Originally Posted by mamarootoo
i'd also like to add that, even though i choose not to use pot when i'm pregnant, nursing or responsible for child care, this is the same attitude i have about alcohol.
i don't see anything wrong with having a few drinks when my husband and i are on a date-- granted i'm not pregnant, and wont be nursing before it's out of my system!
the fact that pot is illegal is my biggest reason for staying away from it, for the reasons i quoted from the PP. i would prefer it if my LOs waited until they are adults (it'll be a while-- one is still in fetus form
) to use it, but i would be MUCH MUCH more upset if i found out they were using alcohol before they were adults.
I agree with everything you said. I see pot and alcohol as similar in that responsible vs. irresponsible use makes all the difference, and do believe alcohol is inherently more harmful and worrisome. I think there are certainly reasons to teach our kids not to smoke, aside from morally condemning it which to me is irrelevant.
So to me, the fact that Phelps smokes pot, as an adult, is not all that surprising (many adults from all walks of life obviously choose to smoke) and nor should it interfere with the message I would hope to send to my children about marijuana or with the admiration that some may have for Phelps because of his athletic achievements. Of course I think there are reasons to avoid marijuana, especially as childhood/adolescence is not the time to make those decisions about any substance use, since a still developing child should not be introducing things to their system or making decisions with potential long term consequences. And I choose to avoid it because the potential risks are not worth it given its legal and social status and my personal and family responsibilities.
But I don't think that my encouraging my kids not to use marijuana while they are growing up has anything to do with the decision another adult (famous or not) makes to do so. And if I had older kids who brought up the situation, I think it would be a good teaching tool- to explain as a pp said that no one is perfect or makes decisions we would agree with all the time, but that whether or not we agree with someone's decision does not mean we should judge them. In addition, as a pp said, the situation would make for good conversation with older children about the stigma due to the legal status, and the possible harms- which realistically are associated more with the legal and social ramifications if discovered, rather than any inherent moral or physical risk. Because clearly in this case, the problem was not caused by his use of marijuana use but by the laws and stigmas surrounding it, resulting in negative attention and scrutiny. In fact, his superior athletic abilities and his pot use seem to further the point that it is not a killer drug that will ruin your health and stamina, no? The issue was not that he smoked pot and it harmed his swimming or health- the issue was that people got overly involved in his business and judged him.