Introvert Mamas? - Page 9

[crabbyowl]

Just wanted to say THANK YOU to whoever recommended Introvert Advantage - I'm on the 3rd chapter and am really loving it! : I especially like when the author makes the distinction between being antisocial and being asocial, and points out that using the word asocial to describe introverts adds to the perception that there's something wrong with us. Plus, there are some really great quotes. This may be a book to add to my ever-growing book collection!

[Starflower]

Originally Posted by Sustainer

I feel as if I could pretend to be an extrovert, at great stress to myself, but I don't feel as if I could ever become an extrovert.

: Sometimes I can "force" myself to be like an extrovert for certain amounts of time/situations, but yeah, it comes at a high cost.

[Maine Mama Doula]

Originally Posted by KBinSATX

Oh I like the Introverts United group already! They have the personality test link on their group page and ...
Ta-dah, your personality type is INTJ!
Introverted (I) 89% Extraverted (E) 11%
Intuitive (N) 59% Sensing (S) 41%
Thinking (T) 55% Feeling (F) 45%
Judging (J) 77% Perceiving (P) 23%

http://kisa.ca/personality/

My Results
Introverted (I) 100% Extraverted (E) 0%
Intuitive (N) 68% Sensing (S) 32%
Thinking (T) 50% Feeling (F) 50%
Perceiving (P) 55% Judging (J) 45%

[Maine Mama Doula]

Originally Posted by Maine Mama Doula

My Results
Introverted (I) 100% Extraverted (E) 0%
Intuitive (N) 68% Sensing (S) 32%
Thinking (T) 50% Feeling (F) 50%
Perceiving (P) 55% Judging (J) 45%

I guess I belong here, huh? :

[Sustainer]

According to that quiz I am highly sensitive.

[Autumn C.]

I also highly sensitive and

Personality test results
Ta-dah, your personality type is INFJ!

Introverted (I) 100% Extraverted (E) 0%
Intuitive (N) 86% Sensing (S) 14%
Feeling (F) 80% Thinking (T) 20%
Judging (J) 59% Perceiving (P) 41%



Can someone explain judging vs. perceiving to me?

[Sustainer]

http://www.myersbriggs.org/my-mbti-p...perceiving.asp

[Freedom~Mama]

INFJ!
Introverted (I) 86% Extraverted (E) 14%
Intuitive (N) 68% Sensing (S) 32%
Feeling (F) 85% Thinking (T) 15%
Judging (J) 50% Perceiving (P) 50%

I don't have time to comment now but will later! I love this thread soo much! :

[Princess ConsuelaB]

Originally Posted by Starflower

Any other introverts here spend a good amount of time typing up responses on websites like MDC or FB and then just delete them in the end?

Constantly!

I'm INFP

Ta-dah, your personality type is INFP!
Introverted (I) 89% Extraverted (E) 11%
Intuitive (N) 64% Sensing (S) 36%
Feeling (F) 75% Thinking (T) 25%
Perceiving (P) 86% Judging (J) 14%

I positively fantasize about spending a night or two in a hotel by. my. self. Without having to talk to anybody(I could happily go days without communication if it were possible). I stay awake hours after everyone else, just lying in bed reading or thinking in the dark while DH snores, often until 4:00a.m. Now my DH is working nights and I still stay awake in the dark half the night while he's gone and the kids are sleeping...heaven Of course that means that he's home all of the day now too...which is nice...I love him...but it's yet one more person in "my" space/interrupting my thoughts all day It gets to me. A lot. Actually it's making me batty, I'm really upping those hotel daydreams Luckily for me he's introverted too and really "gets" me, so he doesn't take it personally when I tell him to stop talking to me.

I have social-anxiety on top of being introverted, so "people" are extra hard for me and life is pretty solitary. We've moved a few times so I don't have any friends and it's just too hard to force myself out to make any I'd finally just managed to make good friends with a neighbor just before we both moved to different states. It's kind of a drag, but it's only a drag on those rare occasions when I feel a need for that type of relationship...and honestly it's just takes too much energy to get to "friendship". Besides, how many people do you know that immediately understand "I want to be friends, but only every once in a while"

I also like to occasionally be "around" people without actually interacting....coffee shops and bookstores off in the corner somewhere etc.

*Oh, and editing to add that I hate phones too!

[Princess ConsuelaB]

Originally Posted by Starflower

I am also very attuned to other peoples' reactions/emotions and tend to feel aware that I am staring at them while I am talking to them. It's almost like if I am not really engaged in a conversation - such as with the dreaded small talk - I feel like I am listening to my own words ramble while trying to think of what to say at the same time as studying their faces. It's kind of surreal.

Originally Posted by ~Purity♥Lake~

I think you just nailed it. I am so in tune to facial expressions, body language and the unspoken word (and a whole lot of empathy - feeling what they are feeling), that while in conversation with someone, I feel overwhelmed by all the input and my attempts to decipher it all.

