Need to vent/need suggestions - Page 3

[Breeder]

Sorry, but I DO think following Babywise makes you a bad parent.

I am ALL for different types of parents. My favorite quote in the world is, "There is no way to be a perfect mother, and a million ways to be a good one." (Jill Churchill)

But those methods cross the line in a major way.

I really hope that your SIL realizes that Ezzo is harmful before your poor little nephew is hurt.

ETA: this is not about putting the baby down to go to the bathroom and take a shower. Babywise instructs parents to hit their kids with objects.

[ilovefelix]

Originally Posted by Breeder

Sorry, but I DO think following Babywise makes you a bad parent.

I am ALL for different types of parents. My favorite quote in the world is, "There is no way to be a perfect mother, and a million ways to be a good one." (Jill Churchill)

But those methods cross the line in a major way.

I really hope that your SIL realizes that Ezzo is harmful before your poor little nephew is hurt.

ETA: this is not about putting the baby down to go to the bathroom and take a shower. Babywise instructs parents to hit their kids with objects.

Yes! Thanks. I'm trying to delete the post but don't know how. I don't know if I was really that bad about explaining myself or if some people just weren't reading everything. I also had my questions and concerns answered long ago. No sense in leaving it up just for people to misunderstand and make them angry!

[AnalogWife]

I just wanted to say that I'm sorry that you're getting the reaction that you are. Some of these responses make me double-check my address bar to make sure I'm still on MDC.

[meemee]

Originally Posted by ilovefelix

Certainly. She has no idea how I feel about her. Even feeling that way I wanted/want to do everything in my power to be there & help them out.

i have read your OP but found others had already said what i was going to say so i didnt post.

but this i have to answer to.

i just want you to know that you dont have to tell anyone how you feel. just by thinking how you think, you give them enough vibes thru body language and otherwise to pick up that attitude from you.

so my advice to you is if you want to help - its a tough tough tough road ahead for you.

the absolutely first step you have to do is stop seeing your SIL in the light that you see her. imagine her as a a mother who is trying to do the best job she can and that she is misguided. once you feel compassion for her - it creates an opening. your body stance softens, the way you look at her softens and she will pick up that you genuinely want to help HER - and not really teh baby. in helping the mother you will help the baby.

you have no idea how many miraculous 180 turnarounds i have seen just by changing our thoughts towards another person.