that.

The only thing I might do before then is if I happen to make a trip to the thrift store and happen to see something (I'm thinking sheets and towels).

In terms of planning for baby, we won't get a car seat until we get a new car (current car physically will not fit a baby, regardless of other car seat choices) and I don't think we'll get a car until April. The only other big buy is a cosleeper, so I need to check delivery times, but will probably get that around April too. I didn't move back to the country of birth until 32 weeks last time and was very unwell from 35 and a bit weeks, thankfully I had a major nesting urge just before I got sick and got everything done.

One tip I have is to have a box of things for after the birth, you can put it with your birth stuff, or out of sight, try and think a bit beyond absolute basics, such as putting a snack in there, even though you'll be in your own home, it's nice to have that pack of biscuits put aside and there for exactly when you want it! Because I was sick, I ended up with a hospital stay and birth in hospital, DH just shoved the box in the trunk, on the day he expected me to deliver and when we got home a few hours after the birth he just brought it back up to the bedroom and we had everything we needed for the first night right there. For me, it avoids the packing of a hospital bag, which screws my mental preparations, it's the same box either way, I'll probably leave a hold all type bag in the same location so if someone has a desparate urge for it to be a bag not a box they can make the change!
post #51 of 90
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Originally Posted by jenneology View Post
You and me both! I've had a number of dreams that this birth is a perfect, awesome UC. I'm willing to gain some confidence and calm from my subconcious on that one.
Are you planning a UC? I know you from the disappointing birth thread.

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Originally Posted by happyhippimama View Post
I do not even know what is on my supply list. We have not even talked about it yet. I hear from a few friends that used my MW that it is things like towels, wash clothes, bowl. I am excited to get these things together though. So the sooner I can get a list the better. I tend to procrastinate REALLY bad.
Oh my word, this is so me!
I did get organic olive oil on sale this week--huzzah, and got Arnica gel in my Frontier order. My midwife has a kit she has her clients get online. I'm getting excited about getting the house ready (read: decluttered and clean ) and things in place so DH can find hem easy. Right now he can't find anything, and of course, I know where just about everything is. Of course nothing is really where is belongs.
post #52 of 90
So what's everyone reading?

We've decided to not do any birthing classes because what I'm looking for isn't available in my area (we have hospital, lamaze, and bradley, and I have no interest in hypnobabies whatsoever), so I'm doing some "independent study." Right now I'm reading 'Birthing from Within' and love it.
post #53 of 90
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Originally Posted by sunflwrmoonbeam View Post
So what's everyone reading?
I'm reading text books, lol.

I read a lot of birth books with DS, and last semester I took a doula class and we read The Birth Partner and The Official Lamaze Guide. After this semester is over I plan on reading Adventures in Tandem Nursing and How Weaning Happens.
post #54 of 90
Since this is baby #6, I'm not reading anything... I've read everything already!

I know what I want, and I'm hoping I get what I want... I guess the only thing I really need to do is search the net for home birth supplies that I think I'll need. Since I don't have a midwife who has a list for me, I'm going to improvise. Anyone have a list they want to share?
post #55 of 90
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Originally Posted by sunflwrmoonbeam View Post
So what's everyone reading?
Right now I'm reading Birthing from Within too! It's pretty good and gives a lot to think about. I just finished Ina May's Guide to Childbirth, which was also fantastic, and before that the Birth Partner, which I'm going to have DH read for sure. I started with Henci Goer's Thinking Women's Guide and I think it should be required reading for everyone, although for the most part it just reinforced the decisions I'd already made. I also have a few pregnancy books (the Sears one, one called Natural Pregnancy) and just got the Sears Baby book too.
post #56 of 90
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Originally Posted by Maggirayne View Post
Are you planning a UC? I know you from the disappointing birth thread.
I am planning a UC. I think I posted about it on Solace for Mothers at some point. Are you pregnant too?

