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post #101 of 602
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Yeah, that thread got out of control.

I just think that because of my ADD and because I'm really not a huge "baby stage" fan, I want to get the baby part over with. It's like a band-aid, you know? If I do a teeny bit at a time, my thoughts go like this:

"OMG, the band-aid is coming off. Lemmie just do a little... ok, that teeny part is done. Wait! I still have 7/8 of the band-aid to go! OMG. Ok, let's do a little more. OW! I hate this band-aid..." etc.

Whereas getting it over with all at once will be like "OMG, that HURT! Ok, it'll feel better in a minute..."



I agree about the milk drying up - that worries me. I just keep looking at Toby who is 9mo, climbing the stairs, climbing into everything he can, and starting to babble, and I start thinking WOW. He's going to be a HUGE handful from now on. He's already active and spirited, and I'm getting glimpses of how he'll be when he's a toddler. In my opinion, toddlers are harder to handle than babies, so if I can choose to have 2 babies as opposed to a toddler and a baby - that would be my choice.

*sigh*

I dunno. It's tough. Damned if you do and damned if you don't.

ETA: I'm at an advantage over you, Maggi, because Toby is GREAT with STTN. He's been sleeping for 6 hour stretches since 3 mos or so. Of course, that meant that I had ZERO birth control from bfing.... but hey, I'm not complaining.

I also teach kids from 2 years to high school every week, so I'm well-versed in the benefits and drawbacks of each stage. And I know, without a doubt, that I want my little ones done with before Toby turns 5.
post #102 of 602
Smee- you crack me up w/the band-aid thing! I'm glad we got preggo when we did. It's been my observation that 2 yo's deal wihth a new baby better than 3 or 4 yo's. but that's a daycare observation! I'm happy with the spacing right now. DS1 already entertains Milo, he watches him and LAUGHS!!! DS1 says,'look momma, him laughin' about me!' Also, it was very good that he is still napping, because that means I have a good chance of getting a rest myself midday.

That said, we'll be waiting awhile between Milo and the next set. Like, until Milo's potty trained, and can talk.

Maggirayne-can your friend get me some wool? There's a felting project I
d love to do for Easter, but I can never get wool in time! If I could get it dyed pastel colors too, that'd be great.

Well, yesterday I forgot my roast, but I did do laundry- training pants and diaper wraps.
I got s lot of reading done, and when my mom's helper came over, we got some tidying uop done, and she took Ds1 outside for a bit.

I didn't get vacuumed, but oh well. Oh, and I got about 30 minutes in on the ski machine, while Henry rode his rocking horse 'to the chiropractor because my back hurts!' Then he told me I needed to go to the chiropractor too, because my boobies hurt!

I got laundry done today, too, and that's about it, but Milo was up quitea bit last night,and I feel like crud, so I'm taking it easy. Oh, and DH and I fought this morning. . .:

Perfect way to start the day.
post #103 of 602
I had twins and then another one a year later (not planned) - and it was (and still is... and my twins turned 9 yesterday) COMPLETELY overwhelming to have 3 children at once... I don't recommend it...
post #104 of 602
I do not even want to attepmt to start anything today. I am too tired, even thinking about it.
post #105 of 602
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I do not even want to attepmt to start anything today. I am too tired, even thinking about it.
That was me yesterday. Today at least I managed to get the living room picked up and do a load of dishes and laundry. I also soaked the beans to make black bean soup...but just realized this minute typing this that i have no chicken broth with which to make the soup...hmmmm...I'll have to ask dh to pick some up, or check the shoppette myself I guess. d'oh! I forgot the refried beans to thicken it too. gaaah this preggo brain is getting so annoying! Each weak I miss several things on the grocery list.
post #106 of 602
My daughter and son are 4years and 4 months apart. I could not have managed kids any closer than that, it would have been much too stressful for me. I would have had a very difficult time having two small children so physically and emotionally dependent on me. It would have been disastrous.

So far apart in age they are a bit like two only children. The disadvantage is that because they're developmentally more different they probably aren't as good play mates as they could be. They aren't as close as I'd like. But being different sexes has a lot to do with that, as well. Dd confided she wished she had a little sister. But they do play together a lot, anyway.

The other disadvantage is that parenting will last just that much longer than if our kids were closer in age. Each time you have another child your parenting obligation starts over again with another 18 years. This is definitely bittersweet, the older I get.

For me the advantage of spreading them out a bit far outweighed the disadvantage. I simply could not handle parenting two small children (much less more than two!) close in age.

My adhd tendencies and mood disorder have everything to do with this.
post #107 of 602
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Originally Posted by smeisnotapirate View Post
I agree about the milk drying up - that worries me. I just keep looking at Toby who is 9mo, climbing the stairs, climbing into everything he can, and starting to babble, and I start thinking WOW. He's going to be a HUGE handful from now on. He's already active and spirited, and I'm getting glimpses of how he'll be when he's a toddler. In my opinion, toddlers are harder to handle than babies, so if I can choose to have 2 babies as opposed to a toddler and a baby - that would be my choice.