[Samm]

Hi all -

Another introvert coming out of lurkdom to say hi! This thread is awesome. I find myself constantly composing responses in my head.

I just had to laugh at this Besides, how many people do you know that immediately understand "I want to be friends, but only every once in a while"

I have a friend right now who doesn't understand why I 'disappear' at regular intervals . . . and I'm thinking well at least they're regular

Samm

[Ella-6]

Hi, another introverted here.

When I realized, understood and accepted that, I gradually educated everyone around me as to what that meant and why they don't see or hear from me that often. It helped them understand that it wasn't anything to do with them, but everything to do with introversion.

What a relief! Also it's great to discover who else is introverted in the process.

My husband is an extrovert and very understanding of my introversion. We have worked together to find techniques that work for us and have found a happy balance.

This thread is of particular interest to me, because I am expecting my first in Jan. How do mamas of babies find alone time, particularly SAHM and WAHM.

[principii]

Originally Posted by Ella-6

My husband is an extrovert and very understanding of my introversion. We have worked together to find techniques that work for us and have found a happy balance.

That's GREAT that you and your husband can work so well together!! : I'm very happy for you! That's wonderful.

This thread is of particular interest to me, because I am expecting my first in Jan. How do mamas of babies find alone time, particularly SAHM and WAHM.

One word: NAPTIME! Lol. Seriously. But I'm curious to see what the other Mamas say, as I don't know WHAT I'm going to do once she drops her one and only nap... hopefully I won't have to worry about that for awhile.

Otherwise, some days I *do* get up before she does, and have some quiet time to myself... that's always nice. I've read about other mamas doing the same and that it's saved their sanity more than once.

We listen to soft music sometimes too, I find that that helps me feel a bit more, whats-the-word, centered? ... Okay, I can't think any more, DD is clamoring and making NOISE! Oh, the ironies.

[Ella-6]

How do mamas of babies find alone time, particularly SAHM and WAHM.

Originally Posted by principii

One word: NAPTIME! Lol. Seriously.

Ah, naptime!

It's nice to find this thread.

[KBinSATX]

Oh yes, when they miss a nap it's terrible... LOL
With two kids it's even worse since it's so tough to get their naps aligned.
Sometimes poor DH comes in the door at 5PM and I just hand him the kids right away to get some alone time.

[Maine Mama Doula]

I agree, naptime

Just looking at my results again: I can only really consider myself an IN since T and P are 50% and 55% respectively. Hmmm, interesting. I'm still shocked that I scored 100% Introverted. I guess I NEED to get up earlier more often

The other day I took DS and DD2 to the beach. I met another cool mom there who has three children (youngest is 6) and I asked for her phone number! I am so proud of myself.

Let's keep this thread going - I love it

[~PurityLake~]

Originally Posted by KBinSATX

Oh yes, when they miss a nap it's terrible... LOL
With two kids it's even worse since it's so tough to get their naps aligned.
Sometimes poor DH comes in the door at 5PM and I just hand him the kids right away to get some alone time.

Both my daughters dropped their naps around the age of 2. They are less than 14 months apart in age. My husband is gone from 7 am to 7 pm. No more naps for me. At least their closeness in age means they easily entertain each other.

[Princess ConsuelaB]

Originally Posted by Ella-6

This thread is of particular interest to me, because I am expecting my first in Jan. How do mamas of babies find alone time, particularly SAHM and WAHM.

When they were younger I'd hand the kids off to DH and tell them to go. away. I still do it sometimes.

Now that the kids are older I can send them out to play, sometimes for hours.

[Dreamy]

Originally Posted by LisainCalifornia

I am an INFJ.

Me too!

INFJ
Introverted 78%
Intuitive 12%
Feeling 38%
Judging 11%

Careers:
Social Work, Education, Librarian, Law, Early Childhood Education, Psychology/Psychotherapist, Counseling, Design, Science

Famous people:
John Bradshaw, Mother Teresa, Nelson Mandela, John Calvin, Nicole Kidman


I haven't read all the posts yet, but I am a major introvert. When I know we have company coming, I'm stressed all day long, and don't relax until they've gone, even though we always have fun!

We're stuck for a babysitter right now, so I'm considering going to see Harry Potter by myself - I REALLY hope this pans out. Going to the movies alone was my favourite thing to do in my single days.

Now my ideal night is to sit and crochet or read while DS is sleeping and DH is playing Warcraft. I just get so frazzled and depressed if I don't get enough time alone - nobody to entertain, no one's expectations to manage, no need to drum up conversation - ahh, bliss.

[Dreamy]

Oh, and I'm famous for being quiet. In my high school yearbook I was voted "Most likely to be a textbook case autistic." Horrible and doesn't make any sense, I know, but there it is

My son is super quiet too. At the family reunion this weekend so many people remarked on that, and said he must take after me.

Like many of you, I prefer to observe others. If I actually have something worthwhile to say, then I'll speak up.