Originally Posted by Sierra
Do you live in the U.S.? Because unless I am way off on the statistics there is no where in the U.S. where abductions by *strangers* are enough to justify the level of fear among parents out there.
You are more right to be concerned about your 13 year old girl being abducted by a stranger.
My child is not likely to be snatched because my child is out of my sight.
Now I'm not going to leave my child up at customer service, because that's rude to customer service. And in generally I like to know where my children are in the store, because that's the right thing to do for everyone involved. And they still need socializing, not the kind you get in school, but the kind you get where your mom tells you how to behave.
Side story but relevant, my daughter was performing in her church choir on Sunday and since DH was on his way to catch up at the office, I asked DH to drop her off at church for her pre-mass practice and DS and I would be there in the service at the normal time. (The choir children come in with the procession and sit apart from the parents so no need to be there with her.) I told DH that practice was not in the normal spot and where it was. However, when 5 year old DD told him she knew were to go (she did not, as he did not tell her what I'd said) he just dropped her at the curb at her insistence, and watched her go in the building.
So after the service I get a big, fairly dramatic earful from the children's ministry lady about how my daughter had been "found crying" in the wrong part of the church instead of being brought properly to the right place and all the ways I suck. She stopped throwing such attitude when she found out it was DH's doing. Why it's OK to beat up moms and not dads I don't know.
What had happened as verified between my daughter, the mom who helped her and the story I was initially told was that when they were not in the normal choir room my daughter started crying and found a mom and asked her for help. The mom took her down to religious education where they were able to verify where she should be, and then they took her to the hall where they were practicing.
You know what? That sounds about right. I don't see the crisis. It was a church on Sunday, not gang territory, the Serengeti Plain, or a pit of child eating dragons. If I'd been called, I would have come right down. My daughter knows my number and has experience using it.
So we're living in a state of such weird fear that it's not even OK to leave your 5 year old alone in a well-populated CHURCH. Either that or some people are wound so tight they can't give a 5 year old 5 minutes of their time.
Let's have some more community, tell our children to behave in public and stay near us, act promptly when other people help them and they're waiting on us, but not act like the world is full of evil. The world is full of US.