Originally Posted by lotusdebi
The solutions in books and online simply don't work for every child out there. Some of us have children who are much more challenging than you can perhaps imagine. They're great kids, but they're difficult to parent. Judge away. I've always been blamed for it anyway. Most people think I should just take a belt to them. Whatever.
I wouldn't dare say take a belt to him. And I think a six year old is different than a three year old.
My child is the "take every book off the shelf" kid. Just a few months ago, we were actually asked to leave the library.
I still don't think you should give up. I know some GD parents are against ANY type of negotiation or reward/punishments, but I think where safety is concerned bribery isn't out of the question. Maybe you could offer a privilege or treat? I don't think "I've tried everything, there's nothing I can do" is a wise choice to make in parenting.
And believe you me, if my child was still running away from me at 6, I would have him tied at the waist. I'd let him know that I'd only take it off if he listened, and the moment he didn't it would be on again. I let my kids climb on things other parents don't, and I don't have to have them within three feet of me, but if they can't stay within sight and have to be destructive, then I take stronger measures. I want my kids to be free range, but I don't want them to be terrors.
But if you have given up, and it looks like quite a few parents in this thread have, then you better be prepared for me to parent your child in public. Just yesterday we were in the doctor's waiting room and a little girl kept taking things out of my daughter's hands left and right, and I had no idea who the parent was because none of the adults in the room were watching or cared. I asked her several times to stop taking my daughter's things and finally put my hand on hers when she reached for the toy again and said very firmly "No," picked her up, and moved her away.
the mom finally got upset, because I the strange adult had picked up her child. Too bad. Your kid made mine cry and you didn't care or have given up trying, but I do care.
And I have done this in the mall playground,too. I have called out very loudly "who is the parent to this boy in the blue shirt?" after a kid tried to push mine off the slide, and when no one reacted, I told the boy that it was not OK to push my child. He did it again, and I picked him up off of the slide. Then he started chasing my son around the playground, and my son was screaming and asking him to stop. When I finally caught up to them, my son was crying and hiding behind me, and I held on to that kid and called out for a parent until a parent actually reacted, and of course they were mad that I was mandhandling their child.
if your kid is well behaved in public, fine, by all means, let them wander off in the store. But if they aren't, I WILL PARENT YOUR CHILD FOR YOU.