Please help...5 y.o. said he wants to kill himself - Page 2

[almama]

While I totally agree it is very good to be cautious and follow up with the proper docs, I want to insert a note of calm too.

*Sometimes* it is a very emotional kid who wants to show you how profoundly sad or upset he is feeling and used the words he *thinks* are appropriate. I am writing this because at the time, it is good to keep it low key and say "hmm, I think you want to say you are very sad, or you need some special time." You will be giving them words for their feelings and directing them to the appropriate route. You will also not be creating a situation where he says he will kill himself and gets loads of attention.

Again, it is important to follow up and see what is going on, but try not to overreact in the moment with the child.

[Grimm]

i saw this post and had to comment...

your son is a very wise child.. im 17 and i went through the same phase. still having trouble getting out of it. therapist, doctors etc. whatever. they dont help, trust me. what you need to do is figure out the source of his fustration/anger and eliminate it. the cause could be family, you or his dad. his friends not understanding him, or just the simple fact that you think he has adhd already.. he's 5 and a little boy.. let him do little boy things let him. join a club, karate class, art, sports w.e he's into and cater to it but give him space and let him breath. because before you know it you have a teenager who doesnt know how to control his emotions, ends up realizing theres no point in getting to know people and going to school, a job and so on. to the point where he dosnt even have the energy to do the things he genuinely cares for. just saying, be more attentive, but chill. dont make him feel like somethings wrong with him. then he will. then he'll never progress. 

ps. im pretty sure its not aspurgers or adhd, if so then i have that.. theres probably something missing in life, that you can change. for all you know he could've saw a horror movie or something that had him thinking. word of advise, dont b surprised if your child becomes one the intellectuals of the family. and or an *asshole* i get that alot now

just get the thought of death, out his mind the best you can. because it may lead to other things like instead of his life it could be focused on taking others as he grows up.

show him to enjoy the little things of life, have another kid before its to late. he'll become his brothers keeper.. i dont know, just trying to help because nobody can help me, its too late now, im becoming a grown man and life gets harder.

Edited by Grimm - 5/23/12 at 6:44pm