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post #21 of 179
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Originally Posted by jocelyndale View Post
I would seek medical attention and request Plan B immediately, thereby eliminating the possibility of implantation.

I would never presume to tell another woman what she should or should not do.
I know someone who got pregnant after using Plan B correctly. It doesn't work 100% of the time.
post #22 of 179
Hard to imagine how it would impact your life... For someone who couldn't take the thought of keeping the baby, I think adoption is such a beautiful option. To me, it's like shaking your hand at the situation and saying "you will not win!" It would turn such a horrible thing into something so beautiful and life-giving for someone else.

I also believe that no child is a mistake. When we do something wrong, it is by our own choice. How a person is raised has a lot to do with it, but I don't believe that evil is genetic.

Just as a side note, I've heard that abortions in the case of rape are only like 1% of all abortions done. Not very many...
post #23 of 179
Usually I love hypothetical questions and can come up with all sorts of answers, but to this one my only answer is "I have absolutely no idea what I would do."
post #24 of 179
I would not give the baby up for adoption. I would either terminate or keep it. I don't know which, at this point.
post #25 of 179
I would take the morning after pill, and if it failed, I would have an abortion.
post #26 of 179
I would birth and then place for adoption. I can understand why a woman would want to terminate, though.
post #27 of 179
I cant even begin to imagine.....so i really dont have any clue as to what i would do.
post #28 of 179
I am pro-life, don't believe in the morning after pill and am nearly there with baby #4, so I think being married and having children already complicates the keep it or give it up decision. I think my dh and I would ourselves want to give it up to someone to love, but explaining that a baby that I'm carrying isn't daddy's and we're not keeping would be a hard thing to explain. Also, like pp mentioned, the baby would be half me too, I'm not sure that by the end of the pregnancy that I would still want to give it up. Dh's feeling would play alot into this too. I don't think this would be an easy decision on any side, but we would NOT terminate or use plan B or anything. Our personal belief is that life begins at conception, we couldn't ethically do it ourselves.
post #29 of 179
i dont know what i would do, but i wouldnt have an abortion. my half- sister was conceived through a rape. my "father"(didnt raise me) was actually the rapist. im glad her mother (16 yrs old at the time) kept her and raised her. she found me on myspace several yrs ago, and we are best friends now.
post #30 of 179
While I'm pro-choice, I could never abort a baby in that situation.

I think I would need a TON of counseling to make a decision about what to do otherwise. I've been raped. And I've placed a child for adoption (he was NOT the product of that rape). I'm not sure which is tougher.
post #31 of 179
As pp have said, this a question you only know the answer to if you're put in that situation. I have an IUD and would take the morning after pill but I suppose anything's possible.

That being said, I'm about 85% sure I would keep the baby. However, I have no idea how dh would feel and the baby would likely not be the same race as him (he is Asian and the vast majority of teh population here is white, then black, quite a few hispanics, but very few asians) and that would complicate things. I don't pray, but in this case I would pray, pray, pray that the baby would look like me. Dd1 looks NOTHING like me and completely like her daddy. Complete strangers would come up to me and say "she must look like her daddy, cause she sure doesn't look like you!" and that would be extremely hard for me emotionally.

I'm about as confidant as I can be that I would not terminate but again, who really knows what you would do when put in such a situation.

I would seek a counselor and psychologist's advice on when and what way is the best to tell my child how s/he came to be.
post #32 of 179
I can't answer and won't even try to go there.

This is really the kind of thing most people cannot easily answer until they've been there. I'm sure a lot of it depends on many different circumstances—like how the rape happened, what happened to the rapist, and what kind of support the victim gets afterwards.

It's very similar to when my FIL asked if we'd abort if we found out we were carrying child had a severe disability. You just don't know until you have all the facts and have been there. It's a very individual decision and can go down a million different ways.
post #33 of 179
Hi! I'm moving this to Talk Amongst Ourselves.

I'd like to ask that we tread cautiously here and be cautious not to debate abortion.

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post #34 of 179
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Originally Posted by jocelyndale View Post
I would seek medical attention and request Plan B immediately, thereby eliminating the possibility of implantation.
I am a sexual assualt nurse. This is what we offer to all women who come through the ER stating they were raped.
post #35 of 179
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Originally Posted by jocelyndale View Post
I would seek medical attention and request Plan B immediately, thereby eliminating the possibility of implantation.

I would never presume to tell another woman what she should or should not do.
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post #36 of 179
I would keep the baby.
post #37 of 179
I'd also take Plan B and, if that didn't work, would abort. At this point in my life I've taken steps to even avoid conceiving another child with my DH; there is no way I could be open to carrying a child forced upon me by someone else.
post #38 of 179
I would absolutely NOT abort. However, I really, really worry what the baby would do to my marriage -- so I think adoption would likely be the end result.

Hopefully, emergency contraception (true contraception, not an abortifacient) would work.
post #39 of 179
Abortion is against my belief system so that's not an option.

I think I would wind up keeping the baby because I don't know that I would be capable of giving up a child I had carried and birthed.

It's really an impossible situation that you could never really know what you'd do till you were in the middle of it.
post #40 of 179
I couldn't abort it. I doubt I would be able to give it up for adoption, either. I would plan on keeping it.
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