rant about my kid supposedly being too dependant - Page 3

[Amberoxy]

It's funny because doing it the AP way - snuggles all the time - letting them explore on their own when they want - just seems like common sense. How did the mainstream ideas ever get to be mainstream??? Just seems like more work and less fun...

[sweetpeppers]

good post, so true

[Swan3]

Ha! Tell that to my toddler, who today told me not to come into her room because she was busy reading! Had to share that one with my Mom who's been preaching the "she'll never be independent!" line....

[flower01]

Yes, it's definitely fun to see them gaining their independence, especially when so many accuse you of "babying."

My 22 MO tells me to "Walk." It's a command like, "okay, i want to be alone. please walk away." I think it's hilarious. And I think about all the times my family told me I was spoiling her & that I needed to just put her down and let her cry.

What makes me so frustrated is that I would never tell a mom pushing a baby in a stroller that she's neglecting her child or imply that she was making a poor parenting decision. But, for some reason when you want to hold your baby other people just can't keep their mouth shut and they have to tell you all the reasons why it's bad.

I love this forum because it's the only place I feel like I can let out these feelings with like-minded people.

Ya know, if my baby didn't cry her head off the first dozen times I tried pushing her in a stroller, I might have kept doing it. But, she seemed to prefer the sling. But, since she's learned to walk, she is most happy doing that. If I NEED her contained or we have to walk far I carry her in the Ergo, but most of the time she's happy to walk beside us and I'm not afraid to let her do that.

[elephantine]

I was exhausted with twins... I'll be having a singleton this time around, so I wonder if it will be different. Still, I'll have 2 three year olds *and* a baby and the older boys still sometimes try to run off. I wish I could let them roam more when we are out, but safety is my #1 concern. I can't go in two different directions and the baby will need to be secure. Mine never liked their stroller unless I kept it moving constantly, but I didn't have much choice. In a safe place, they got pretty much free roam, but at a store or business, the stroller was usually necessary.

I realize other moms posting on here have several kids that are young... but I just don't know how you do it. To be as AP as possible - baby in arms everywhere you go - I would think most just have the one baby to worry about.

Even so, i got plenty of "you're spoiling them"... probably because I wouldn't let them cry and didn't get a full nights sleep till they were 18 months old..

Anyway... it also took me months to recover from my c-sec and I still have back pain I attribute to the spinal they used... plus I suffered from extreme exhaustion and ppd... so the stroller was a life saver for me.

I'd really be interested to see a thread with 'out and about' AP tips for moms with 2, 3+ very little ones... b/c I don't see how you are doing it w/out either 1)help, 2)some kind of stroller or harness system...

liked the first post though...

[A_Random_Phrase]

Originally Posted by Swan3

Ha! Tell that to my toddler, who today told me not to come into her room because she was busy reading! Had to share that one with my Mom who's been preaching the "she'll never be independent!" line....

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When my oldest was not quite 2, I was cooking something. I had peeled a clove of garlic and put it aside. She quietly came up to me, picked up the garlic and bit into it. Apparently deciding it was not food fit to eat, she just as quietly put it into the garbage. I guess if they're jailed, they can't do that, can they?