So this weekend did not go very well at all.
It started when DH picked DSD up from her Mom's house Friday night. She started crying in the car and said she didn't want to come over anymore. DH asked her if she was sure about that and said that would mean she wouldn't see us or her sister anymore and she said yes she did not want to see us anymore. He called her Mom and told her what DSD said and I guess Mom talked to her and she did come for her visit.
Well, this weekend all DSD did was act out, she peed her pants, drew all over her walls in her room, threw away food and lied about it...
When we took her home last night DH was talking to her and said, "this weekend didn't go so great, maybe next visit we can work on having a better time." To which DSD responded, "I'm not coming back." He asked her again and explained again what her words meant and she said she did not want to come visit anymore.
So we go inside and tell her Mom what happened again and her Mom said she can't mean that and asked DSD why she was acting out over the weekend. DSD said because she didn't want to be there.
Her Mom said she was going to call the peditrician today to see if he had any ideas...
I'm turning to you guys. Is this normal acting out behavior because of a new sibling? Is it something more?
DH has definitely been still playing with his daughter when she visits. My parents came over Saturday night and each took turns coloring with DSD. We took her shopping on Saturday for new pajamas and other things. She certainly is not neglected, nor ignored at our house.
My heart is breaking for my DH... he is beyond upset over this and doesn't know what to do. He is very torn with if he should abide by his daughter's wishes and not push visitation right now or what... But she is only 4.5! What is going on?
Some other notes, most of her conversations with us revolve around going home to her Mom's house, when her Daddy lived with her Mommy when she was a baby (which I'm not sure how she would remember this, they split up when she was barely 2, someone had to have told her), and asking if Kallie is my daughter and if I am Kallie's Mommy.
I'm just stumped... I think a lot of it is confusion and anger... but what do we do about it? We have done our best to make sure she is still treated the same here and that she has plenty of time to play with Daddy...
Has anyone dealt with this before? Help please!