ETA: I'm at an advantage over you, Maggi, because Toby is GREAT with STTN. He's been sleeping for 6 hour stretches since 3 mos or so. Of course, that meant that I had ZERO birth control from bfing.... but hey, I'm not complaining.
And I know, without a doubt, that I want my little ones done with before Toby turns 5.
Hm, if that's so, try for having #2 when Toby is 2. How many do you want to have? What does you dr./MW recommend?

Have twins if you want two. I kinda wish we'd gotten twins first. I'm paranoid now.

Well, Elisabeth will be 25 months when we get this one, and I dunno, I'm not to worried, if that makes sense.

Eh, I was nursing every 3-4 hours at night and got AF at SIX weeks.

Yeah, she's been sleeping 9-1 or 2, wake/nurse, then every couple of hours from 3 on, or nursing a lot from 4-6--which that was tough. But once the milk dried up, she pretty quickly quit waking up when all she got was water. Last night she woke and asked to nurse, I gave her water, she drank a little and conked back out. Whimpered later and fell back asleep when I snuggled her. So it has been really easy. It was really cute the other day, she was talking about the baby nursing when he comes out (It's amazing how much she understands! She looked at a pic of a friend holding a baby on FB and said, "Baby come out mommy tummy." ) NEway, lol and talking about him nursing and said "Wisbef nurse too." I said yes, but "You can eat lots of things, and baby can only eat Mama's milk." I want to tandem, she is not ready to wean completely--but I'm a little leery of nursing her as much as I nurse the baby--which is what a lot of tandem moms say! I should warn DH. He was asking if I was going to make her nurse if she was weaned. Which she hadn't night-weaned or maybe was just starting to at that point. I was just like, uhh, I'm not going to force her to nurse. but thought *she ain't weaned yet!*

I am thinking I'll have to nurse/wear the baby and not sit down when I don't want to nurse her too, likely. So it might be easier if I don't get so rigid in my mind about tandeming. I should ask in BFing about setting limits, etc.

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I'm glad we got preggo when we did. It's been my observation that 2 yo's deal wihth a new baby better than 3 or 4 yo's. but that's a daycare observation! I'm happy with the spacing right now. DS1 already entertains Milo, he watches him and LAUGHS!!! DS1 says,'look momma, him laughin' about me!' Also, it was very good that he is still napping, because that means I have a good chance of getting a rest myself midday.

Maggirayne-can your friend get me some wool? There's a felting project I'd love to do for Easter, but I can never get wool in time! If I could get it dyed pastel colors too, that'd be great.

Well, yesterday I forgot my roast, but I did do laundry- training pants and diaper wraps.
I got s lot of reading done, and when my mom's helper came over, we got some tidying uop done, and she took Ds1 outside for a bit.

I didn't get vacuumed, but oh well. Oh, and I got about 30 minutes in on the ski machine, while Henry rode his rocking horse 'to the chiropractor because my back hurts!' Then he told me I needed to go to the chiropractor too, because my boobies hurt!

I got laundry done today, too, and that's about it, but Milo was up quitea bit last night,and I feel like crud, so I'm taking it easy. Oh, and DH and I fought this morning. . .:
Ugh, sorry the argument. That's rough.

Yay for mother's helper. I am going to see, I've got a friend whose daughter goes to middle school fairly close, I already mentioned to her mom about next school year, but they live a ways away, so maybe not the summer. But I need to bring it up to DH.

I have one word for your roast--crockpot.

Yeah, while naps are in vogue is good. I quit napping when my little bro came. E naps 30 min-1 hour. She did a couple of two hour naps last week. Sigh. Lovely. And a couple of 20-30 min naps. Ugh.

She's excited about the baby, and we have a friend who just had a baby in Jan, so she is getting to see them. Of course, not having my full attention may be the hard part. But even now, she's pretty content to sit next to me and colour/read at times. I think they aren't so conscious of being jealous at her age, maybe?

Chiro for achy boobies, eh? too cute!

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Originally Posted by flminivanmama View Post
I had twins and then another one a year later (not planned) - and it was (and still is... and my twins turned 9 yesterday) COMPLETELY overwhelming to have 3 children at once... I don't recommend it...
Yikes, yeah, if we had twins, I wouldn't to be pg now.

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I do not even want to attepmt to start anything today. I am too tired, even thinking about it.
Oh man, Tuesday I was sooo stinkin' crabby, I could not stand myself. Poor DH. He really is patient.
post #108 of 602
Oh duh, the wool, Heidi, I knew there was something else. I can send you some cleaned wool.

