I was really surprised by how difficult recovery was, and how breastfeeding was NOT this wonderful thing with my first baby (thankfully it was with #2). I can totally relate to what you're saying. I'm so sorry you had a rough experience at the hospital when you transferred.
I would definitely head over to Breastfeeding Challenges. There are some knowledgeable women over there who should be able to help.
Do know that you're not alone and it WILL get better. Is there a LLL leader in your area that you could talk to, or a really great lactation consultant who has dealt with your problem before? I know that I would want to do absolutely everything I could before considering formula feeding, but only you know where that line is for you. For me it was pretty much never, and thankfully I had my husband's support and he helped me through some rough months (my baby screamed at the breast for months.
). I can tell you that your body should begin to regulate itself better as time goes on, but 3 mos pp is a long time to still be dealing with this problem on such a constant basis. I hope you can find some IRL support and help for the breastfeeding problems.
Being a new mom is so hard, especially when things don't just go "right."