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Please help me with another hypnobirthing question!

post #1 of 8
Thread Starter 
I am seriously considering investing my money and time into using this method of relaxation for my next delivery in July/August. But here's my problem: My DH will be away from the end of June - end of July. (This a previously scheduled work thing that he absolutely can't get out of. He runs a summer program at a university and must stay on campus.) If I go into labor while he's away, he can return home (about an hour drive).

My question is this: will I be able to practice without his help? Will the tapes be enough (assuming I've taken the class and have practiced with him before he leaves)?

TIA!
post #2 of 8

Re: Please help me with another hypnobirthing question!

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Originally posted by sharonal
My question is this: will I be able to practice without his help? Will the tapes be enough (assuming I've taken the class and have practiced with him before he leaves)?
Absolutely!

My DH was not interested in being my Bradley Birth coach at all. OK, fine. In fact, he was so bored at the Bradley classes that he skipped the last few (he had a cold) but I actually let him skip the last 1 or 2 (when the cold was over). It was like water torture for him, whatever.

So he was out of the picture with regards to helping me with Hypnosis scripts as well, that was fine by me. Though, he did insist on going to the HypnoBirthing classes with me so he could understand the process and what it was about exactly. (He missed the first 3 classes because of the cold, but my awesome HypnoBirthing practioner let me/us make them up again so he could attend, no extra cost.) Like everyone, he was skeptical, but he was not vocally pessimistic or negative.

I took the class one month before my due date. I practiced everyday by myself. Personally, I thought this was great because I did not grow accustomed or dependent on him to helping ME relax. I was doing very well on my own.

Yeah, it was a little difficult to hear other couples talk about how nice and bonding it was for them to practice, some couples really got into it, creating their own ritual (lightling candles) each night. But I was fine. You can definitely do it on your own.

Were the tapes enough?

The tapes were enough for me! I hated the Rainbow Relaxation tape at first, but I forced myself to listen, then I grew to like it. (But if they are NOT enough for you, look into HypnoBabies.com.)

I ignored the scripts in the book/class that didn't make any sense to me (like glove anesthesia ?) and just focused on what did work (the tapes.)

Towards the end of my pregnancy, I EXCUDED self-confidence and calm and everyone around me (pre-natal yoga teacher, other pg women) picked up on it. I could not believe it.

Months before, I was terrified of things "going wrong" at the birth (what if my Doula doesn't show up in time, what if I end up with an OB from hell because my OB doesn't show up on time...) but towards the end, I was feeling like I could give birth completely on my own, unassisted (wow !!!) in the middle of NYC's Grand Central Train Station.
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Re: Re: Please help me with another hypnobirthing question!

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Originally posted by Tanibani
Absolutely!

Were the tapes enough?

The tapes were enough for me! I hated the Rainbow Relaxation tape at first, but I forced myself to listen, then I grew to like it. (But if they are NOT enough for you, look into HypnoBabies.com.)

I ignored the scripts in the book/class that didn't make any sense to me (like glove anesthesia ?) and just focused on what did work (the tapes.)

Towards the end of my pregnancy, I EXCUDED self-confidence and calm and everyone around me (pre-natal yoga teacher, other pg women) picked up on it. I could not believe it.

Months before, I was terrified of things "going wrong" at the birth (what if my Doula doesn't show up in time, what if I end up with an OB from hell because my OB doesn't show up on time...) but towards the end, I was feeling like I could give birth completely on my own, unassisted (wow !!!) in the middle of NYC's Grand Central Train Station.
ITA--I had a similar experience as Tanibani. DH was mildly interested, but it was difficult to get him to take the time and really focus on reading scripts to me. We did the scripts a few times. Mainly, though, I listened to the rainbow relaxation tape every night, and really focused on the breathing exercises in the book.

I'm relying on tapes only this time around, and just listened for the first time last night.

Good luck! Hypnobirthing is great!
post #4 of 8
Hi, sharonal,

I think you'd do really well with HypnoBirthing. The key is daily practice...not daily practice with your DH. Listening to the tapes every day before bed or at some point in your day, spells success.