I'm not planning on dyeing until I've got it all washed, and uh, it's going to take probably until Easter to get that done. I've got a friend who tie dyes, and I'm planning on setting up in one of our garages.

I need to figure out how I can spin it out in my washer without it spraying water on it, have a FL.

So, if you can find carders, and I can email you a file about dyeing w/Kool-aid, etc. Yeah, for wool! How much do you want?

I have no idea how much wool projects take. Are you doing these Easter eggs?

I am borrowing carders from a spinning/knitting friend I met at knitting group at the library. Older gals love sharing. She's gonna loan me felting needles too! : Now to get this pile of wool to that point.
post #109 of 602
Yup, those are them! But we just used our hands, so no sushi mats needbe sacrificed in the process. And she used Seventh Gen. Dish soap, and it was wonderful! But I have to get it ready to do at least a week before Easter, because Iwant to get ladies a tthe church to sign up, and we'll all do it together. It's gonna be so much fun! I have no idea how much I'll need. . .

BTW- what's happened with Elizabeth is just exactly what happened with Henry, no milk, no need to be awake! (he still has issues, but they're getting better)


Can I just say. . .I'm gonna be a SAHM again!!! : : : : : : :

The grandma who was caring for the tiny guy can;t watch him after the end of March, and there's no way I could do 5 days again, no. possible. way. So I found out last night, she toldthe mom this morning,and by the end of the day she had found a place for him! Not just any place, either, at the place she really wanted him from the beginning!



I totally crock-potted that roast! and it was so good! It totallyblew away the sad side dishes I could comeup wih to put with it, a box of instant mashed potatoes, and a salad, but DH pronounced everything delicious and had three helpings!


Yeah, not so much on the twins for me either, but if it happens,I'm sure it'll be easier than taking care of one of mine, and one that's not mine the same age.

I need to get coaught up on my school work again, but it'll be OK, I think. I just need to get Milo to sleep so I can get something done- rather than fooliong around on facebook, and MDC for 40 mins. . .sigh...

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post #110 of 602
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Originally Posted by heidirk View Post
But I have to get it ready to do at least a week before Easter, because Iwant to get ladies a tthe church to sign up, and we'll all do it together. It's gonna be so much fun! I have no idea how much I'll need. . .

Can I just say. . .I'm gonna be a SAHM again!!! : : : : : : :

I just need to get Milo to sleep so I can get something done- rather than fooliong around on facebook, and MDC for 40 mins. . .sigh...
Yay for getting to be a SAHM again!

Ooh, good supper.

Places to buy roving
http://mothering.com/discussions/sho...d.php?t=254647

www.artfelt.com

Tons on Etsy.
post #111 of 602
I want roving wool? huh. Thanks!
post #112 of 602
Yep, wool roving. It's carded and dyed and ready to go.
post #113 of 602
yay Heidi that's great!!!:
post #114 of 602
we weren't ablet o have our yard sale cuz it's been raining non stop since friday morning. So we're boxing it all up and taking it to goodwill...I want it out of the house before we move.

gonna actually start packing today!
post #115 of 602
mamabohl- did you get it done? I hope you made good progress today!

yrgh.....week 4 of a six week class. I don't think i'll make it. : I'm gonna find a hole to crawl into and hide for about 2months. I hate this time of year.
post #116 of 602
Thread Starter 
OMG, looks like we're moving too. I'm freaking out over here - not so much about the moving, but more about having to stage the house for selling while still living in it. :
post #117 of 602
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you're moving? but you can't move- I actually know how to get to your house! :

It's called rent a storage unit- that's the only way we'd be able to do it!
post #118 of 602
Ooohhhhhh. . .what about moving up my way?
post #119 of 602
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Heidi.

We're actually looking to move to Conestoga. Here are some pics of the crap-shack that may soon be ours! We'll only be a little bit further than we are now, and you can take 441 - which is a much nicer drive than 283. We'll have access to the Conestoga River Park and the Community pool is right down the street, and we'll have over an acre of land where we'll have chickens and a garden and maybe a couple goats. It'll be awesome. Homeschool heaven.

If we can make the house not be a crap-shack, that is. It needs some serious cosmetic love, but we had it inspected and nothing is structurally wrong with the house. The seller is fixing the roof and all the non-cosmetic problems for us. And how cool would it be to celebrate a house's bicentennial?? It was built in 1831, so we'll definitely be in the house (G-d willing), as this will be our "forever" move.

Keith has a dream of turning it into a B&B once the kid(s) are out of the house.

Can you tell we're in love? :
post #120 of 602
I have always wanted to keep chicken and goats!
I think you'll have a blast!


OK, so Eli's momma decided to put him into his new day care as of this week. : Which is good because I have a breast infection.

Now maybe I can get some schoolwork done! :
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