I even had another dream about UC last night. This time I was in a swimming pool with a friend of mine who is actually no longer a friend. Anyway, I was loving squating in the deep water (about 3 feet) and leaning on her shoulders as I squatted and pushed. The crowning of the head was a slow process and my tissues stretched wonderfully. When the baby's head was out, she looked directly into my eyes and her eyes were beautifully blue gray. When she was totally out, she was big. We didn't weigh her at anytime in the dream but I'm pretty sure she was over 10 pounds. The three weird things about that dream: my husband wasn't there, my birth support person was someone I know wouldn't be supportive of out of hospital water birth (and I haven't talked to her for close to two years) and I was in a swimming pool that I knew would have all the pool chemicals in it.

Speaking of getting ready for the baby, last week I sorted through all of my boy's clothing and separated out the clothes that could double for a girl. I was shocked at how much we could reuse. Then I went bargain shopping and picked up some girl clothes and organized those. Everything is even categorized by size and easily accessible in the kids' closet. At the bargain store, I got a bunch of towels for $2.79 each. I plan to use them to absord fluid during a homebirth. I also attempted to buy the birth pool. I say attempted because I made the purchased and then they refunded it because it was out of stock. I guess I'll be buying the fishy pool after all. I've been adding herbs for birth to a list too. Other preparation is finding out that my mother and friend back home want to put together a postbaby baby shower this summer. I've got another friend here that wants to put together a shower for neighbors and church members. The one I'm really excited about is the blessingway with Rikki. I love that blessingways focus on the process of pregnancy and birth, the spiritual implications and its not about getting stuff for the baby.

As for the question on reading, I've read most of the birth books that I'm interested in. I have some on a library reserve list but they are mostly related to birth trauma because I'm researching that right now for an article that I'd like to publish. I do have Rixa Freeze's dissertation about UC on my computer to read.
post #57 of 90
Has anyone read Ina May's Spiritual Midwifery? I'm wondering how it compares to Guide to Childbirth
post #58 of 90
Spiritual Midwifery has a LOT more birth stories, which are really nice as long as you keep in mind that pretty much everyone was high. It also really breaks down birth into clinical detail, as it's written for midwives.

I read it, enjoyed it, but I got more out of Guide to Childbirth.
post #59 of 90
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Originally Posted by jenneology View Post
I am planning a UC. I think I posted about it on Solace for Mothers at some point. Are you pregnant too?

I do have Rixa Freeze's dissertation about UC on my computer to read.
Yes, I am! Due first week of June/last week of May, so I lurk some over there. Post here more tho'.

Yay, that's fun stuff can work both ways. I sorted my baby stuff when shew as about 8-9 months and out of all the little stuff. I have a tubful of boy clothes, I'm hoping for a boy, but two girls close would be sweet too. Funny, I've really been rooting for a boy, but when I think about Elisabeth having a sister, aww, I kinda melt. And dressing them alike, well, maybe so much of our clothes are thriftstore, lol. But I soooo want to sew matching outfits for E and I for Easter. I'd better get on it! Totally OT!

I've read a ton of books, I love Baby Catcher. I am doing HypnoBabies, just got the materials from a friend this week. I would be interested in your reading list. I've started a Natural Mamas group and like to collect as many books as I can.

I kinda want to throw a blessingway for myself and several friends that are pregnant at the same time. I don't need baby stuff!

Okay, Rixa Freeze. Is that someone on here or an author, she sounds familiar?

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Originally Posted by sunflwrmoonbeam View Post
Spiritual Midwifery has a LOT more birth stories, which are really nice as long as you keep in mind that pretty much everyone was high. It also really breaks down birth into clinical detail, as it's written for midwives.

I read it, enjoyed it, but I got more out of Guide to Childbirth.
Ditto. I was so horrified at how much they'd drink to stop contractions in SM. some stories were awesome, and some were weird. It was very hippie and seventies. I liked IMGtCB much better.
post #60 of 90
I figure Spiritual Midwifery was a product of its time, and thus you have to take it with a grain of salt (perfect for all the tequila it recommends!)
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