Some babymoon... - Page 2

[JesiLynne]

Dooney, I have never tried this, but I know that epsom salts baths are wonders for swelling. I am not sure if it would hurt, but I would try it if I were you. Maybe someone else can chime in on this. I am so sorry you are going through this.

[JesiLynne]

http://www.mothering.com/discussions...5&postcount=12

I saw this on another thread, the PP issues thread. Check it out !

[dooney]

I thought of Epsom, and forgot to tell DH to get some at the pharmacy when he picked up his prescription.

I have an appointment today to check my spot. My dad's going to watch Kalten and I'll take Coen with me. I hate driving him, since he's so tiny. The chest clip is as wide as he is! It's a 30-minute drive to the clinic. We're going back tomorrow for follow-up, but they didn't want me to wait.

I'm feeling a little bit better today. DH is feeling a little better too. When Kalten woke up in the night, Paul took him to the futon and got him back to sleep for me. That was soooo helpful, and I actually got some restful sleep.

Paul hasn't held his new son since the hospital, and I think it's really bothering him. That and seeing how I'm handling everything (or not handling everything) is rough, on top of being sick. I feel bad for him. Now he's got cold sores, he always gets those when he's sick or stressed.

I might call the church. They have a group of people for situations like this.

[JesiLynne]

No No , don't might anything Call PLEASE. Have someone run over some epsom salts if need be.

[RabbitDancer]

Calling the church is a GREAT idea! I have trouble asking for help as well, but I've learned that when people have offered to help out (and a church comittee of people who are volunteering to help others out willingly have definitely offered!), they truly WANT to help out -- you're not burdening them. And, in fact, helping others out will lift their spirits and give them a boost, as well. So just do it; don't wait!

And I'm so glad your doctor's not making you wait anther day on seeing your painful perineum. It definitely sounds like it should be seen and treated right away, and that's nothing to mess around with. You poor thing!

You're dealing with SO much that's out of your control right now on top of just having given birth! I'm so sorry, and I SO wish there was more I could do to help you. Have you thought about the possibility of postpartum depression? Women who have just given birth are so vulnerable anyway, and now here you've had so much shit thrown at you all in once, in such a short amount of time. I'd hate to see you not get to feeling better; would you be comfortable mentioning this to your doctor as well? What do you think?

[dooney]

Guys... I killed my pet sparrow. I forgot to feed her in all this mess. I rescued her at a week old this summer, and she wasn't supposed to survive, but she was so tough. She came through so much, only to die because I'm selfish and don't think of anyone but myself. I feel like shit.

[JesiLynne]

Originally Posted by dooney

Guys... I killed my pet sparrow. I forgot to feed her in all this mess. I rescued her at a week old this summer, and she wasn't supposed to survive, but she was so tough. She came through so much, only to die because I'm selfish and don't think of anyone but myself. I feel like shit.

OMG : At this point sweety, I don't know what words to use to confort you. Please call your church. One of the benefits of going to church is being able to rely on other ppl in times like this.

[LionTigerBear]

She did not die because you are selfish-- you are not being selfish. She did die because you are not getting the help you need, though. You need to let people help you. You have too much on your plate right now. Call the people at your church!!!! Today!!!!

[hedgewitch]

Just as a sidebar, birds don't live that long. It is quite probable that she was dying and didn't give you the usual nudges or cues to feed her as she knew it.

Sorry for your loss, cut yourself some slack.

[Jenivere]

Please call your church; if they have a group set up for things like this then use it! Even if it just means a meal a day then it's one less thing you have to worry about! Your no murderer; your a tired new mama with a sick family and to many things that need taking care of.

[dooney]

She was young, they live way longer in captivity than in the wild, she could have lived 5 more years.

MW said I'm not infected, and to do sitz twice a day. Turns out I did tear a little.

[Queen of my Castle]

Oh mama, hang in there! I can't believe all this is happening to you- it's horrible! Have you gotten any help yet? I hope you have- please don't try to tough it out anymore- you need to take care of yourself! I'm so sorry this has all been going on- I pray it will get better soon!

[dooney]

Today feels like the light at the end of the tunnel. It started out miserably, but it's a beautiful day (cold though!). Things are looking up. DH is feeling good. We are down to no cash and using the credit card for necessities, but we're closing tomorrow - we are refinancing to a lower interest on our mortgage and we're going to get a bit of cash back from that, plus not have to make a payment until April. DH is missing out on about $500 for this week's pay, and not having to come up with a March mortgage payment is such a blessing!

My bird is still dead. I still burst into tears about her and feel horribly guilty, but that would happen, post-partum or not.

Had my re-assessment today. The nurse asked how I was doing, pleasant conversation-like and I started crying and laughing. It felt great to talk to someone face-to-face about what's going on. I felt better afterward.

My mom and some of my aunts are coming to clean my house (and take turns holding the baby) tonight! I felt like nobody cared, since this is baby #2 and only one person has made an effort to come see him. I know it's probably just because it's so cold.

Both boys are sleeping. Bath is filling, better go. Thanks for all your support. I know it's not over by a long shot, but I'm feeling more positive today.

[Nillarilla]

I'm glad things are looking up. If I was closer I would come help you.

[JesiLynne]

I am glad you are feeling a little better

[Jenivere]

I'm really glad to see your update!