Originally Posted by mrscompgeek
Ok so I am starting to freak out about somethings. Not even the big things either! Lol.
-Peeing after birth. I have been reading birth stories and there is so many that say they had to be cath'd and stuff. What happens at a home birth? They dont cath you there do they?
-I am very private person and am worried Ill be self conscious during the birth of being half naked (im doing a water birth). Was this something you worried about? Will I be ok? I am planning to wear my bikini top (if it still fits these monsters!) and maybe a tshirt dont know yet.
-I really should be afraid of the pain but Im not. I mean there is the feeling in the back of my mind that says this is gonna hurt but for some reason its not bothering me? I used to get severe menstrual cramps that literally kept me in bed rolling with pain for a few hours. So I assume if I can make it through that the first part of labor wont be bad right? Transition that scares me a little, Im afraid i will be like I cant do it anymore. Does being in the water during transition really make it easier?
Peeing: I'm not sure why you would need a catheder after the birth. If you did, the midwives should have one and be able to insert it (I asked for one during labor because I felt like I wasn't able to pee, turned out not to be the necessary, but oh well). I had a slight tear after the birth and that made peeing really painful for a few days, but the midwives suggested squirting water from a sports bottle on myself while peeing. That helped a lot, but beware running out of water before you're done peeing! I've also read here about peeing while sitting in a bowl of water and also putting honey on a tear. You have a much lower chance of an episiotomy at a homebirth.
Nakedness: Yeah, you're very unlikely to care. Also, you would be just as naked in the hospital, except there would be more people, brighter lights, and you would likely be in a much more exposed position.
Transition/Pain: My labor was very very painful. I have since realized that it took me a few months to process the pain (mentally). That does not prevent me wanting to do it again. If great pain relief was available at home, I'd take it. But I'd rather be at home than have great pain relief. Transition is the worst, pp is right, it's usually pretty short. But honestly, I found it the easiest to deal with because I was in an altered zone of consciousness by that point (DH tells everyone I "wasn't there"). Time had no meaning. Neither did much of anything else.
Originally Posted by Huck
Hi everyone. I've been enjoying reading everyone's posts, but not getting around to saying much myself. I'm trying to figure out where to have our baby. Here's the situation, long story short... We had a homebirth planned for our first child. My water broke at 8 am on a Saturday and after 2 1/2 days at home, my midwife recommended a speedy hospital transport. I was already fully dilated, but I never had regular contractions and she was afraid for me to start pushing at home b/c we live 45 mins/1 hour from the hospital. So the emergency crew carried me in a stretcher across the ice and the bumpy ambulance ride helped me progress a little further and our beautiful son was born after 1 hour at the hospital (only had an IV to hydrate me and nipple stim!)
Needless to say, this was a rather tiring, stressful experience and my mom was SO upset that we didn't go to the hospital 24 hrs after water broke.
We interviewed a different midwife who lives in town and I really like her. So, should we try to have the baby at home or try to find somewhere in town so we're closer to the hospital just in case?? (There's a hotel with mineral water tubs that will let us have the baby in town.)
How far do y'all live from the hospital?
I'd say if you didn't end up actually needing the hospital the first time, why worry this time? Personally, though, I am only about 10 minutes from the hospital and that is a major factor in my comfort with a homebirth. It would be a really awful 10 minutes under certain circumstances, though. And I really really don't want to go to that hospital since my only experience with it is my father's death a year ago.