My DH was into doing scripts, but we really only did them together maybe 5 or 6 times total. What really helped was the Rainbow Relaxation and the affirmation tape.

Just like Tanibani & Mamaroni, I, too felt just great confidence and peace surrounding the birth of my baby. The tapes helped me get to that place...and I thought I was peaceful and confident before I started them! I noticed a big difference after doing the tape routinely.

Best wishes!
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Originally posted by Sparklin
The key is daily practice...not daily practice with your DH. Listening to the tapes every day before bed or at some point in your day, spells success.
Just wanted to second that. My concern was that when things started to pick up, dh would get all excited and possibly be unable to maintain the calm voice I needed to help me relax. The previous birth, he and the attendents got so caught up in the excitement, they didn't realize that all the loud counting and the cheering on was stressing me out. I mean, they all tried to stay calm, but there was an energy in the room that seem to sweep everyone (except me, who was trying to concentrate) up in it.

During this last birth, I was listening to the Rainbow Relaxation tape throughout my labor, which was fast (4hrs) and very intense. Having that calm voice gently reminding me to relax, and the constant calming reassurance that everything is working just as it's supposed to, was invaluable. When I felt another surge coming on, it was easy for my mind & body to just drop into relaxation until it was over, and just as easy to come back up. I attribute this to practice, practice, practice. I fell asleep to the tape almost every night. I don't think I heard the end of the tape more than 3 or 4 times. But when the time came, my body and mind were completely conditioned to fall in deep whenever I needed to.

It's going to be so awesome. Good luck to you.
post #6 of 8
Thread Starter 
Thanks so much for your replies! Did those of you that responded do the home study course or take the class? This is also something I've wondered: how do you stay relaxed (pain free or minimal pain) during pushing? Seems like that physical exertion would move you out of that deeply relaxed state. Thank you for your help!
post #7 of 8
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Originally posted by sharonal
Thanks so much for your replies! Did those of you that responded do the home study course or take the class? This is also something I've wondered: how do you stay relaxed (pain free or minimal pain) during pushing? Seems like that physical exertion would move you out of that deeply relaxed state. Thank you for your help!
I did take the class during my 1st preg. I am lucky enough to have a dear friend that is an instructor, so it was free. for the second and third pgs, I am just listening to the rainbow relaxation tape.

I was most definitely not relaxed during pushing, but between each push, I was completely relaxed. And I think the pushing was more of just letting go (of my mind) and allowing my body to do it's thing. So, in a way, I guess I was relaxed (mentally) during pushing.
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I took Marie Mongan's HypnoBirthing class (with an area instructor who was already a hypnotist) one month before my due date.

I practiced every single day up to the birth. I agree practice is the key.

Mongan says that her course was never meant to be a study-at-home course. Honestly, the book would have made little sense to me without the benefit of taking the class.

If you can't find a practioner near you, consider Hypnobabies.com - that site does offer a self-study that is more comprehensive and you can join a yahoo list with other women (and the founder) to talk to.

PUSHING

My painfree labor lasted 18 hours. At that point, I was so hungry and exhausted (it was like 6pm and I was up since the whole night) and DH didn't want to give me food because he was following hospital rules (idiot!)

We opted for Pitocin, thinking that was my only alternative over the C-section. "If she isn't pushing effectively, she'll end up with a C-sec." I completely forgot about natural nipple stimulation.

So for 2 hours, I was flat on my back, TOO EXHAUSTED TO SQUAT, still very relaxed, not feeling any pain from the Pit contractions. We kept the Pit at a low dose, so it wouldn't overwhelm me.

I was so exhausted, I couldn't even gather the energy to speak up and say "I want to squat, help me in a supported squat..."

I did the purple-face, cheerleading pushing because I was desperate to get my baby out and hated that he was getting hits of Pitocin.

So my experience is a little different... but I was still able to relax during this.

BTW, you can read my birth story in this thread:
Tell me more about HypnoBirthing
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