Originally Posted by firewoman
You have to have a certain number of posts before it will alow you to have more smilies. I think it is 50. So excited for your homebirth! I have had two in the water and I don't know what I would have done without that birthing pool!
ah ok, so ill have to post post post
Ok so after reading the entire thread, took forever, allow me to reintroduce my position in some more detail.
I have become entirely pro homebirth for about 6months now. DH is completely with me on this; particularly given his distrust for doctors - he's only taken antibiotics once in his life and rarely allows for a doctors visit. I also really dislike the hospital and the hospital atmosphere. The smell and the beeping instruments make me very nervous. I hate how the nurses are just running up and down the halls and have absolutely no time for anything. In the past 3 years, my various friends have had about 10 births that I have learned from. All of them were in the hospital, and every one of their experiences make me uncomfortable - and only two of them of the few who vowed for no epidurals were lucky enough to be able to stick it through.
I definitly do not want to spend the night in the hospital - I am a total neat freak and hateee using public bathrooms, and am not found of staying at hotels let alone hospitals.
In fact, once I had a bad case of repeatative sore throats for a couple years and all the docs wanted to stick a knife in my throat and cut out my tonsils, but I refused and found a natural cure in Manuka honey - which totally healed me. I had rather put up with the sore throats than go in for any kind of surgery or hospital visit.
I believe in natural cures, and the natural ability for a women's body to do it's thing. I pray no one has to experience an emergency visit to the hospital; and I don't really know how I will deal with it if it happens to me - God Forbid!
My other issue with staying in the hospital is the matter of privacy. I observe modesty and for religious reasons wear hejab. I really would not appreciate people coming in and out of my room at random and would be very paranoid about how to regulate keeping the men out of my room.
Plus, let those doctors or nurses try to stick me with needles and take my baby away from me, please I would be all over them - I know how to get my point across kwim. I just picture the hospital scene to be a very tense situation for me, so I don't even want to bother.
Solution: homebirth -
My first MW visit is next week at 8 weeks. I believe it will cost close to $3,000 here in Ohio. Our university insurance does not cover home birth, but they cover midwives as physicians and that includes home visits - so I wonder if we can fudge it a bit with the insurance and at least get some of the out-of-network coverage since this midwife organization charges monthly - and must be paid in full by like 34 or 38 weeks. They also barter, so I plan to ask them about that in case there is something we can exchange to reduce the cost. Otherwise, we are paying out of pocket and feel it is worth every penny.
I have done an immense amount of reading on this subject, even prior to getting pregnant and almost feel like I could become a midwife!
I have had such painful periods in the past (like mrscompgeek) that I just don't think labor pains can be all that much worse, so I am not that afraid. I plan to look into the hypnobirthing to help me through.
My pet peeve is when people find out that I advocate homebirthing they start telling me about how I could die and should accept that my baby would die. I get very annoyed, but remind myself how misinformed people are, then I bust out the statistics that show that a hospital birth is actually more dangerous than a homebirth, and it is at the hospital where you must accept the more dire consequences.
Happy to be here my fellow homebirthers