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DD is 25 months and hasn't been since she was 9 months. She received all vaccinations given from 0-6 months. At some point after that I started hearing some questionable things about vaccines. Luckily there were no vaccinations at her nine month appointment but I stopped taking her after that because honestly I was not sure which way I wanted to go and didn't want to be pressured into doing anything without doing enough research. Well 1 1/2 years later after doing research I'm still not sure. I just don't know what information to trust. I'm not sure if I will ever be sure. I kind of feel d*mned if I do and d*mned if I don't and I'm afraid of making the wrong choice for my children and something bad happening because I do or don't. So what do I do? I avoid. I've just stopped taking her hoping to avoid making a decision at all.

DH has been asking me to schedule a dr. appointment for DD but I've just been ignoring him. Today he finally called me out on it and said I need to face up and make a decision. He's right. I've just been avoiding and that is not doing any good. He made a dr. appointment for DD tomorrow so we can have them look at her eczema that keeps worsening and is keeping her up at night. We are going to discuss vaccinations with them but not make any decisions that day. The thing is, I already know that they are pro-vaccine and have a good feeling that they would strongly look down on us for not vaccinating. All I want is a dr. who will present how they feel but allow me to make the choice for my own child without feeling judged or like a bad parent. I was actually able to find a local family practice that does not vaccinate, but I'm not sure I want that either. I just want to be able to make the choice, and not feel pressured into one way or the other. The problem is I can't make a choice! Ugh...I know I'm not making any sense! I hate this whole thing.

Advise for how to sound intelligent at the Drs. while presenting my hesitations on vaccination? I think my biggest fear is going to the Drs., letting her get the vaccination and then having a different child afterwards. I've heard the stories...perfectly healthy child hitting milestones completely regresses after receiving vaccinations. I guess that is my biggest fear...losing the little girl I know because of something I allowed someone to give her. After that all the icky things in those vaccinations really bothers me, and even if they don't show an immediate change in her what are they doing to her body long-term? And even if I do let them inject her with all that nasty stuff in the name of keeping her healthy, I've read that she still could get sick...it doesn't necessarily prevent her from getting that disease...so what was the point of injecting her? But as you can see, I'm not very articulate and don't want to just have my fears cast aside by some doctor who thinks I'm worrying about nothing and completely misinformed. Ugh! Sorry this is so long...I don't even really know what I'm asking. But thanks for reading and letting me get this off my chest. I don't have many people to talk to about this besides hubby because everyone else would think I'm evil for even thinking about not vaccinating.
post #2 of 4
mama...sorry you are having a hard time. I think we all may have been in your shoes at one time or another. There are no easy answers but I will give you my 2 cents

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Advise for how to sound intelligent at the Drs. while presenting my hesitations on vaccination?
Don't bother trying to explain why you don't want to vaccinate (if that's what you decide for this particular appt). It is a huge waste of time and if you know the doc is provax, you will end up feeling like a bad mom and nothing you present to them will make them feel any differently anyway. It's not as if they will hear you out and go "Oh you know you are right!! There very serious risks to vaccinating and you should take all the time you need to decide"

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After that all the icky things in those vaccinations really bothers me, and even if they don't show an immediate change in her what are they doing to her body long-term? And even if I do let them inject her with all that nasty stuff in the name of keeping her healthy, I've read that she still could get sick...it doesn't necessarily prevent her from getting that disease...so what was the point of injecting her?
seems articulate to me. You are saying you have read and learned enough to know that vaccines often do not protect against the diseases they are supposed to protect against; and that vaccines are full of potentially harmful ingredients; there are NO long term studies on vaccines.

All I can suggest is that you continue to hold off until you can make a choice you can feel mostly ok with. That doesn't mean if you decide you don't want to you won't have your moments of doubt from time to time. Just don't avoid reasearching and finding out more. Decline the vaccines and state you are still not comfortable with giving them at this point but that you haven't ruled it out and don't get into any discussions about it. Then kick your research into high gear. Devour everything you can get your hands on. Come here, ask questions, read books. Ive been researching for 3+ years and still learn new things all the time.

If a doctor told you that if your child had potentially life threatening major surgery NOW for something that she MIGHT get SOMEDAY that MAY or MAYNOT be serious and if your LO did have the surgery today she still might get the very thing the surgery was supposed toprevent her from MAYBE getting anyway.... would you go ahead with it????

You can always vaccinate later. Once they are in there they are in there and who knows what kind of effect they will have. Whatever you decide I wish you luck and peace in your choice
post #3 of 4
Don't discuss vaccination with them tomorrow. Go in, discuss your eczema concerns. Tell them that you're not vaccinating today- still researching.

-Angela
post #4 of 4
I've been there. I feel unrest either way. But so far, we've decided not to vax and while 90% of the time I'm secure with this decision, I do get shaken up over it at times. I just have to keep saying to myself...I KNOW the diseases and their risks, but I don't know the risks of vaxing. They could do so much damage and I'll never know to what extent. That keeps me sane.

BTW, have you tried cooconut oil? It does wonders for excema when applied to the skin and taken internally.
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