I'm not sure if I posted my intro yet or not but I'm going to dive in now. I always test at INTP but lately I've met some other intro mamas and I feel like I am more extraverted then they are so it's making me question my introvertedness. I mean I feel like I'm always the one to ask them to get together, etc...
I've never been one to have a ton of friends, just usually one or 2 max close friends. But now that I'm older, a mama, and have moved dozens of times, I've lost that closeness with all of them. Anyways, I know I've pushed myself to be more outgoing, being a military mama, I'm always moving and now that I have a dd who likes hanging out with other kids, I have made the extra effort to get out there for her, yk? So, I feel like I'm introverted naturally but it takes extra effort on my part to be social. I do like being social though.
Maybe you ladies can help me sort this out.
I really don't like the meet and greet type of parties where I don't know anyone or only know a couple of people. I am not a social butterfly, canvassing the room to talk to people. I will position myself in a corner and chat with whoever is around me. If I know them well, we can have deep and meaningful conversations. Otherwise, it's painful to do the mindless chit chat and I end up running off early.
But with close friends or family, I can be gregarious, and funny, joking and sarcastic. I talk forever about deep subjects with people I know well.
But I am a SAHM and I find that I get bored easily and have been looking for other mamas to hang out with. I really would like to find that magic combination of a person (or 2
) to hang out with. I prefer to hang out with extraverted people because they bring me out of my shell and I have more fun with them. But I find most of them flighty, and have better conversations with intros. So....anyways..what was I talking about?
Oh yeah, am I extra or intro? I know the standard question, is where do I get my energy from. Am I recharged through solitary time or through other people. I've never understood this question. I know that after hanging out with large #'s of people (even strangers, like at the mall) I HAVE to get home and be alone. But after hanging out with close friends, and good conversations, I feel like it gives me a boost. But like I said, I solidly test at INTP. The only thing that's marginal is the P, which is sometimes J, but I think I know why that is (I've been working on being more decisive and sometimes that is reflected in my test scores).
Anyways, I'm learning lots from this thread!