Omg omg omg omg

[JamieB]

I am freaking out in a good way! I can have a homebirth in my area! I don't really think I can talk DH into it but there is a chance! I am just dying with excitement!!! OMG. Tell me how to convince DH please?

This probably sounds silly but homebirth just became an option around here. Just just. I am so lucky! ::::::::::

[firewoman]

You need to explain to us what reservations specifically your husband has with homebirth. Watch Business of Being Born with him. Watch Orgasmic Birth with him. Have him read Pushed by Jennifer Block and Born In the USA by Marsden Wagner. He needs to be given information to help him make this decision with you. There are several studies out there on the safety of homebirth that he can also read through. What is important is that he READS and LEARNS. We live in a society that is very fearful of birth and it is ingrained in both the men and women. It can be difficult to reverse a whole life full of this type of thinking. Let us know what he is afraid of and I'm sure we can all give you more specific suggestions on how to convince him homebirth is better.

[treehugginmama]

That's great. I hope DH comes around. I agree with the PP, just inform him.

[care for you]

the business of being born REALLY put things into perspective for my husband, big time. last night i mentioned something about how i hope i don't end up with a c-section and he said, "they try to give them to EVERYONE now! it's ridiculous!"

it was very cute

[hapersmion]

I agree with the above... and remember that you're the one who has to give birth, so you're the one who absolutely has to be comfortable with your birth place. If your husband isn't perfectly happy with it, it isn't going to stall HIS labor. And lots of times people find that their husbands are more reasonable than expected, once they have enough information, so don't worry too much! Good luck!

[JamieB]

Thanks everyone.

I just watched The Business of being Born and loved it! DH won't watch it with me: He also refuses to read anything (ever, not just related to this). But this just makes my choice easier. I'll do everything I can to make him comfortable with my choice but i'm not going to give up my dream birth because he being stubborn.

We talked last night and he just thinks it's silly. I need to stop reading all this psycho babble He is worried about me and the baby and he has a hard time understanding because I keep going on about interventions being a problem but my hospital birth was very close to intervention free. Really i'm not concerned about interventions at all but I don't know what else to tell him besides how much mroe relaxing and simple it would be, etc.

He is worried that people will show up in labour and that I won't be able to handle the pain.

Now please don't get me wrong, my DH is very sweet and kind and i'm hoping he'll come around soon. Last night he was asking questions about birth registration paperwork and such so i'm taking that as a good sign