H is leaving me

[Devaskyla]

Things have been rocky for a very long time & neither of us have been happy. Tbh, we've mainly stayed married because he thought he loved me & I didn't want to hurt him by leaving. Well, he finally realized what I've known for years, that he didn't really love me. He met someone online and they're apparently in love with each other.

As I told him, I would honestly be very happy for him. Big problem, though. Well, other than the obvious fact that I'm 37 weeks pregnant. This woman lives in h's home country, on the other side of the Atlantic. And he's planning on leaving sometime after the birth, whenever he gets a new passport. He's thinking of getting a residence card or citizenship so he can come back here if it doesn't work out so he can be around for the kids.

I don't really have much else to say. We've been talking about it for hours now...kind of worn out right now.

[laralee16]

Wow. I dont know what to say.

[Devaskyla]

Ty.

For me, I'm ok about it. I can't seem to stop crying for my kids, though. My boys are very attached to their daddy. He's been home pretty much 24/7 their whole lives. They get antsy, especially my youngest, when h goes out shopping for too long. I wish I could think of some way to protect them from this.

[vanessab23]

Oh no.....I can't even begin to imagine what that must feel like for you, for the kids, for the baby that is almost here. Oh gosh, mama-- be gentle with yourself and reach out for help as you feel you need it.

Hugs.....

[lila2801]

I'm so sorry I'm glad you guys can finally be open about this but the timing really sucks. Your poor kids and with a baby on the way. :

[liliaceae]

I'm so sorry mama.

[baileyandmikey]

Hugs mama.... so sorry you are going thru this right now!

[emamum]

big hugs mama

i promise that it does get easier, ds's "dad" left me when ds was 6 weeks old and we havent seen or heard from him since and my ex left the same day i told him i was pregnant (im now 36 weeks) and i havent seen him since

[fuzzypeach]

[birthangeldoula]

[Xiaguan]

s to you & the babies! It is always harder on the little ones~ I hope that the transition is not too terrible on your kids~

Melissa

[eewieew]

i don't really need to say much about my situation, since i've written about it all.the.time, but another just because i know how hard it is to be left at such a vulnerable time in one's life.

i have oodles of respect for the place from which you're approaching this. you seem very calm and willing to do whatever you need to with the intent of protecting your children. quite admirable, in my humble opinion.

what are your feelings on being a single mom? do you have adequate support around you to help out? please let us know if you need anything!!

[Conchobhar]

[Purple Sage]

[K&JsMaMa]

I don't know what to say, but didn't want to read w/o responding.

I'm sorry, mama.

[Multimomma]

Originally Posted by Devaskyla

As I told him, I would honestly be very happy for him. Big problem, though. Well, other than the obvious fact that I'm 37 weeks pregnant. This woman lives in h's home country, on the other side of the Atlantic. And he's planning on leaving sometime after the birth

You can be happy at the same time as being really upset. I hope you can honor all of those feelings inside you. I will pray for your peace and serenity, especially in this stressful time.

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[Goniopal]

So sorry to hear about this, especially the poor timing, and distance involved!

Just a thought: could this woman come closer to you? Not necessarily easier for you, but a way to keep dad closer for the kids . . .

I hope you can take care of yourself & rest from your stressful night last night.

~jenn

[nuwavemomma]

Man.

It's so much more complicated with a third party involved. I'm really sorry this has happened now during your pregnancy, that's got to be so hard. That said, my parents divorced last year after being married 40+ years and I have to say, I think it's probably better that it happens when the kids are little rather than grown. I did a lot of reading on this in the last year. Maybe pick up a copy of this?

Sending you peace and strength mama.

[mom2p.m.]

I am so sorry you are going through this right now. It would be hard anytime, but pregnancy hormones don't make things any easier. My DH recently left and said he didn't know when he would be back, so I can relate on some level. However there was not another person involved and DH has come back and we are trying to forgive and forget and rebuild. It was hard on the kids so my heart goes out to you.

As Jenny said I also admire your attitude towards it all. You sound like a very strong person. Do you have support near by? Please keep us posted.

[G&B'sMama]

I am so sorry, what a difficult thing to go through at any time, but really the timing couldn't be worse. Do you have friends and family who can step in and help you out?

Sending some love your way.