Originally Posted by Bluegoat
I'm not Catholic, but I have a question about a situation with a RC woman in my community. There is something about it which I find slightly fishy - I don't know who the fish is though.
The woman in question was married and got a divorce. She hasn't got an annulment, but has remarried in a civil ceremony. She is not allowed to recieve communion. So far, no suprises.
She has been told that she could probably get an annulment, but apparently this would cost a lot of money, more than she can afford. Is this usual? I can see that there is administration, and a divorce costs money too. But on the other hand, if the marriage was never really valid, then wouldn't the church owe it to her to find that out? I have heard that North Americans have a lot of annulments and wonder if this is part of the issue. (In fact I know a man who sat on the local board (I don't know the proper name) that dealt with annulments and it was actually one of the things that led him to leave the Church.)
What I find really fishy though is this: Her 2nd husband, also Roman Catholic, IS allowed to receive. The rationale, apparently, is that he was never married before. But if she is still officially married to her first husband, is he not committing adultery or at least living in sin, so to speak? It seems to me the priest at the local church must be misinterpreting things. Or am I totally misunderstanding the nature of annulment?
I just saw this and have not read any responses, so don't know if this will help.
As someone who is going through just this! My husband was married before, so he is going through an annulment. He is also becoming Catholic.
Yes, annulments cost money, but they will take any kind of payment and it's not held against you if you don't pay it all, at least here, I don't know if it's different other places.
As for her husband, he should not be receiving if they are having marital relations, as that is a sin, since the Church does not recognize a civil marriage, so techincally he's having premarital sex. If he went to confession before hand, yes he could receive communion. But, if we go to our local church, they don't have an issue with Chip and I, it was one of the things that made us not want to go there, as we KNEW it was wrong and didn't like having it normalized.