Originally Posted by preemiemamarach
In the October DDC, but I also got offended by that statement! Those of us who have made thoughtful decisions about how much testing/monitoring *we* need have also made the BEST decisions for our families. Until you have lived my life, don't presume to know what is best for me and mine.
I'm also in the October DDC and was a little offended by this statement. While I'm sure the poster meant no harm, it does come across as implying that mothers who choose to test are making a poor choice and mothers who don't, are making a better one.
With my first pregnancy I was 37 and chose to have a CVS. It was an agonizing decision and I vacillated on it up until the day of the test. The results came back 5 days later. My poor baby had triploidy (a full set of extra chromosomes). This is a condition incompatible with life. The day I got the news was one of the worst of my life and ended with a decision to terminate the pregnancy, I was eleven weeks along.
Now, months later and pregnant again I still mourn my loss but don't regret either the test or the termination. My reasons for feeling this way are myriad and deeply personal but I am confident that I made the right choice and will have another CVS with my current pregnancy.
There are no easy answers with genetic testing and in my opinion, no good or bad or better or worse, there's only what's right for each of us. No one makes the choice easily and if they do decide to test, it doesn't mean they love their babies any less. I don't think any mother would be here at all, if they didn't love and want their children with all their hearts, I know I do, more than words can say.
Wishing everyone the best,